Woman's silence

 A woman's silence should scare you.  When she stops arguing, questioning, or

reacting that's not peace, it's emotional detachment. She didn't leave suddenly; 

she broke slowly. First with tears, then pleas, then exhausted efforts to fix things.

But silence...That's the final stage when hope dies.

She no longer waits for your texts or explanations. The fire to fight for you is

gone. What you mistake as "calm" is actually her falling out of love in real time.

Men often miss the warning signs, celebrating the quiet instead of realizing:

this isn't surrender, it's her walking away without a word. By the time you notice, she's

already gone. And that version of her that once cared enough to argue...

 You'll never see her again.

Weren't broken

 You weren't broken when they met you.

You were soft, trusting, and full of hope.

Look what they did to that.

Eventually

 Eventually, one of two

things will happen. He will

realize you're worth it or you'll

realize that he isn't.

Already gone

 They didn't slowly grow distant.

They were already gone the moment

you started asking for the same

energy you kept giving.

Beauty looks like

Beauty also looks like:

• lightheartedness
• good moral values
• emotional intelligence
• a kind and grateful heart
• authenticity and honesty
• a desire to do and be better
• commitment and consistency

Don't know

 You don't know a person until:

• You travel with them.
• Money is involved.
• You deal with them when they're angry.
• You live with them.

Don't wanna be

COMMUNICATION is only 

hard for SOMEBODY that

DON'T wanna BE with you.

Mistreating

 Mistreating people then avoiding

communication is not protecting

your peace, it's avoiding

accountability.

Being beautiful

Being beautiful

has very little to do

with how you look.

~Stacie Martin 

Chasing

 Whoever needs to hear this: You're 

not chasing them because you love

them. You're chasing them because,

deep down, you're still trying to prove

to yourself that you're worth

choosing. It's no accident that you

keep finding yourself with people who

can't fully show up -- your nervous

system is replaying an old pattern,

mistaking familiarity for love.

When they distance themselves, you

feel the ache of withdrawal. When

they come back, even for a moment,

that rush of relief...That's dopamine,

not love. You're addicted to the cycle

of their validation. 

Here's the hard truth: If it's driven by

fear, it's not love. This isn't about

them, it's about the part of you that

still believes love is something you

have to earn.

This generation

 This generation of men wants submissive providers.       ~MatthewCoast.com

Unhealed

 Unhealed men don't just break hearts.

They break your belief in love.

Protect your peace at all costs.

Noticed

 Have you noticed

Beautiful people give compliments,

rich people support,

athletes train you like themselves,

and only those who have nothing to be proud of

look for ways to put you down?

Disgust

 A healing stage is disgust.

Yes, disgust.

You will be disgusted by the people

whose love and validation you used to seek.

You will be embarrassed about 

the choices you made,

and the people who had access

they didn't deserve.

Feel this and let it go.

You will NEVER be that person again.

Best closure

the best closure is knowing

that you've tried your best

Stay away

Stay away from people

who always consider you expressing

how you feel as you arguing or being

extra. It's called gaslighting.

Toxic people do that so they 

don't have to take accountability

for their own behavior.

Choose you

I know it's a hard lesson

to learn, but the truth is

you cannot love yourself

and love someone who hurts

you at the same time.

Please choose you.

~Stephanie Bennett-Henry

Reciprocating

Start reciprocating

inconsistency with

unavailability --

Start allowing people to lose you because of

their lack of effort. It's not your job to force

relationships, or continue to reach out to people

who aren't reaching back,

their actions are only a reflection of who 

they are, not because of who you are.

Sad truth

 The sad truth is sometimes it takes

years to finally get the message. The

one that they didn't love you. They

just loved the way you were always

available, loved the way you cared 

about them, loved that you gave all

your time to them, loved that you

always accepted their apologies,

loved the way you made them feel,

loved all your attention, and lastly,

 they just loved that you loved 

them.

Miss

 On the days when you miss the

bond, please remember the

disrespect.

Small and little

Someone asked me,

"What is your weakness?"

"I'm sensitive. Smallest things hurt me."

"What's your strength?"
"Little things make me happy, too."

Can't have been

I think the hardest part is

that we can't have been

what I thought we were

if this is what 

we are now.

~Kristina Mahr

Survival mode

Psychology says that when women face

constant stress and uncertainty, their 

bodies learn to live in SURVIVAL mode.

They stay alert, tense, and exhausted, always

waiting for the next thing to go wrong.

Even in moments of calm, their minds don't

relax. It's not because they're overreacting;

it's because their nervous system has 

forgotten what SAFETY feels like.

Overlooked

 From lettersofannawin

In English we say:

"I feel overlooked by people."

In poetry we say:

"I am hidden only from men

not from the eyes that knit me together."

Letting go

 From lettersofannawin

In English 

we say:

"I feel like

I'm losing 

control."

In poetry we say:

"Sometimes, grace looks like letting go

of what was never mine to carry."

Ended

She wanted him.

He wanted her too.

But he was emotionally 

unavailable, and she was

an overthinker.

And that's how it ended.

~Thinking Minds

Was she

 From If you miss me

She's toxic, right? That's the story you're telling everyone now...but let's back up for a second. Was she toxic when she gave you her trust, completely and without hesitation? Was she toxic when she believed every word you said, even when her gut told her something wasn't right? Was she toxic when she kept choosing you, over and over, even after you showed her why she shouldn't? 

Or did she become "toxic" after you broke her spirit?

After the lies you told...after the nights she cried herself to sleep wondering why she wasn't enough...after the silent treatments, the manipulation, the disrespect, the gaslighting. After the texts from other women. After you made her feel like she was losing her mind for reacting to the things you were actually doing. You didn't just hurt her...you rewired her.

She wasn't toxic. She was tired.

She stayed through heartbreak after heartbreak, still hoping you'd change, still trying to love you through the damage. But the more she stayed, the more pieces of herself she lost. And when she finally started snapping...when the love turned into survival...suddenly, she's the problem?

No. You don't get to break a woman down and then call her crazy for not being whole.

You don't get to paint her as bitter or unstable when all she ever wanted was loyalty, effort, and truth.

The truth is, you damaged someone who would have given you the world. And now you want sympathy because she's no longer soft with you? You didn't just lose a good woman. You turned her into someone she never wanted to be. That's not toxicity...that's trauma. And it came from you.

Toxic

 According to psychology, toxic is 

not when someone treats you bad.

Toxic is when they're bad to you

on some days and good on others.

It's when they're so inconsistent 

with their love that you spend

most of your time wondering if

you should stay or leave.

~@MamaDontPlay

Staying quiet

Staying quiet because you can't

make someone change when

they don't even see an issue in

what they're doing wrong. 

Like me

 From The Misfit Momma

I heard something today that hit

me harder than I expected:

"People like me don't have people.

We are the people that others have."

It stopped me in my tracks,

because if you know, you know.

Some of us were never the ones

who got held, we were always

the ones holding everyone else.

Most dangerous

 The most dangerous person to be with,

is somebody that doesn't want to love 

you, but also doesn't want to lose you.

Just stop

 From Thoughts into Words

After a while, you realize

"this isn't what I wanna keep

going through."

...and you just stop.

Choosing calm

 Peace isn't the absence of storms --

it's choosing calm within the chaos.

~lettersofannawin

Hates himself

 From Jill K Schmidt

Often people treat us how they feel about themselves. It's incredibly hard to not take it personal when you're in a relationship and love someone. The hard truth is, we have to understand that we cannot make someone love themselves. And we cannot love someone enough that they treat us better. At some point you have to decide if you want to keep sacrificing yourself because someone else refuses to heal the parts of them they don't want to face.

When a man hates

himself, he takes it out

on the woman who 

loves him, always

remember that.

Abandonment

 When someone is used to abandonment,

your consistent love can feel confusing --

almost like it's a setup.

~@DashHudson

Silent

I don't know who 

needs to hear this,

but: 

The silent treatment

isn't teaching them a

lesson; it's showing

you can't handle 

conflict.

Scared but

 From lettersofannawin

In English we say;

"I'm scared but holding on."

In poetry we say:

"My knees may tremble,

but my soul still clings to the

hem of His robe."

Waiting

 From lettersofannawin

In English we say:

"I'm in a season of waiting."

In poetry we say:

"The seed doesn't doubt the sun

even when it's buried in silence."

Chosen better

They say, "She should've chosen better."

But let's talk about the man who chose to perform better - 

the one who mirrored her dreams, masked his

intentions, and played a role just long enough to get in.

It's not always "bad choices."

Sometimes, it's about skilled deception.

Let's hold space for women who were manipulated,

not just misled. And let's stop making women solely

responsible for someone else's disguise.

~Adeife Adeyeye

Hard to love

You Were Never Hard to Love

who told you

that you were too much

that your love was a burden

that your heart took up too much space

who made you believe

that shrinking yourself

was the only way to be held

come closer

listen to me

you were never hard to love

they were just not meant to hold

something as vast as you

Unloved

 From tulips and forget-me-nots

i've never loved someone in my life

as much as i've loved you

and i've never felt so unloved by anyone

the way you made me feel

Time to heal

From Cody Bret

Until he takes the time to truly heal, he will remain emotionally unavailable.

It doesn't matter how deeply someone tries to love him.

The love she gave was pure, patient, and unwavering.

She saw his pain and chose to stay, to hold space for him, to believe in his potential even when he couldn't see it himself. She tried to be his peace, his comfort, his home. But love, no matter how powerful, cannot mend wounds that someone refuses to face.

The scars he carried from his past, the trauma he never confronted, built walls so high that her love couldn't break through them.

And over time, her efforts started to feel like battles, her affection like burdens, simply because he hadn't done the inner work to let love in.

He may have cared for her in his own way, but caring is not the same as being ready. Readiness requires healing. It requires self-awareness, accountability, and the courage to sit with one's pain instead of running from it.

She gave everything she had to a man who wasn't ready to receive it, and in doing so, she began to lose pieces of herself.

Because no matter how deeply you choose to love someone, you cannot save them from themselves.

He has to want to heal. He has to choose to face the darkness inside him. Only then will he be capable of not just receiving love, but reciprocating it in a way that's healthy, honest, and whole. Until that day comes, he will continue to push away even the most genuine love, not because he doesn't feel it, but because he doesn't yet believe he deserves it.

And sadly, but the time he realizes what he had, she may be long gone, tired, heartbroken, and finally choosing to pour her love into someone who's finally ready.

Emotional fraud

 Future Faking Is Emotional Fraud

-Words of Steele

Future faking isn't just manipulation -- it's emotional fraud.

It's when a narcissist borrows your loyalty, your hope, and your love...

With promises they never intended to keep.

He told me not to work,

Said I'd never have to worry -- his social media and YouTube income was "just about to blow up."

Every month, for over a year, he handed me a handwritten IOU labeled "Money Owed to Wifey."

Line after line. Month after month.

Debt disguised as devotion.

He said, "Just let me do this...I'll pay you back when I make it."

He wanted me to sell my house so he could tap into my equity.

He talked big -- building our dream life, buying property, an Airbnb, boarding dogs, mountain biking

adventures, tournaments, freedom.

He sold me a future...

While I paid for our present.

But that future never existed -- not in his heart.

Because narcissists don't build with you.

They drain you -- while pretending you're both chasing the same dream.

By the time I opened my eyes, I wasn't just emotionally exhausted.

I was financially gutted and spiritually betrayed.

That's what future faking is.

It's not romance. It's not hope.

It's a scam.

A long con dressed up in sweet words and false promises.

Real love doesn't sell a dream -- it builds one beside you, step by step.

(Side note: In Bill's terms, this was "next month")

Let them

If they want to lose

you, let them. If they

want to choose someone

else over you, let them.

If they can picture 

their life without you,

let them.

Hard to love

Imagine growing up treated as if you're

hard to love...Later realizing you were 

the most worthy of them all...finding

you've been surrounded by people full 

of self-hate who gained light by putting

out yours.

An insight that makes you invincible.

~Raging Rhetoric

Language

 From lettersofannawin

In English we say:

"God showed up for me."

In poetry we say:

"He wrote yes into my story,

in a language only my soul

could understand."

Laziness

 He's not cheating, but

there are also no flowers,

no surprises, no dates unless

you almost beg for them.

And the truth is,

laziness can slowly kill love.

The kind of laziness that no

longer tries, no longer shows

up, and quietly expects you to

stay even when your heart is

no longer being cared for.

~Mommy Maribel

Don't care

I don't care how good he is in bed,

how funny he is, and how good he

smells. None of that matters if he can't

communicate, he's inconsistent, his

actions and words aren't in alignment,

and he can't navigate conflict 

without being cruel or running away.

Unsafe

 A person who doesn't see

the wrong in their actions

towards you is a very 

dangerous and unsafe

person to your well-being,

remember that...

Refiner

 From lettersofannawin

In English we say:

"This is a painful chapter."

In poetry we say:

"My heart is walking through fire,

but I know the Refiner walks with me."

The gold

 The family program was a lie.

You are not the glue.

You are the gold.

And you don't have to

carry everyone to be worthy.

~Molesey Bridgette, The Queen Code

Loneliest feeling

And the

Loneliest feeling,

Is standing alone,

In the life

You planned 

Together.

Loving you back

 You cannot love someone into

loving you back. You can become

light, become air, become

everything they say they want. And

still, they may walk away. And it 

will not be your fault.

~r.m. drake

Deep

From lettersofannawin

In English we say:

"I'm going through something."

In poetry we say:

"The valley is deep,

but so is His mercy."

Privilege

 The privilege of a lifetime is

to become who you truly are.

But first - you must un-learn

who they told you to be.

Protected

 God protected you from that relationship.

So stop being mad and bitter that things

didn't work out. While you're concerned

about how you feel, God is much concerned

about your purpose and quite frankly that

person wasn't included in it.

~@relentlesswomanofficial

In-between

 From Long Live Moms

They wake before

the world has stirred,

Moving through life,

soft and sure.

They hold the world,

yet stand unseen.

The quiet force,

the in-between.

Unseen

 A therapist once said:

The child who grew up feeling unseen

learns to pour into others - hoping

that, one day, someone will pour into

them.

They became the caretaker, the

fixer, the one who gives without

limits.

But deep down?

They're just waiting for someone to

do for them what they've spent a 

lifetime doing for everyone else.

Bad people

If you're ever scared you're a bad person

remember

that bad people don't care about being better

Don't stress

From If you miss me

Don't stress about it, sis. Let him talk to whoever

he wants. Let him text whoever he wants. Let him

chase attention if that's what he values more than

the loyalty, love, and peace you brought to his life.

You've done enough. You've given enough. You've 

stayed patient, held your tongue when it hurt, and

forgave things you had every right to walk away

from. You stayed when you could've left. You

chose him when you had every reason not to. That

kind of love doesn't come around often, and deep

down, he knows that.

So stop overthinking. Stop checking your phone.

Stop wondering if you did something wrong. You

didn't. You loved him too well. You showed up too

hard for someone who didn't know how to handle

a woman like you. Let him do what he wants. If he 

decides to throw away everything you built, 

everything you offered, and everything you are...

let him.

Because here's the truth...he's not replacing you.

He's just distracting himself. He'll realize it when

it's too late. When the conversations feel empty,

when the laughs don't reach his soul, when he's

surrounded by bodies but starving for

connection...that's when it'll hit him. He lost a

woman who would've gone to war beside him,

prayed over him, believed in him when he didn't

believe in himself.

Let him ruin it if he wants. Let him play around and

see where it gets him. But don't you beg. Don't

you chase. Don't you lower your crown for a man

who can't even see the value of the throne in front

of him.

Because when you leave, sis...when you finally 

decide to stop showing up for someone who

keeps showing you he's not ready...he's going to

feel it. He's going to feel the silence. The absence.

The peace you brought. And he's going to realize

that you were the best woman to ever walk into his

life...and the worst mistake he ever made by

letting you go.

Healing

 From She Wears Pain Like Dia...

My therapist told me this, and it

changed my life:

"You're not healing to be able to

handle trauma, pain, anxiety, depression.

You're used to those.

You're healing to be able to handle

joy and to accept happiness back 

into your life."

Unconditional love

 A woman who never had

her father's unconditional love

will usually choose men

that are selfish 

and neglect her needs.

Everything

People who can't

communicate think 

everything is an argument.

People who lack 

accountability think

everything is an attack.

An umbrella

 Once the rain is over,

an umbrella becomes a burden

to everyone.

That's how loyalty ends when

benefits stop.

A loss

 I don't know who needs

to hear this but losing

people who treat you poorly

isn't actually a loss.

Never asked

 I never asked for the moon, or a diamond

ring, or some mansion high up on the hill. All

I ever wanted was you -- just you.

~Michael Faudet

Interrupt often

 I feel like I do this...

 People who interrupt often

aren't always rude. They

have higher processing

speeds and anxiety.

Happy healthy

 The way he treats you

affects the mother they get.

He is abusing your children

when he abuses you.

He is robbing them 

of their right to have

a happy, healthy Mommy.

Elaborate

 I asked her if she believed 

in love, and she smiled and

said it was her most elaborate

method of self-harm.

~Benedict Smith, Art of Poets

Still believes

 From I'm good, I'm happy, I lik...

There's a little girl inside me.

She still believes in fairness.

She still believes that people who break others

should face consequences.

But the world does not work that way.

She asks, "Why do the ones who hurt us the most

get to live without guilt?"

And I don't know what to tell her.

I want to tell her that life is fair,

that people always get what they deserve.

But I can't lie to her like that.

Because the truth is,

they're out there living their lives,

laughing, moving forward, forgetting.

While we are here,

stuck in the ruins they left behind.

And it's cruel,

but it's real.

And I don't know how to make peace with that.

Space for your emotions

 "I always end up thinking I'm the

problem. They say it's my fault.

Am I too sensitive?"

I asked my therapist.

She looked at me and said:

"When someone wants to control 

you, they'll convince you your

feelings are the issue.

But if someone truly loves you - 

they make space for your

emotions. Not shame you for

having them."

And that changed me.

Isn't it beautiful

 From Letters of Annawin

Isn't it beautiful how God

doesn't ask you to carry it all --

only to bring it to Him?

When the weight gets too heavy,

remember:

You can either carry it alone

or you can place it in the hands

that never let go of you.

There's peace in surrender.

There's strength in letting God

hold what's been breaking you.

Maybe the reason

From Christians Chronic Pain

maybe the reason why God is allowing us to feel this heaviness is because He wants to remind us that He can give us rest. Maybe he is allowing us to go through days when we feel empty to make us  realize that He alone can satisfy. Maybe He is letting us have those nights of worry so we get to enjoy the hope each tomorrow brings when the sun starts to rise. Maybe God is allowing all this to happen too for us to know that despite all these things that we're feeling, He's alive.

Sugar

 From Dr. Rebecca Anderson

Interesting...

Sugar in a baby's brain is called ADHD.

Sugar in an adult's brain is called dementia.

Sugar in your eyes is called glaucoma.

Sugar in your teeth is called cavities.

Sugar in your sleep is called insomnia.

Sugar in your blood is called diabetes.

Excess sugar in your body is called cancer.

Looking at you

 Maybe the 

clouds and the trees

and the flowers

love looking at you too.

~Anonymous