Friday, January 29, 2021

PTSD

 PTSD Symptoms

  • Nightmares
  • Guilt
  • Poor Judgment
  • Intrusive Memories
  • Poor Memory
  • Survivor Guilt
  • Flashbacks
  • Startle reflex
  • Hypervigilance
  • Irritability
  • Anger and rage
  • Self-destructive
  • Lack of feelings
  • Insomnia
  • Poor concentration
  • Hopelessness
  • Poor self-esteem
  • Negative self-image
  • Apathy
  • Mistrust
  • Isolation
  • Avoidance
  • Excessive blame
  • Dissociation
Not all wounds are visible~

God decides

by Toby Mac

And everybody gave up
and said "It's all over."
And then along came 
David with his sling.

God decides when it's over.

True soulmate

I think the sign of a true soulmate 
isn't someone you just want to do the super cool stuff with. A real soulmate is the person who makes any ordinary day fun. Some people make all these huge plans to do with their special someone, forget that. Find someone who you can take grocery shopping and still have a blast with. Find someone who makes you look forward to waking up on Monday.

The difference

by Kira J

You have to learn the difference between someone disrespecting you vs. you feeling disrespected. Emotional ears hear from a place of offense. Sometimes it's not what they said, it's what YOU are triggered by. And unless you know your triggers, you'll see everything as an attack. 

Thursday, January 28, 2021

Look again

 from 3 am Thoughts

If everything around you seems dark, look again.
You may be the light.

Tuesday, January 26, 2021

College quotes

 from "Old Collection"

This is a packet put together by the Graduate Advisor of the Union Activities Board (UAB) at MSU. The packet cover letter is dated November 10, 1992.

Page One: Senior Class Council - May 16, 1988
Good and Getting Better
Everyday is an opportunity - an occasion to celebrate you being happy and healthy and hopeful.
Life is the most important thing we have.
We must not lose track of that.
It is governed by time - and the times of our lives are meant to be fulfilling and rewarding.
We can help that belief to become a beautiful reality, or we can stand defiantly in its way and be unhappy.
That choice is ours to make.
Our lives will either be short or long.
We cannot choose the distance.
But we can decide how to travel along the way.
Let us walk the way with our friends and our family;
Let us run to the arms of our love.
Let us blend together dedication and desire; discovering always new things about ourselves and new ways to see the world in a positive light.

If we can do that, then this dream can be fulfilled...believing in ourselves, and knowing that every day for the rest of our lives that we're better than we were...
but we're getting better still.

The old will change and become the new.
The past we wish to leave behind is left behind;
that which we choose to take with us on our journey is gently folded and placed in our spiritual suitcase and taken along beside us as precious memories.

Page Two
Life's greatest lesson is to accept the bad and good
In a question period following a lecture, one of the college students in the audience asked, "What is the most important lesson you've learned in life?"

I had no hesitancy in replying, "How to accept ambiguity and live with it."

What I meant was learning how not to be frozen into one attitude toward events that happen in the world, to myself or to others.

Human life is many things, both wonderful and terrible. It is a mixed fabric of good and evil, happiness and horror, matters we can control to some degree and matters beyond our control.

We can do much, but not all; the task is to do as much as we can, and to accept what comes after that - to acknowledge both the efforts of free will, and the ultimate decisions of fate.

Ambiguity is the very essence of human existence. Almost nobody is loved as much as he or she would like to be; nobody succeeds in every area of life, just as nearly as nobody fails in every area. We cannot change the cards we were dealt; we can only play the hand to the best. People who cannot or will not accept ambiguity in the human condition are the most miserable and disappointed of all. They are either swimming upstream or sinking, drowning, when they can float.

Most people today fail to recognize that happiness is a fairly recent aspiration of the human race. For most of history, survival was the goal - coping, making do, struggling against the caprices of natural disasters, and the blows of social and economic injustice.

The acceptance of ambiguity implies more than the commonplace understanding that some good things and some bad things happen to us. It means that we know that good and evil are inextricably intermixed in human affairs; that they contain, and sometimes embrace, their opposites; that success may involve failure of a different kind, and failure may be a kind of triumph.

"The test of a first-rate intelligence," wrote F. Scott Fitzgerald, "is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still function." Few temperaments, much less minds, are able to do this. We must learn to extract the sweet and endure the bitter, often from the same potion.

It is the basic ambiguity of life that prompted Aristotle to say that no man can know whether he is happy or not until it is time for him to die. (Side note: I don't agree with this ending line-sorry, Aristotle)

Page Three
The Secret of Success
To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the respect of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a little better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived...THIS IS TO HAVE SUCCEEDED!

Page Four
If I Had My Life To Live Over...
Someone asked me the other day, if I had my life to live over, would I change anything? "No," I answered. Then I began to think...

If I had my life to live over, I would have talked less and listened more. I would have invited friends over to dinner even though the carpet was stained and the sofa was faded I would have eaten popcorn in the "good" living room and worried less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace. I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage. I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television - and done more of it while watching life. I would have shared more of the responsibilities carried by my wife. I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of worrying that the Earth would go into a holding pattern if I missed work for one day. I would never buy anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime. There would have been more, "I love you," more "I am sorry"...But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every moment, look at it and really see it and live it - and never give it back.  ~Anonymous

Page Five
A Guide to a Happy Life
No one will ever get out of this world alive. Resolve therefore to maintain a reasonable sense of values.

Take care of yourself. Good health is everyone's major source of wealth. Without it, happiness is almost impossible.

Resolve to be cheerful and helpful. People will repay you in kind.

Avoid angry, abrasive persons. They are generally vengeful.

Avoid zealots. They are generally humorless.

Resolve to listen more and to talk less. No one ever learns anything by talking.

Be chary of giving advice. Wise men don't need it and fools won't heed it.

Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the wrong. Sometimes in life you will have been all of these.

Do not equate money with success. There are many successful moneymakers who are miserable failures as human beings. What counts most about success is how a person achieves it.
~Lloyd Shearer, 1989

Fast-track

 from "Old Collection"

(I typed this at the time on an actual typewriter)

Fast-Track Fundamentals

Keep track of what you do; someone is sure to ask.

Be comfortable around senior managers, or learn to fake it.

Never bring your boss a problem without some solution. You are getting paid to think, not to whine.

Long hours don't mean anything; results count, not effort.

Write down ideas; they get lost, like good pens.

Always arrive at work 30 minutes before your boss.

Be sure to sit at the conference table - never by the wall.

Help other people network for jobs. What goes around comes around.

Don't take sick days - unless you are.

Assume no one can/will keep a secret.

Know when you do your best - morning, night, under pressure, relaxed; schedule and prioritize your work accordingly.

Treat everyone in the organization with respect and dignity, whether it be the janitor or the president. Don't ever be patronizing.

Never appear stressed in front of a client, a customer or your boss. Take a deep breath and ask yourself: in the course of human events, how important is this?

Recognizing someone else's contribution will repay you doubly.

Career planning is an oxymoron. The most exciting opportunities tend to be unplanned.

The size of your office is not as important as the size of your paycheck.

Understand what finished work looks like and deliver your work only when it is finished.

The person who spends all of his or her time at work is not hard-working; he or she is boring.

Never confuse a memo with reality. Most memos from the top are political fantasy.

Reorganization means that someone will lose his or her job. Get on the task force that will make the recommendation.

Job security does not exist.

Go to the company holiday party.

Don't get drunk at the company holiday party.

Avoid working on the weekends. Work longer during the week if you have to.

The most successful people in business are interesting.

Sometimes you'll be on a roll and everything will click; take maximum advantage.
When the opposite is true, hold steady and wait it out.

Never in your life say, "It's not my job."

Be loyal to your career, your interests, yourself.

Understand the skills and abilities that set you apart. Whenever you have the opportunity, use them.

People remember the end of a project. As they say in boxing, "Always finish stronger than you start."

Thursday, January 21, 2021

Graduation quotes packet

 from "Old Collection"

Had this packet of quotes for graduation. Not sure if a teacher put it together or what.

"Education is a companion which no misfortune can depress, no crime can destroy, no enemy can alienate, no despot can enslave. At home, a friend, abroad, an introduction, in solitude a solace and in society an ornament. It chastens vice, it guides virtue, it gives at once grace and government to genius. Without it what is man? A splendid slave, a reasoning savage."  ~Addison

"Grow or die!"  ~George Land

"The best intelligence test is what we do with out leisure."  ~Dr. Laurence J. Peter

"The brighter you are, the more you have to learn."  ~Don Herold

"Wise men learn by others' mistakes; fools by their own."  ~H.G. Bohn

"Hate is not the opposite of love; apathy is."  ~Rollo May

"Being bored is an insult to oneself."  ~Jules Renard

"Time is the most valuable thing a man can spend."  ~Diogenes

"What we obtain too cheaply, we esteem too lightly."  ~Thomas Paine

"Whoso neglects learning in his youth loses the past and is dead to the future." ~Euripedes

"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it."  ~Geo. Santayana

"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Master calls a butterfly."  ~Richard Bach

"You learn as much by writing as you do by reading."  ~Eric Hoffer

"The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them."
~Twain

"If the book we are reading does not wake us, as with a fist hammering on our skull, why then do we read it? Good God, we would also be happy if we had no books, and such books as make us happy we could, if need be, write ourselves. But what we must have are those books which come upon us like ill fortune and distress us deeply like the death of one we love better than ourselves, like suicide. A book must be an ice axe to break the sea frozen inside of us."  ~Kafka

"Sundays too my father got up early
And put his clothes on in the blueblack cold,
Then with cracked hands that ached
From labor in the weekday weather made
Banked fires blaze. No one ever thanked him.

I'd wake and hear the cold splintering, breaking.
When the rooms were warm, he'd call;
Then slowly I would rise and dress
Fearing the chronic angers of that house.

Speaking indifferently to him
who had driven out the cold
And polished my good shoes as well.
What did I know, what did I know
Of love's austere and lonely offices?"  ~Robert Hayden

"One must study to know; know to understand; understand to judge." ~Apothegm of Navada

"This world us a comedy to those who think, a tragedy to those who feel."  ~Horace Walpole

"Rather than love, than money, than fame; give me truth."  ~Thoreau

"There must be a happy medium somewhere between being totally informed and blissfully ignorant."  
~Doug Larson

"...a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma."  ~Churchill

"Education is what is left when the facts are forgotten."  ~John Dewey

"A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices."
~Wm. James

"You drew a circle that shut me out,
Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout
But love and I had wit to win
We drew a circle and took you in."  ~Edwin Markham

"Civility is not a sign of weakness, and sincerity is subject to proof."  ~JFK

"We should wear our velvet next to our skin - that is, we should be the most amiable and agreeable to those of our own family."  ~Joubert

"When you turn the corner
And run into yourself
Then you know that you have turned
All that corners that are left."  ~Langston Hughes

"Don't talk unless you can improve the silence."  ~Vermont Proverb

"A rut is a grave with the ends knocked out."  ~Laurence Peter

"Socrates gave no diplomas or degrees, and would have subjected any disciple who demanded on to a disconcerting, catechism on the nature of true knowledge."  ~G.M. Trevelyan

"To be able to fill leisure intelligently is the last product of civilization."  ~Toynbee

"The measure of a man's character is what he would do if he knew he never would be found out."
~Thomas Macaulay

"I quote others only the better to express myself."  ~Montaigne

"The wayfarer,
Perceiving the pathway to truth;
Was struck with astonishment.
It was thickly grown with weeds.
'Ha,' he said,
'I see that none has passed here 
In a long time.'
Later he saw that each weed
Was a singular knife.
'Well,' he mumbled at last,
'Doubtless there are other roads.'" ~Stephen Crane

"Politeness acts as a guard over the rough edges of our character."  ~Joubert

"If we cannot now end our differences, at least we can help make the world safe for diversity."  ~JFK

"Every man has a right to be wrong in his opinions, but no man has a right to be wrong in his facts."  ~Bernard Baruch

"Insist on yourself. Never imitate."  ~Emerson

"I am not like anyone I have ever seen; I dare believe that I am not made like anyone in existence. If I am not better, at least I am different."  ~Rousseau

"I am a part of all I have read."  ~John Kieran

"Bravery is being the only one who knows you're afraid."  ~Franklin P. Jones

"Some demonstrated courage through their unyielding devotion to absolute principle. Others demonstrated courage through their acceptance of compromise, through their advocacy of conciliation, through their willingness to replace conflict with cooperation."  ~JFK

"Extremism in the defence of liberty is no vice; moderation in the pursuit of justice is no virtue." ~Barry Goldwater

"Who am I to scorn or despise or be cruel to the least and meanest beings, when that being may be a hero unclaimed, and I, like others, too blind to see radiance."  ~Gary Jennings

"Ideals are like stars. You will not succeed in touching them with your hands; but like seafaring man, if you choose them as your guides and follow them, you will reach your destiny."  ~Carl Schurz

"The higher we are placed, the more humbly we should walk."  ~Cicero

"Truly great men and women are never terrifying. Their humility puts you at ease. If a very important person frightens you, he is not great; he only thinks he is."  ~Elizabeth Goudge

"All that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing."  ~Edmund Burke

"Be not simply good - be good for something."  ~Thoreau

"Kind words prevent a good deal of that perverseness which rough and imperious usage often produces in generous minds." ~Locke

"I am a part of all that I have met, 
Yet all experience is an arch where thro'
Gleams that untraveled world whose margin fades
Forever and forever when I move."  ~Tennyson

"The real generosity to the future is in giving one's everything to the present."  ~Camus

"What a man can be, he must be."  ~Abraham Maslow

"Lord, grant that I may always desire more than I can accomplish." ~Michelangelo

"You are either part of the solution or part of the problem."  ~Eldridge Cleaver

"I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it."  ~Truman

"Good order is the foundation of all good things."  ~Edmund Burke

"One can acquire everything in solitude except character."  ~Heraclitus

"I have never been poor, only broke.
Being poor is a frame of mind;
Being broke is only a temporary situation."  ~Mike Todd

"It is not wealth nor ancestry, but honorable conduct and a noble disposition that make men great."
~Ovid

"No one worth possessing can be quite possessed."  ~Sara Teasdale

"Let character be formed by poetry, established by the laws of right behavior and perfected by music."  ~Confucius

"To sin by silence when they should protest makes cowards of men."  ~Lincoln

"Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which in prosperous circumstances would have lain dormant."  ~Horace

"Write nothing, say nothing, think nothing which you do not believe is true before God." ~Joubert

"It is not who is right, but what is right that is important."  ~Thomas Huxley

"Where no hope is left, is left no fear."  ~Milton

"The bravest are surely those who have the clearest vision of what is before them, glory and danger alike, and yet go out to meet it."  ~Thucydides

"Men are not great or heroic because they are faultless. They are great and heroic because they dare suffer and achieve and serve."  ~Hamilton Mable

"Show me the man you honor. I know by that symptom better than any other what kind of man you are. For you show me there what your ideal of manhood is, what kind of a man you long inexpressibly to be."  ~Thomas Carlyle

"Be courteous to all but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation."  ~Geo. Washington

"Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person. 
Having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out just as they are
Chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them
Keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away." ~Craik

"Under capitalism man exploits man; under socialism the reverse is true."  ~Polish proverb

"If the people in inferior positions do not have confidence in those above them, government of the people is an impossibility."  ~Confucius

"In a democracy agreement is not essential, participation is."  ~Gene Brown

"A diplomat is a person who can tell you to go to hell in such a way that you actually look forward to the trip." ~Caskie Stinnett

"The greatest evidence of demoralization is the respect paid to wealth."  ~Georges Sand

"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything."  ~Twain

"A lie cannot endure forever."  ~Carlyle

"I am alone with the beating of my heart."  ~Lui Chi

"Use, do not abuse; neither abstinence nor excess ever renders man happy."  ~Voltaire

"I shall pass through this world but once.
If, therefore, there be any kindness
I can show or any good thing
I can do, let me do it now,
For I shall not pass this way again."  ~Etienne de Grellet

"As an old man walked the beach at dawn, he noticed a young man ahead of him picking up starfish and flinging them into the sea. Finally catching up with the youth, he asked him why he was doing this. the answer was that the stranded starfish would die if left until the morning sun. 'But the beach goes on for miles, and there are millions of starfish,' countered the other. 'How can your effort make any difference?' The young man looked at the starfish in his hand and then threw it to the safety in the waves. 'It makes a difference to this one,' he said."  ~Anonymous

"The loss of illusions is the death of the soul."  ~Chamfort

"The world either breaks or hardens the heart."  ~Chamfort

"My candle's burning at both ends,
It may not last the night,
But, oh, my foes, and oh, my friend,
It sheds such wondrous light."  ~Edna St. Vincent Millay

"The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone."  ~Harriet B. Stowe

"That man is a success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much; who has gained the respect of intelligent men and the love of children; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who leaves the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem or a rescued soul; who never lacked appreciation of earth's beauty or failed to express it; who looked for the best in others and gave the best he had."  ~R.L. Stevenson

"Make it a point to do something every that you don't want to do."  ~Twain

"The mind is restless, turbulent, strong and unyielding...as difficult to subdue as the wind."  ~Bhagavad-Gita

"There is no foe so deadly to truth as complete intellectual assurance. Uncertainty is the prerequisite to gaining knowledge and frequently the result as well."  ~Edith Hamilton

"You can't reach old age by another man's road. My habits protect my life, but they'd probably assassinate you. You have to make up your own rules and then stick to that. That's not as easy as it sounds. There's bound to be somebody trying to reform you. But don't let them! If you can't make seventy by a comfortable route, don't go."  ~Mark Twain

"In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter and the sharing of pleasure, for in the dew of little things the heart find its morning and is refreshed."  ~Gibran

"One does not make friends; one recognizes them."  ~Garth Henricks

"The heresy of one age becomes the orthodoxy of the next."  ~Helen Keller

"Mercy is not what every criminal is entitled to. What he is entitled to is justice."  ~Lord Haisham

"Our task is not to fix the blame for the past, but to fix the course for the future."  ~JFK

"When I can look life in the eyes,
Grown calm and very coldly wise.
Life will have given me truth
And taken in exchange - my youth."  ~Sara Teasdale

"When asked on her deathbed if she had the answer, Gertrude Stein answered, 'What is the question?'"

"Something of home that is not home is found in the home of a friend."  ~Sir Wm. Temple

"Pleasantest of all ties is the tie of host and guest."  ~Aeschylus

"Your being has caused
an indelible line
through the crimson shadows 
of my past;
Over the silent
white and blue days;
Into,
Merging,
And finally blending
with the deep dark quiet
mountains
of my life."  
~Donna Whitewing

"This book has extended to a greater length than I expected or desired. But the reader or hearer who finds pleasure in it will not think it long."  ~St. Augustine










Wednesday, January 20, 2021

Dear me

 from 3 am Thoughts

Dear me,
I am sorry.

I'm sorry that you tried so desperately to fix others, when your own hands were shaking.

I'm sorry that I didn't give you enough time to heal, that I let you seal the wounds of everyone else whilst your own were bleeding.

I'm sorry that there were days when smiling hurt but you forced yourself to laugh so that no one had to worry about you.

I'm sorry that you gave all of your time and effort to people that didn't give the same amount back.

I'm sorry that there were nights when you cried yourself to sleep and no one bothered to understand why.

And I am so sorry that I did not love you, like you so deserved to be loved.

Letter to myself.

Typed verses

 from "Old Collection"

Found these different verses typed on a few pieces of paper

"Delight yourself in God,
yes, find you joy in him at all times.
Don't worry over anything whatever,
tell God every detail of your needs
in earnest and thankful prayer,
and the peace of God
which transcends human understanding,
will keep constant guard over your
hearts and minds
as they rest in Christ Jesus."   ~Philippians 4:4-7

"Be joyful always; pray continually;
give thanks in all circumstances,
for this is God's will for you
in Christ Jesus."  ~1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

"Do not grieve,
for the joy of the Lord
is your strength."  ~Nehemian 8:10

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers,
whenever you face trials of many kinds,
because you know that the testing of your faith
develops perseverance.
Perseverance must finish its work
so that you may be mature and complete,
not lacking anything."  ~James 1:2-4

"So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do,
do it all for the glory of God."  ~1 Corinthians 10:31

"Everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world? Only he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God."
~1 John 5:4,5

(Not a verse):
Tell God you choose to clean up your eating habits, ask forgiveness for past indulgences, admit that you won't accomplish anything alone. Let Him take 100% charge.

"No one who lives in Him (God) keeps on sinning."  ~1 John 3:6

"I am the real vine, and my father is the gardener." ~John 15:1

"Remain united to me and I will remain united to you...Whoever remains in me, and I in him, will bear much fruit, for you can do nothing without me."  ~John 15:4,5

"I can do everything through him who gives me strength."  ~Philippians 4:13

Every temptation: "I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you." ~Psalm 119:11


I've learned

 from "Old Collection"

I've learned-
   that you cannot make someone love you.
   All you can do is be someone who can be
   loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned-
   that no matter how much I care,
   some people just don't care back.

I've learned-
   that it takes years to build up trust,
   and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned-
   that it's not what you have in your life
   but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned-
   that you can get by on charm for about
   fifteen minutes.
   After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned-
   that you shouldn't compare
   yourself to the best others can do.

I've learned-
   that you can do something in an instant
   that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned-
   that it's taking me a long time
   to become the person I want to be.

I've learned-
   that you can keep going
   long after you can't.

I've learned-
  that we are responsible for what we do,
  no matter how we feel.

I've learned-
   that either you control your attitude
   or it controls you.

I've learned-
   that regardless of how hot and steamy
   a relationship is at first, the passion
   fades and there had better be something
   else to take its place.

I've learned-
   that heroes are the people
   who do what has to be done
   when it needs to be done,
   regardless of the consequences.

I've learned-
   that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned-
   that my best friend and I can do anything
   or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned-
   that sometimes the people you expect
   to kick you when you're down
   will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned-
   that sometimes when I'm angry
   I have the right to be angry,
   but that doesn't give me 
   the right to be cruel.

I've learned-
   that true friendship continues to grow,
   even over the longest distance.
   Same goes for true love.

I've learned-
   that just because someone doesn't love
   you the way you want them to
   doesn't mean they don't love you with
   all they have.

I've learned-
   that maturity has more to do with
   what types of experiences you've had
   and what you've learned from them
   and less to do with how many
   birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned-
   that you should never tell a child
   their dreams are unlikely or outlandish.
   Few things are more humiliating, and what
   a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I've learned-
   that your family won't always be there for
   you.
   It may seem funny, but people you aren't
   related to you can take care of you and love
   you and teach you to trust people again.
   Families aren't biological.

I've learned-
   that no matter how good a friend is,
   they're going to hurt you every once in a 
   while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned-
   that it isn't always enough to be forgiven
   by others.
   Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned-
   that no matter how bad your heart is
   broken
   the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned-
   that our background and circumstances
   may have influenced who we are,
   but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned-
   that just because two people argue,
   it doesn't mean they don't love each 
   other
   And just because they don't argue,
   it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned-
   that we don't have to change friends
   if we understand that friends change.

I've learned-
   that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a
   secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned-
   that two people can look at the exact same
   thing and see something totally different.

I've learned-
   that no matter how you try to protect your
   children, they will eventually get hurt and
   you will hurt in the process.

I've learned-
   that your life can be changed in a matter of
   hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned-
   that even when you think you have no more
   to give, when a friend cries out to you,
   you will find the strength to help.

I've learned-
   that credentials on the wall
   do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned-
   that the people you care about most in life
   are taken from you too soon.

I've learned-
   that it's hard to determine where to draw
   the line between being nice
   and not hurting people's feelings
   and standing up for what you believe.

I've learned-
   that you should always leave loved ones
   with loving words. It may be the last 
   time you see them.


Best of both worlds

 from "Old Collection"

(I had this written out and taped to my wall of my room at college I remember)

As children,
   we experience every flower,
   every rainbow and every butterfly in flight
   as a miracle...
   a gift that keeps its magic and beauty
   long after time has made it familiar.
Then something happens along the way
   and we lose that innocence,
   that sense of excitement.
It is as though something very special
   silently slips away
   when we come to the end
   of our childhood journey
   to enter the world of adults...
And yet, if we would keep those qualities
   and allow the child within us
   to share in all the experiences 
   that being grown up brings,
   if we would listen
   as the child within us
   inspires us, guides and delights us,
   every joy would shine
   with beautiful intensity
   every experience would offer
   memories to savor...
   and we would have 
   the very best of both worlds.

After a while

 from "Old Collection"

After a while
   you learn the subtle difference between 
   holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn
   that love doesn't mean leaning and
   company doesn't mean security,
And you begin
   to learn that kisses aren't contracts and
   presents aren't promises,
And you begin
   to accept your defeats with your head up and
   your eyes open, with the grace of an adult,
   not the grief of a child,
And you learn
   to build all your roads on today because
   tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans.
After a while
   you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So plant your own garden
   and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting 
   for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn
   that you really can endure...
   that you really are strong,
   and you really do have worth.

Dream big

 from "Old Collection"

(This seems like it's from one of my graduation cards)

If there was ever a time to dare,
to make a difference,
to embark on something worth doing,
It is now.
Not for any grand cause, necessarily -
but for something that tugs at your heart,
something that's your aspiration
something that's your dream.

You owe it to yourself
to make your days here count.
Have fun.
Dig deep.
Stretch.

Dream big.

Know, though, that things worth doing
seldom come easy.
There will be good days,
And there will be bad days.
There will be times when you want to turn around,
pack it up,
and call it quits.
These times tell you
that you are pushing yourself,
that you are not afraid to learn by trying.

Persist.

Because with an idea,
determination,
and the right tools,
you can do great things.
Let your instincts,
your intellect,
and your heart
guide you.

Trust.

Believe in the incredible power of the human mind.
Of doing something that makes a difference.
Of working hard.
Of laughing and hoping.
Of lazy afternoons.
Of lasting friends.
Of all the things that will cross your path this year.

The start of something new
brings the hope of something great.
Anything is possible.
There is only one you.
And you will pass this way only once.
Do it right.

Dream big.

Leave

 from 3 am Thoughts

Life lesson:
When there are more tears than smiles, leave.
When there are more fights than jokes, leave.
When it hurts more than it feels good, leave.
They don't have the right to destroy you just because you love them.
And loving them doesn't mean you have to stay.

Dear and loving

 from "Old Collection"

(I'm pretty sure I had this before I was even married or even met anyone)

To my Dear and Loving Husband

If ever two were one, then surely we.
If ever man were loved by wife, then thee.
If ever wife was happy in a man,
Compare with me, ye women, if you can.
I prize thy love more than whole mines of gold,
Or all the riches that the East doth hold.
My love is such that rivers cannot quench,
Nor ought but love from thee, give recompence.
Thy love is such I can in no way repay;
The heavens reward thee manifold, I pray.
That while we live, in love let's so perserver,
That when we live no more, we may live ever.

~Anne Bradstreet, Colonial Women

Language

 from "Old Collection"

by Robert MacNeil:
It fascinates me how differently we all speak in different circumstances. There are very formal occasions, often requiring written English: the job application or the letter to the editor - the dark-suit, serious-tie language, with everything pressed and the lint brushed off. There is our less formal out-in-the-world language - a more comfortable suit, but still respectable. There is language for close friends on weekends - blue-jeans and sweat-shirt language. There is family language, even more relaxed, full of grammatical shortcuts, family slang, echoes of old jokes that have become ultimate shorthand - the language of pajamas and uncombed hair. Finally, there is the language with no clothes on, the talk of couples - murmurs, sighs - open and vulnerable language, at its least self-conscious.

Tuesday, January 19, 2021

Failure

 from "Old Collection"

Don't Be Afraid to Fail

You've failed many times, although you don't remember.

You fell down the first time you tried to walk.

You almost drowned the first time you tried to swim.

Did you hit the ball the first time you swung a bat?

Heavy hitters, the ones who hit the most homeruns, also strike out a lot.

R.H. Macy failed seven times before his store in New York caught on.

English novelist John Creasey got 753 rejection slips before he published 564 books.

Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times but he also hit 714 homeruns.

Don't worry about failure.

Worry about the chances you miss when you don't even try.

Forgive

 from "Old Collection"

Decide to Forgive

Decide to forgive.
For resentment is negative.
Resentment diminishes and devours the self.
Be the first to forgive,
To smile and take the first step.
And you will see happiness bloom
On the face of your human brother or sister.
Be always the first.

Do not wait for others to forgive.
For by forgiving
You become the master of fate
The fashioner of  life
The doer of miracles.
To forgive is the highest,
Most beautiful form of love.
In return you will receive
Untold peace and happiness.

Miserable

 from "Old Collection"

How to Be Miserable

1.  Use "I" as often as possible.

2.  Always be sensitive to slights.

3.  Be jealous and envious.

4.  Think only about yourself.

5.  Talk only about yourself.

6.  Trust no one.

7.  Never forget a criticism.

8.  Always expect to be appreciated.

9.  Be suspicious.

10. Listen greedily to what others say of you.

11. Always look for faults in others.

12. Do as little as possible for others.

13. Shirk your duties if you can.

14. Never forget a service you have rendered.

15. Sulk if people aren't grateful for your favors.

16. Insist on consideration and respect.

17. Demand agreement with your own view on everything.

18. Always look for a good time.

19. Love yourself first.

20. Be selfish at all times.

Weaver

 from "Old Collection"


The Weaver

My life is but a weaving
Between my Lord and me,
I cannot choose the colors
He worketh steadily.

Ofttimes He weaveth sorrow,
And I in foolish pride
Forget He sees the upper
And I, the underside.

Not till the loom is silent
And the shuttles cease to fly
Shall God unroll the canvas
And explain the reason why.

The dark threads are as needful
in the Weaver's skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver
In the pattern He has planned.

~Grant Colfax Tullar

The present

 from "Old Collection"

Newspaper cut-out from Dear Abby

Dear Readers: If you read only one book this year, make it "Real Moments" by Barbara DeAngelis (Delacorte Press). It's about real moments that make life matter--and how to have more of them.

It's about experiencing fulfillment in your life NOW, not when you have more money, or find the right partner, or achieve your perfect weight. It's about one's quest for happiness:

"First I was dying to finish high school and start college.
And then I was dying to finish college and start working.
And then I was dying for my children to grow old enough for school, so I could return to work.
And then I was dying to retire.
And now, I am dying...and suddenly I realize I forgot to live."  (Anonymous)

Another gem from this philosophical little book (available in bookstores) by Barbara DeAngelis:

"Yesterday is history
Tomorrow is a mystery.
Today is a gift.
That's why we call it 'the present.'"

Done it

from "Old Collection"

Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It's not a day when you lounge around doing nothing. It's when you've had everything to do, and you've done it.  ~Margaret Thatcher

Way you taught

 You will teach them to fly,
but they will not fly your
flight. You will teach them to
dream, but they will not dream
your dream. You will teach
them to live, but they will
not live your life.
Nevertheless, in every flight,
in every life, in every dream,
the print of the way you
taught them will remain.

~Mother Teresa

Practice

 Sent this to Carter and knew you would appreciate it too, my boy

You earn
your trophies
at practice.
You just pick 
them up at 
competitions.

Expecting you

 from The Irish Owl

Stop expecting YOU from people

Never know

 from 3 am Thoughts

(I think I've written this down before, but worth repeating)

You will never truly know how damaged a person is until you try to love them.

Monday, January 18, 2021

Frenzied Furniture

 from "Old Collection"

from my Interior Design days...

In 1905, Good Housekeeping, published a poem, "Frenzied Furniture" which seems to illustrate the state of furniture design at the time:

When Gladys went crazy on Simple Designs
She said: "Do away with indefinite lines;
All foolish upholstered devices must go--
Plain, square, Mission furniture--massive, you know."
I meekly, agreeably answered, "That's so!"

Then trouble began when a lumbering van
Brought furniture built on a mountainous plan,
Brought chairs elephantine with ponderous legs,
Brought tables like platforms with cross-beams and pegs,
Brought bungling brown sideboards and copper-hooped kegs.

A smoke-covered burlap was hung on the walls;
Great benches like battleships stood in the halls;
Plain, heavy plank bookcases, desks with sharp edges,
And sickly green "art-ware" in deep window ledges.

Simplicity frowned in aesthetical gloom
From every hallway, from every room;
We sat down to tables our knees didn't fit in,
On chairs too confoundedly simple to sit in.

Like giants about us the mighty Things sat
And bullied and browbeat our poor little flat,
Till pygmied and lost in this wondrous creation
We frequently raised the faint interrogation:
"Can this be Our Home or some new Railway Station?"

Then Gladys awoke to her error, and so
She turned to the style which they call "Art Noovo."

"For Nature," she said, "loves lithe, languorous curves
And tenuous tendrils and swivels and swerves."
I answered, "She does," though it got on my nerves.
So, our brown Mission furniture hustled away.
An "Art Noovo" outfit came to us next day:
A wallpaper figured with lilies and loops,
And cupboards like highly adorned chicken coops.
And armchairs suggesting suggesting cadaverous goops.

On "art bronze" tobacco trays lay my cigars;
Lank, taffy-shaped females on platters and jars,
Long, swan-maiden table lamps, stringly and swirly,
Gave all decorations a flavor quite girly.

One night as we lay in our serpentine bed
With querlicue carvings at footpiece and head,
We dreamed that the bureaus, increased by a million,
Were dancing an "Art Noovo" demon's cotillion
With armies of furniture quaintly reptilian.

A spider-like chiffonier first pirouetted
And near a fantastic art-curtain coquetted;
A crab-legged table, beginning to caper,
Traced out the designs on the snaky wallpaper--
A bookcase marked time with its tentacles taper,

A horrible chair, in the midst of the play,
Threw up its lithe arms and came hissing our way--
"O murder!" I cried in a cold perspiration
"O mercy!" screamed Gladys, with wild intonation
And fell on her pillow in nervous prostration.

Then unto the telephone quickly I ran
And called Dr. Bottle, a sensible man,
Who giving poor Gladys a quick diagnosis,
Said: "Here is no use for my medical doses-
The patient's distemper is called "Art Noovosis."

"Remove from your house these delirious curves,
This eel-winding furniture, hard on the nerves,
Some old-fashioned couches and cushions are best,
Some soft, easy chairs where the muscles can rest--
For chairs, after all, are intended for rest."

And so, from that moment an era began
Of suiting, our home to a rational plan.
"For really," said Gladys, "in parlor and den
One likes to feel human, at least, now and then."
I feelingly, earnestly answered: Amen!"

Sacrifice

 from "Old Collection"

Sacrifice

Americans speak often about living a life of sacrifice. But do we really know what that means? The following journal entry written by a young African pastor was found among his papers in Zimbabwe after he was martyred in the bloody civil war.

I'm a part of the fellowship of the unashamed. The die has been cast. I have stepped over the line. The decision has been made. I'm a disciple of His and I won't look back, let up, slow down, back way, or be still. My past is redeemed. My present makes sense. My future is secure. I'm done and finished with low living, sight walking, small planning, smooth knees, colorless dreams, tamed visions, mundane talking, cheap living, and dwarfed goals.

I no longer need preeminence, prosperity, position, promotions, plaudits, or popularity. I don't have to be right, or first, or recognized, or praised, or rewarded. I live by faith, lean on His presence, walk by patience, lift by prayer, and labor by Holy Spirit power. My face is set. My gait is fast. My goal is heaven. My road may be narrow, my way rough, my companions few, but my guide is reliable and my mission is clear.

I will not be bought, compromised, detoured, lured away, turned back, deluded or delayed. I will not flinch in the face of sacrifice or hesitate in the presence of adversary. I will not negotiate at the table of the enemy, ponder at the pool of popularity, or meander in the maze of mediocrity. I won't give up, shut up, or let up until I have stayed up, stored up, prayed up, paid up, and preached up for the cause of Christ. I am a disciple of Jesus. I must give until I drop, preach until all know, and work until He comes. And when He does come for His own, He'll have no problems recognizing me. My colors will be clear!

~CAM International

Hoops of life

 from "Old Collection"

Cut-out from MSU campus newspaper State News from 1993:

Shooting in the hoops of life from In My Opinion by Glenn McDonald

So I'm at the park the other day, shooting baskets and thinking. At the same time no less.

Shooting baskets is great for thinking. There's something about the rhythmic nature of sinking free throws that lets your mind wander. Plus the basketball provides an instant litmus paper for your thoughts.

"OK, if I sink this shot, it means I'll have no trouble finding a job after school." CLUNK.

"OK, if I sink this shot, then I'll have no trouble finding..."

I was feeling particularly reflective this day. I was thinking back on my four years at MSU -- how things have changed, how they've stayed the same. How much money I owe.

SWISH! Yep, no escaping that one.

I guess the end of the school year tends to promote these feelings. I've been in this student cycle now for 16 years. Academic years make more sense to me than calendar years. Ask me about 1988, and I'll have no clue. Ask me about my junior year in high school, though, and I'll have lots of stories.

Spring always brings pretty much the same sensation for the student. A sickening sensation of dread and inescapable doom.

Ha ha! Just kidding, although there is a little of that. Actually, spring means change. People graduate on you and leave. You have to clean out your apartment.

I never thought I'd say this, but I'm getting sick of school. Before now, I've always been a staunch advocate of the student lifestyle. I like the classes, I like the people, I like the college-town atmosphere. It's real life with a net. Reality-Lite.

But these days, everything seems so much more serious. It's not like freshman year, when graduation ranked right up there with retirement funds on my list of Things To Think About. Nowadays, my future is just standing there on the horizon, grinning. "I hope you had fun in school, young man, because you're in a world of s--- now.:

I'm sick of preparing for my life. That's one of the irritating things about college. There's this pervasive feeling that everything is just preliminary.

OK, I said to myself, if I make this shot, then I'll just settle down to a nice carefree pace and let the future work itself out. Swish.

OK, if I make this shot, then I resolve once and for all to stop with the worrying. Plus, it'll mean that I'll have a pretty good life even if I don't meticulously plan every aspect of it, and that I'll grow into a nice, well-adjusted person.

Uh-oh.

Airball.



Thursday, January 14, 2021

Steal her

 from 3 am Thoughts

A good woman is not easy to find nowadays.
You have to steal her from a careless man who doesn't value what he has.

Tuesday, January 12, 2021

Calendar Collection #3

 from "Old Collection"

Tuesday, January 17
THE VIRTUE OF HAVING ENEMIES
"Woe unto you, when all men shall speak well of you! for so did their fathers to the false prophets" (Luke 6:26).
It is no compliment to say about a Christian that he has no enemies, for that is the same as saying he has accomplished nothing. The apostle Paul had many bitter enemies, and they finally got him executed. In fact, almost all of the great heroes of the faith, through all the centuries since Satan gained his victory over Adam and Eve, have had to overcome bitter opposition from that wicked one.

So instead of resenting our enemies, we should thank God for them, for they enable us to become more like our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ! Only through such experiences can we learn what it means to say, with Paul: "I am crucified with Christ" (Galatians 2:20). Only if we have enemies can we learn to obey Christ's difficult command to "Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you" (Matthew 5:44).

The Lord Jesus easily could have called on twelve legions of angels to rout His enemies (Matthew 26:53). Instead, He submitted to their vicious insults and cruel tortures, even praying in His agony on the cross, "Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do" (Luke 23:24). The enemies of Christ killed Him, but had they not done so, He would not have died for our sins, and we would be lost eternally. This is a mystery to ponder, and difficult to comprehend, yet, as the Bible promises, "Surely the wrath of man shall praise thee" (Psalm 76:10).

The enmity of man can thus be a channel of divine grace to the believer, for "tribulation worketh patience" (Romans 5:3), and "our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory" (II Corinthians 4:17). HMM


Thursday, January 19
SOWING AND SLEEPING
"So also is the resurrection of the dead. It is sown in corruption; it is raised in incorruption" (I Corinthians 15:42).
When a believer's soul and spirit leave the body and return to the Lord, it is significant that the New Testament Scriptures speak of the body, not as dead, but as sleeping. For example, Jesus said, "Our friend Lazarus sleepeth; but I go, that I may awake him out of his sleep" (John 11:11). This state is not "soul sleep" as some teach for "to be absent from the body [is] to be present with the Lord" (II Corinthians 5:8). The body is sleeping --not the soul.

Similarly, when the believer's body is laid in a grave, Paul speaks of this act not as a burial, but as sowing! "But some men will say, How are the dead raised up? and with what body do they come? Thou fool, that which thou sowest is not quickened, except it die; And that which thou sowest, thou sowest not that body that shall be, but bare grain, it may chance of wheat, or of some other grain: But God giveth it a body as it hath pleased Him, and to every seed his own body" (I Corinthians 15:35-38).

Just as a buried grain of wheat brings forth a fruitful plant, so the old, sin-corrupted, aching body of human flesh, sown in the ground, will some day come forth "fashioned like unto His glorious body" (Philippians 3:21), in which "there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain" (Revelation 21:4).

"So also is the resurrection of the dead. It is sown in corruption; it is raised in incorruption: It is sown in dishonor; it is raised in glory: it is sown in weakness; it is raised in power: It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual body" (I Corinthians 15:42-44). When a believer's body is sown in the ground, God will soon reap from it a body of glory which will last for eternity. HMM

Sunday, January 22
FEAR OF FIRE
"And others save with fear; pulling them out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh" (Jude 23).
This exhortation refers both to attempting to "save" unbelievers by warning them of hell and to warning believers against the influence of the apostates.

The ultimate hell (Greek, gehenna) is not the same as the present hell (Greek, hades), although eventually all those lost souls now in the latter will eventually be "cast into the lake of fire" (Revelation 20:15). Both are fearsome places of real fire. The inhabitants of Sodom, for example, have been "suffering the vengeance of eternal fire" (Jude 7) for thousands of years, though not yet in that ultimate hell. Also the rich man mentioned by Jesus was in hades and yet was being "tormented in this flame" (Luke 16:23-24).

Both "hells" have literal fires, but it is hard to understand how material fires could torment non-material souls. There is a clue in James 3:6, which calls an unbridled human tongue "a fire, a world of iniquity:...set on fire of hell." Since the tongue is not literally on fire, but can be extremely destructive in human relationships, the implication is that hell itself is a "world of iniquity."

This aspect of hell makes it even more fearsome than literal fires could ever be. The existence there of billions of unredeemed souls, eternally separated from the holiness and love of God, where all who are "unjust" and "filthy" will continue forever to increase in their unrighteousness and filthiness (Revelation 22:11), and in the constant presence also of the devil and his angels, is unspeakably appalling. Yet that was their choice when they rejected or ignored the infinite love of Christ.

No wonder that Jude urges us to warn them of such awful fire and seek to save them with fear if they won't respond to the compassionate love of Christ.  HMM

Wednesday, January 25
INSTRUCTION CONTRARY TO KNOWLEDGE
"Cease, my son, to hear the instruction that causeth to err from the words of knowledge" (Proverbs 19:27).
One of the saddest realities in the modern world is that many of the leaders of evolutionary and humanistic thought were raised in Christian homes, where from an early age they were exposed to the truths of Scripture. Testimonies without number have been chronicled of Christian students going to universities where they were taught to doubt and then the disbelieve the faith of their parents. Perhaps all these students knew of Christianity was a set of rules; maybe they never understood the reasons their parents held certain views nor the basis for these beliefs. Certainly the foundational teaching of creation has been missing in many Christian homes and churches.

Our primary goal as parents should be to establish a godly heritage --to teach the truths of God in such a way as well be believed and cherished by our children, so that they will "keep that which is committed to [their] trust, avoiding profane and vain babblings, and oppositions of science falsely so called" (I Timothy 6:20).

Certainly a more effective way of teaching is to continually point the child or student back to foundational principles, rather than to list a set of do's and don'ts. We must teach those under our influence to be grounded in the Word, so that they can make sound judgments when away from our watchful eyes. No greater aid to serious study, no better primer in careful reasoning exists than in Scripture. Using it and other supportive materials, a child can learn to think carefully and critically. Not only will they learn information, but here they can learn wisdom and knowledge and understanding. "For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of His mouth cometh knowledge and understanding" (Proverbs 2:6). JDM

Monday, January 30
PRESENT WITH THE LORD
"We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord" (II Corinthians 5:8).
This verse has proved of great comfort to many a sorrowing believer who has just lost a loved one. Especially if they know that the parent or child or friend was also a believer in the saving work and person of Christ, then --although they sorrow--they "sorrow not, even as others which have no hope" (I Thessalonians 4:13).

For that loved one, though no longer in that old body which had perhaps been filled by pain, is now with the Lord. That is, he or she has been given a somewhat indescribable spiritual body in which to function in heaven until the coming resurrection day. Although that may not yet be the wonderful life that awaits them in their glorified, resurrection bodies in the ages to come, they will be "with Christ; which is far better" than this present life (Philippians 1:23).

There are a number of sincere believers who argue that dead Christians will simply "sleep" until He comes again to raise the dead. While a certain case can be developed for this "soul-sleep" concept, it is hard to see how that could be "far better" than this present life. Paul said that he had a "desire to depart, to be with Christ" and also that "to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain" (Philippians 1:23,21). But what "gain" could there be for him in simply "sleeping" instead of continuing to live in Christ?

The Scriptures do not reveal much about that "intermediate state," as it has been called. But there is that intriguing verse about being "compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses" who perhaps are somehow watching us as we "run with patience the race that is set before us" here on Earth (Hebrews 12:1). That possibility can be a real incentive to do just that. HMM

Sunday, July 8
MY NECESSARY FOOD
"Neither have I gone back from the commandment of His lips; I have esteemed the words of His mouth more than my necessary food" (Job 23:12).
The Book of Job is probably the oldest book in the Bible, written even before the Mosaic laws had been inscribed; yet Job knew at least some of God's commandments, and regarded His divine words as more important to his life than even his daily bread. Abraham also knew and obeyed God's word long before the writing of even the complete Book of Genesis (Genesis 26:5). The exact form of this primeval revelation is unknown to us, since it has now been replaced by the Bible. The very fact that it has been superseded means, of course, that we now have of God's word is far better than what they had. Yet Job (and, no doubt, Abraham also) felt that "the words of His mouth" were more to be esteemed than his "necessary food".

How this ought to shame Christians today who spend far more time eating than they spend with the Lord in prayer and Bible study. Not even these Days of Praise devotionals suffice to meet this need! They are intended to encourage more study of God's word, not to replace it.

The very first psalm assures us that "blessed is the man" (that is, he is truly happy) whose "delight is in the law of the Lord; and in His law doth he meditate day and night" (Psalm 1:1,2). Likewise the very last book of the Bible is introduced with these words: "Blessed is he that readeth, and they that hear the words of this prophecy, and keep those things which are written therein" (Revelation 1:3). Many are the believers who miss blessings in their lives because of neglecting even this last book of the Bible, which Job and Abraham and David never had the opportunity to read. Don't forget that Jesus said, "Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God" (Luke 4:4). HMM

Tuesday, October 8
BEARING AND HELPING TO BEAR
"Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ...For every man shall bear his own burden" (Galatians 6:2,5).
This is one of the most commonly cited Bible "contradictions." The apostle Paul commanding us, almost in the same breath, to bear other people's burdens and yet to bear our own burdens. There is, however, no real contradiction, and both commands are equally valid and important.

The problem is partly one of translation. There are two Greek words used here, baros and phortion, respectively. The first means "heavy load" and second, "responsibility."

When a Christian friend has been stricken with a great burden--whether sickness, financial need, death of a loved one, or even a grievous sin in his life which he has been unable to overcome by his own strength (see verse 1)--he needs desperately the love and support of his Christian brethren. The Scripture assures us that, when we help relieve this burden, we "fulfill the law of Christ." The previous chapter also notes this:  "For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself" (Galatians 5:14).

At the same time, the privilege of having Christian friends who will share and help with an otherwise unbearable load does not at all absolve us from the responsibility of doing our own part in carrying out our God-given responsibilities. There is no place in the Christian warfare for Christian beggars or Christian crybabies. "Study to be quiet, and to do your own business...That ye may walk honestly toward them that are without" (I Thessalonians 4:11,12).

The preceding verse (Galatians 6:4) had urged that "every man prove his own work." Since God has both created and redeemed us, we can be sure He is concerned about us and and will not allow trials, or place upon us duties which are greater than we can bear (I Corinthians 10:13). HMM