Shattered

 When a secure person breaks up with

you, it's clear. There's closure and you

know what's happening.

When an avoidant breaks up with you,

it's unclear, vague, and full of silence.

Both breakups hurt, but one leaves you

grounded. The other leaves you

shattered.

Secure people handle endings with clarity because they can face emotional discomfort directly.

They value honesty and closure, even when it's painful.

Their communication stays consistent, and their actions match their words.

Avoidant people, on the other hand, often disconnect to protect themselves from emotional intensity.

When the relationship ends, they withdraw rather then explain.

It's not that they plan to be unclear, it's that emotional confrontation feels overwhelming, so they

leave space, silence, or mixed messages instead.

That's why breakups with avoidant partners feel confusing and incomplete.

You're left trying to make sense of something they were too shut down to articulate.

~Dean Blankfield