part of me

 part of me.

i absorb it all. all. all. all. of. it.

it's just who i have always been.

i cannot say that it has ever

been easy. and to be honest,

i have wished it away many times.

to amputate the very thing in me

that makes compassion out of

every human emotion. the feeler

in me says that i was meant to

turn your tears into my own

wild-flowing streams. but the 

thinker in me knows that love

takes a toll that empathy can be

enormously exhausting. and that 

putting myself in everybody else's

shoes is both a blessing and a 

curse. but yet i, with all of my

might, cannot undo it. it is as

much of who i am as the skin that

wraps around my bones and the

blood that courses through these

veins. and after everything this

body has been given, yes even the

hard and tiresome things, who am

i to uninvite this oh so precious

part of me.

~ullie-kaye

2024 resolution

My 2024 resolution is to stop wondering if I'm good enough for other people and start wondering if they're good enough for me.

Alone

 MAYA ANGELOU

ALONE

"Lying, thinking

Last night

How to find my soul a home

Where water is not thirsty

And bread loaf is not stone

I came up with one thing

And I don't believe I'm wrong

That nobody,

But nobody

Can make it out here alone."

A table

 God has removed you from 

a table where you used to sit...

In order to save you from a host

who was serving you poison.

Distance

 The answer to disrespected boundaries

is not a fight.

It's distance.

~Kalen Dior

Be done

 Learn to be done. Not

mad, not bothered, just

done. Protect your 

peace at all costs.

Why you deserve

 You shouldn't have to explain why you

deserve to be spoken to with respect

and treated with human decency. Do

 not allow anyone, even if it's someone

you love, to talk down to you, hurt

you, or strip you of who you are in

order to gain power over you. That

isn't love. And it sure as hell isn't how

you should ever be treated.

~Kayil York

How long

 From Flying Free Now

Many people wonder how long it might take for an abuser to change. Experts in the field emphasize that it takes significant, repeated efforts over an extended period of time, with cycles of successes and setbacks (that are strongly confronted) to change, and sadly, the majority of abusers do not.

~Elizabeth Beyer

Narrative

When you don't allow people to walk all over you anymore, the narrative will change. You'll become the villain in their story because you won't be giving them what they have had no problem taking from you. But at least in your story, you'll be free.

~Kayil York

Precious

Love yourself enough to set

boundaries. Your time and

energy are precious. You get

to choose how you use it.

~Anna Taylor 

Mood

 maturity is knowing that when

your mood is down you should not

trust the way you see yourself

~yung pueblo

Seed

 Think of yourself as a

seed patiently wintering in

the earth; waiting to come up

a flower in the Gardener's 

good time, up into the real

world, the real waking.

~C.S. Lewis

All the mistakes

 I came across a quote that said:

"If you went back and fixed all the

mistakes you've ever made, you would

erase yourself" and that's all I've ever

needed to hear.

~@shetalkzzz

Same person

When it stops hurting

and your heart goes back

to its beautiful self again,

don't you dare offer the healing

to the same person who broke you.

~Stephanie Bennett-Henry

Worse source

 No one is a worse source of information

about a woman than a man who is bullying

her. Out of a hundred people, your partner

is the one whom you should least believe

about who you are and what you are

becoming. He may sound

incredibly certain when he speaks, but he

doesn't know what he's talking about.

~Lundy Bancroft, Flying Free

Moods

 Allow people to

have their 

moods. And

allow those

moods to have

nothing to do 

with you

~Liana Naima

In your head

 Don't worry it's not as big and scary as it feels in your head.

Slide

 It amazes me that we believe this:

That God would crush and kill

His own Son, but let you slide.

~Voddie Baucham

Anchor

 In order to realize the worth

of the anchor we need to feel

the stress of the storm.

~Corrie Ten Boom

Big heart

You have a big heart for a reason, my darling.

You stand out from the rest of them because you

can endure far more than what you think you 

can. You are so strong and so brave, even when

your heart has been ripped apart and is beyond

recognition. Even when you have been left along

but the ones you needed most, you still got up to

face another day. You are the bravest of them 

all. A survivor who makes sure she's a thriver.

December 31st

 God can do a lot by December 31st

Actions

 When people's words and

actions are not in alignment,

believe their actions.

~Bob Hamp

Not because

 I don't mind

struggling WITH you,

but I will not

struggle

BECAUSE OF you.

~Carlos Dominguez

Better

 

God cancelled your plans to save

your life. He sent you the other 

direction to avoid danger. He fights

battles you know nothing about.

His plan is better than yours.

Turns

 He turns coal into diamonds.

Sand into pearls.

Worms into butterflies.

He can turn your life around, too.

~Toby Mac

Chances

Maybe it won't work out. Maybe 

it won't be what you wanted. Or

it may be just the adventure of a 

lifetime. Take some chances.

~J. Mike Fields

 

Happiest

 Happy is the man who

possesses a Bible!

Happier still is he who reads it!

Happiest of all is he

who reads it and obeys it!

~J.C. Ryle

Do it

 Post had this crossed out:

Don't cross oceans for people who

wouldn't cross a puddle for you.

No. Do it. Do cross oceans for

people. Love people, all people. No

conditions attached, no wondering

whether or not they're worthy. Cross

oceans, climb mountains. Life and love

isn't about what you gain. It's about

what you give.