I started this blog soon after the death of my beautiful 17-year-old son, Hayden, as a way to deal with my grief. I titled it "Dear Hayden" because at first I wrote as if I was writing to him. My use of the word "dear" ended up being twofold: "used as an affectionate or friendly form of address" and "regarded with deep affection; cherished by someone." Many posts are saved quotes, song lyrics, Bible verses, poems, etc. with credit given to the actual authors as much as possible. Enjoy~
Thursday, June 30, 2022
Hard work
Breathe again
Most profound impact
Draw my attention
Heal him
Barely breathe
Heartless thief
Beautifully fragile
Tuesday, June 28, 2022
Discipline
Generosity
Great malice
Friday, June 24, 2022
The flower
Sexiest thing
The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap, I promise you. It's just crap that people try to sell to you to make you feel like less. So don't buy it. Be smart. Be thoughtful. And be generous.
~Ashton Kutcher
Never asked for much
She never asked for much, but the small things she needed that filled the space of her hearts desire, were hard to come by. There were people, who made her feel as though she was asking for the world, when all she ever wanted was some time, and perhaps someone who understood why that mattered so much.
~Stephanie Bennett Henry
Thursday, June 23, 2022
Letting me go
Saw a quote that said...
Wonderland
What would happen
From God is my Confidence
Your transformation
During your transformation, you might feel like everything is falling apart, but in reality everything is coming together for your highest good. You're being pushed to evolve and get out of your comfort zone so you can live and experience your true greatness. Welcome change.
My time
Brother's keeper
From Gods Revival 2018
Wednesday, June 22, 2022
So quiet
Knew sooner
Things I Wish I Knew Sooner
Own upgrade
Standarized
Sometimes, the most brilliant and intelligent minds do not shine in standardized tests because they don't have standardized minds. ~Diane Ravitch
All I had
I gave you $50, he gave you $100.
Priorities straight
Your obituary will not read,
Regret
People pleasing
- Saying "no" when I'm at my limit or need a break.
- Letting someone know when they've hurt me or crossed a boundary.
- Refusing to enable behavior that harms my nervous system.
- Standing up for myself in a compassionate way.
- Believing in someone's ability to do what's best for them.
- Saying "yes" then feeling regret and resentment later.
- Keeping feelings and needs to myself out of fear or shame.
- Allowing harmful behavior in order not to "lose" someone's love.
- Denying my reality or taking on someone else's as "truth".
- Feeling like I need to fix or rescue someone because they need me.
Wednesday, June 15, 2022
Look closely
Don't speak negatively
Anger is sadness
Don't judge the journey
From Steven Furtick
It was sad
From The Random Stories
"it was sad"
"what?"
"to watch her love people so much"
"why?"
"because no one loved her the same way"
The days
Suspicious
By Lysa TerKeurst
Tuesday, June 14, 2022
We fade
From writtenbyhim
Monday, June 13, 2022
True test
From @instapray
Someone
As time goes by
Come and whisper
From Tales of the old forest faeries
Be patient
Good for you
From sssaintvale
The one
From SingleChronicles7
Said and meant
Do not grow weary
From God's Revival 2018
Great woman
Over
From Sylvester McNutt III
Friday, June 10, 2022
Unkind thoughts
From Fox Under The Moon
Thursday, June 9, 2022
The worst thing
THE WORST THING
Your own lane
Wednesday, June 8, 2022
Treats you
Tuesday, June 7, 2022
Rely on God
"We do not want you to be uninformed...about the troubles we experienced...We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself...But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead."
~2 Corinthians 1:8,9
Someone else's responsibilities
From Flying Free
Hand of God
By Elisabeth Elliot
To them
Still silence
Their own
From God is my Confidence
The Ghost
YOU'RE THE GHOST
Thursday, June 2, 2022
Wednesday, June 1, 2022
Bestseller
From Papa Kenneth E Hagin Fans
DAUGHTER,