Avoidant attachment

 From New C2

Your avoidant attachment ex is not doing this instead of contacting you: they're not suddenly healing, becoming emotionally whole, or experiencing some enlightened peace that justifies their silence. No, what they're actually doing is running - from their emotions, from accountability, from the discomfort of vulnerability. Avoidant types are experts at creating distance, and silence is their favorite tool of control and protection.

They're not reaching out because that would require them to confront the very things they've spent their whole lives avoiding: emotional intimacy, difficult conversations, guilt, and the impact of their actions on others. Instead, they're numbing themselves with distractions - overworking, new flings, surface-level hobbies, or excessive independence disguised as "self-care." But don't be fooled. That distance isn't peace. It's emotional suppression. It's fear dressed up as detachment.

They may be telling themselves that cutting off contact is the "mature" thing to do, when in reality, it's the easiest path for someone who lacks the emotional tools to communicate or face the consequences of their behavior. Their silence isn't strength - it's self-protection. And deep down, a part of them knows it. They're haunted by what they haven't processed, by the weight of the words they never said, and the connection they never truly allowed themselves to feel.

Meanwhile, you're here wondering what their silence means. Let this be your reminder: silence from an avoidant isn't clarity or closure. It's avoidance, plain and simple. And that's their battle to fight - not yours to chase.

Not weakness

 It's not weakness to serve your

partner. Make the bed. Warm 

their food. Rub their back. Real 

love is humble. Great marriages

are built by two people willing to

serve each other.

Big heart

 Someone once said

"You know you have a

big heart when you feel

bad for doing what's

best for you" 

And I felt that.

~Naraaziza Smith

Last time

 sometimes, you have to decide

"this is the last time they are

gonna make me feel this way"

and stand on it, whether that be

family, a relationship, or a 

friendship.

Letting me go

 From healing my heart

thank you for letting me go

because I would have never walked away

i heard this once

and it's true

i loved you too much

to just walk away

even if it hurt

even if i cried

even if we argued

i was willing to be yours forever

so thank you for letting me go

because I would have never walked away

Hate you

God will use

people who hate

you to position 

you exactly 

where you need

to be. Their

persecution is

your promotion.

Remember it was Herod's hatred

that brought Jesus to Nazareth.

Breaks you

 Sometimes life breaks you in ways you never

saw coming. And not everything fits back the 

way it once did. But maybe it's not about 

fixing what was. Maybe it's about what

you build from what's left - with

steadier hands and a heart

forever changed.

~Jameson Arasi

Where you are

Your partner should know where 

you are - because they care, not 

because they control.

It's not about asking for permission.

It's about respect. It's about peace of mind.

Marriage isn't about surveillance - it's about staying

connected. A quick text or a short call can prevent

unnecessary tension and protect the trust you've

worked so hard to build.

If you're coming home late, say so. If you're heading

out of town, talk about it. Not because you're being 

monitored - but because you care enough to keep

your partner in the loop.

Real love doesn't hide things. It communicates - freely,

consistently, and with intention.

Love doesn't shut you out. Love says, "You matter."

Love includes.

So don't wait to be asked.

Let your partner feel safe, considered, and informed.

That's not control. That's commitment.

~virgo-introvert by nature

Stop pouring

 You've got to stop pouring your heart into

people who wouldn't do the same for you.

I know you care deeply. I know you give second, third,

even tenth chances because that's just who you are. But at

some point, you've got to ask yourself, why am I showing

up fully for people who barely know how to show up for

themselves?

Stop handing out access to your heart like it costs you

nothing. Because it does cost you...your peace, your

energy, your worth. If someone isn't willing to meet you

where you're at, match your effort, or even just see you...

let them go. You are not hard to love. You are not asking

for too much. You are simply asking the wrong people.

Fall back. Let them miss you. Let them feel the absence of 

everything you brought to the table. And you? You keep

healing, keep growing, and keep becoming everything you

were always meant to be. Your worth is not up for debate.

~The Misfit Momma

Believe

 Believe in you

Some days, you wake up and nothing has changed.

The same weight, the same wounds, the same endless pain.

You look around and wonder if this is it -

If life is just a cycle of waiting,

of pushing through, of holding on

Without ever knowing when relief will come.

But listen -

Not every battle is meant to break you.

Not every dark night is meant to stay.

Some storms exist just to remind you

That you are strong enough to stand in the rain.

You may have a hundred tomorrows that feel the same,

Each one heavy, each one gray.

But one day, you'll wake up,

And the air will feel lighter,

And the weight you carried will be gone,

And you'll realize - this was the tomorrow you were waiting for.

Showing up

Love is showing up, especially when it's hard. It's 

hearing the silence and choosing to lean in, not step

back. It's reaching for your hand when you feel like

you're falling apart. It's meeting you in the mess,

not waiting for you to be "okay" again. Love carries

the weight with you. It doesn't let you do it all alone.

It stays. It fights. It listens. Real love makes you feel

safe, seen, and never like too much. Hold onto that.

Write it down. Don't settle for anything less.

~The Misfit Momma

Leave the space

 Sometimes the bravest thing you'll do is leave

the space where you're not loved well. Not

because you don't care, but because you finally 

do, about yourself. Walking away doesn't

mean you're heartless. It means you're done

abandoning yourself to be chosen. There's

power in knowing when to let go. There's

peace in choosing yourself. Let that be the love

story you write next.

Amicably

 Narcissists tend to steer clear of ending

relationships amicably. They take pleasure in

catching you off guard, withholding explanations,

and thriving on the emotional turmoil they cause.

This behavior gives them a sense of power and 

satisfaction while disregarding the close relationship

they once shared with you, and treating you as if you

were practically strangers.

Normalize

 Normalize walking away from a man

who goes silent. If he hasn't 

responded in hours or days...that

silence is intentional. He saw your

message. He knows he hasn't

reached out. He's not too busy or too

exhausted...he simply doesn't care

enough to reply. And that's painful to 

accept...but it's the reality. You've

been understanding, patient, and

devoted...but effort shouldn't come

from only one side. A man who truly

wants you will never take the chance 

of losing you. He'll make time, return

your calls, and stay connected. You

shouldn't have to plead for attention

or question his place in your life. So

stop sending follow-up texts. Stop

waiting around. Don't let your effort

turn into desperation. Leave with your

dignity intact. Because the right man 

won't keep you wondering...and the 

wrong one doesn't deserve your chase.

Go back

i won't go back

to someone who didn't see my worth.

i know it's hard to be alone. there are nights when

i miss them, when the silence feels too heavy, and

my heart feels tired. but being alone is still better

than being with someone who never really cared.

they only kept me because they needed me, not

because they truly wanted me. they stayed for the

comfort, not for the love.

so i won't return to a place that broke me. i am not

someone people can use when it's convenient. i am

not an option. I deserve to be loved for who i am, not

just for what i can give.

for now, i will walk away from what hurt me.

I deserve better.

Cannot lead

 From Jamir Hezekiah

A man who cannot lead will always be frustrated by a strong woman.

A strong woman carries herself with confidence and purpose. She knows what she wants and where she is going. She is not looking for someone to complete her because she is already whole.

She wants a partner, not a project or a boy pretending to be a man.

But a man who lacks direction, maturity, or ambition will not admire her strength. He will see it as a threat. He will mistake her independence for arrogance and her standards for being too much.

He will feel insecure beside a woman who chooses him but does not need him.

A man who cannot lead will feel small next to a woman who leads herself. He will try to control what he cannot compete with. He will try to silence what he cannot match. Instead of rising to meet her, he will try to bring her down. But a strong woman does not need control. She needs leadership rooted in wisdom, integrity, and love. A man secure enough to respect her voice. A man who knows leadership is not about control but about guidance and partnership. Many men want the benefits of a strong woman...her loyalty, her love, her support...but they are not prepared to lead her. Leadership means creating a safe space where she can trust, rest, and be soft without sacrificing her strength.

A man who cannot lead will want her to shrink so he feels big. But a real man will step up. He will lead in a way that honors her strength. He will walk beside her, building a path they can walk together. Ladies, never dim your light for a man's comfort. A real leader will not be intimidated by you...he will be inspired.

And men? If you are praying for a strong woman, make sure you are prepared to be a strong man. She is not looking for someone to crown. She is looking for someone already walking in wisdom, strength, and love.

Waiting room

 The waiting room is the space between

our prayer and His promise.

Where we don't see the full picture,

but we are still called to trust.

Where our timelines are surrendered,

and our trust is tested.

~lettersofannawin

Doesn't care

She Doesn't Hate Him

She Just Doesn't Care 

Anymore 

No anger.

No grudges.

No pain in her voice.

Just peace.

Just silence.

Just distance.

Because healing isn't always loud -

sometimes it's just

finally feeling...nothing.

~@saychology

Offended

 People who are guilty of

mistreating you are offended

by everything you say.

Sometimes

 Sometimes people pretend you're 

a bad person so they don't feel guilty about the

things they did to you.

~Kings coach

Loudest faith

 From lettersofannawin

The silence between my prayer

and the answer was the loudest

faith I've ever had.

End of myself

 From lettersofannawin

In English we say:

"I don't know what to do."

In poetry we say:

"I've reached the end of myself

and found it was the beginning

of grace."

Normalize

 Normalize not trying harder when someone makes you feel unwanted.

Stays

 you should never have to fight to keep

someone in your life - if it is love it 

will stay. love always stays.

~haley macLeod

Never question

 From The Depth of Her Soul

You should never have to question where you

stand with me or wonder if I'll walk away when

things get hard, because when it's real, when it's 

love, it doesn't leave it stays, even when the road

gets heavy and the silence feels too loud. I didn't

choose you for the easy days, I chose you for all of 

them, because loving you is not something I do

out of convenience, it's something my soul does

without hesitation. You will never have to fight to

keep me, baby, because I'm already yours, in 

every way that matters. I'm not going anywhere

when your heart is heavy, when your walls rise, or

when life tests your strength. I'll be right here,

arms wide, heart open, steady and strong for you.

Because real love doesn't flinch at storms, it

begs to be seen, it sees you even in the quiet. It

doesn't demand perfection, it embraces you in all

your rawness, in all your fire, in all your softness. I

will stay because you are my home, because

loving you is the most natural truth I've ever

known, and nothing in this world could make me

want to let go of the one person who makes my

heart feel full and my world feel right. So no, you'll

never have to fight to keep me, because I was

never meant to leave I was meant to love you, stay...

He

He chased you. Chose you. Promised you.

Showed up with charm, passion, and all the right words.

You didn't force it he wanted you. Slowly, you trusted him,

let him in. Then...he faded. The effort dwindled. His gaze 

changed. Not because of you, but because of his unhealed

battles, the pain he never faced. Instead of doing the work,

he hurt the one who loved him.

You wondered: Was I too much? Not enough? But his

inconsistency wasn't about your worth it was his

wounds. His ghosts. His inability to give what he promised.

Don't blame yourself for believing. Don't shame

your open heart. That's not weakness it's strength.

The love meant for you won't leave you confused.

It won't be hot and cold. It'll come from a man who's 

done the work who shows up fully, loves deeply, and

cherishes you without hesitation.

Let go of what hurt you. The love you deserve?

It'll feel safe. And it's still coming.

~Deep Minds

Loved deeply

 A woman who loved

deeply doesn't stop

loving overnight. She

slowly bleeds out the love,

memory by memory.

Immaculate

 I saw this post where this guy said:

"She deserves better, but I can't see her

with anybody else, so I became better."

This energy is immaculate.

(Side note but thought the word "immaculate" was an odd choice but when I looked it up, one of the definitions was "not flawed, without error")

Fantasy

Letting go of a fantasy is one of the most painful parts of healing.

Because you're not just grieving a person - you're grieving what they represented.

The dream of finally being chosen.

The illusion of being rescued from your loneliness.

The belief that you were seconds away from being deeply loved.

It hurts to realize that the story was more real than the relationship. But this grief is sacred.

It's honest. It's a turning point. You can mourn what wasn't real and still honor what you hoped for.

Quoted from Chasing Love That Hurts

Imagine

 Imagine hurting someone

whose only goal was to make

you happy

Pathological

 This is a big one. This is the single most

distinguishing characteristic of a pathological

person. If a person can see you breaking down,

crying and in pain, if a person can see your heart is

hurting and that same person can easily overlook 

it, or does not care, then there is something missing

in that person. And the thing that is missing is they

lack empathy. The person will never see your

hurt, or acknowledge any pain you are going

through. In essence the inner most important parts

of you will be ignored. Invalidation is the worst form

of abuse. How could you possibly be with a person

who does not see or understand your pain, or any

emotions regarding your life experiences. Love

cannot live where there is no empathy or 

compassion.

Absence

 Your Absence Will

Teach Them What Your

Presence Never Could

You did everything.

Loved hard. Stayed loyal. Showed up.

And they still didn't appreciate it.

But silence and distance? That's what they'll

remember most.

Your absence will echo louder than your 

loyalty ever did.

~@saychology

Grace

Life gets very quiet before 

all the doors open. I'm

learning that what can feel

like loneliness is actually

grace. Rest. Find your

strength. It will all

change soon.

~J. Lynn

Got upset

 she got upset

because of your actions. you got upset because of her

reaction to your actions. that's not the same.

it's easy to get angry when someone reacts to us. we

think they're overreacting or being too sensitive. but

before you judge her reaction, ask yourself:  what

made her feel that way? what did i do to make her 

feel like she had to defend her heart?

she didn't wake up deciding to get upset. she didn't

want to fight with you. she got upset because

something you did hurt her, even if it seemed small

to you. and you got upset not because of the action,

but because she showed you how much it hurt.

she got upset because of your actions.

you got upset because of her reaction to your actions.

that's not the same , and it never will be.

Trauma bond

 From Surviving a Toxic Narcissist

Why was it so hard to break the trauma bond?

I kept asking myself that question over and over again. I had left. I had walked away. It was out. But inside, in my heart, in my mind...I wasn't.

I still missed him. His touch. His smell. That look in his eyes when he was "being nice." The moments that felt like love, even if they came after days of silence, mood swings, or him making me feel worthless.

And it confused the hell out of me.

Why would I miss someone who hurt m so deeply?

Why did I feel like I couldn't breathe without him, even though he was the reason I kept suffocating?

It took me a while to understand that this wasn't love. It was a trauma bond.

And that bond was strong. It kept me craving the tiniest bits of affection.

The bare minimum. Just enough to make me feel like maybe I mattered.

Looking back now...it breaks my heart. Because I see how little I was actually getting. And how hard I was trying to be "good enough" to deserve it.

I gave everything. My love. My energy. My time. My soul. And what did I get in return?

Moments. Tiny, rare, unpredictable moments of "love" that felt magical - because I was starving. 

Because I got used to being ignored, blamed, and manipulated. So when he gave me a crumb of warmth, I treated it like a feast.

I settled. And I didn't even realize it. That's what the trauma bond does, it keeps you hooked on potential.

On "what if." On "maybe it will be good again."

And it's not your fault if you've been there. I've been there. I know the crying in the middle of the night. The shaking. The guilt. The mourning of someone who isn't even really loving you...but felt like home anyway.

And what helped me break it?

It wasn't therapy (I tried, it didn't help me the way I hoped.)

It wasn't time.

It wasn't even knowledge.

It was me.

Slowly, painfully...choosing to love myself more than I loved the illusion.

I started to learn what love actually looks like. And no, not from a man. From me.

I had to teach myself how to be kind to my body. How to talk to myself like I mattered. How to sit with the pain instead of begging someone else to fix it. And I won't lie...those first steps were the hardest.

Because when you feel unworthy, broken, unlovable...How do you even begin to love yourself?

But that's the work. That's where it starts. And once I found that love within me...everything changed.

I saw my ex-husband clearly. I saw how small the love was. How conditional. How cold. And I no longer wanted to go back. Because I finally had something better.

Me.

Now?

I'm in a relationship that feels safe. That holds me. That doesn't punish me for being human. I'm loved even when I'm not perfect. Even when I'm sad. Even when I don't have the energy to smile.

But I wouldn't have recognized this love if I didn't find it first in myself.

So if you're still holding on...Still mourning those rare, magical moments...

Still hoping he changes or that somehow,

someday, it could work...

Please hear me when I say: You weren't loved properly. And you deserve so much more.

With love,

Mili

Only existed

 Grieving someone who's still

breathing is a quiet kind of 

heartbreak. You're not mourning

a death; you're mourning the

illusion. The version of them you

trusted. The future you planned.

And the love you gave to someone

who only existed in your hopes.

~@its.just_me_ashley

Rather

There will be people that would

rather lose you, than be honest

about what they've done to you.

Let them go.

~Matthew Coast

Don't try

 if they don't see

the value of having

you, don't try to

convince them.

~Bob Marley

Hold tightest

WHY WE HOLD

TIGHTEST

to the things

THAT AREN'T 

MEANT FOR US

I used to wonder how you let go of things that are killing

you, when it feels like it would kill you to let go. How you decide

between "if things are meant to be, they will be" and "if

you want it, you have to go get it."

I think we hold on tightest to the things that aren't meant

for us because at some level, we know they aren't really

ours. We're always seeking the love we know we don't have.

We're always trying to prove the things that are not entirely

self-evident.

We know that when we stop thinking about talking and racking

through the details again and again, it will really be over.

When all that exists is an idea, holding on is the only way to

keep it.

Because letting go has little to do with giving somebody

permission to leave our lives, or declare that they don't love

us anymore, or walk away for good, and everything to do with

accepting that they already have.

I don't know about fate. But I do know the things that are

yours don't require us to mentally and emotionally latch onto

them to remain. That the best things are never forced, are

never created out of ultimatums, never leave us reeling and

questioning them for months or years at a time.

I do know that you cannot prove how much you love by

how much you're pained over loss. That you do not prove

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Illusion

 Grieving someone who's still

breathing is a quiet kind of 

heartbreak. You're not mourning

a death, you're mourning the 

illusion. The version of them you

trusted. The future you planned.

And the love you gave to someone

who only existed in your hopes.

~Its.just_me_ashley 2025

Silent grief

 There's a silent kind of grief in being with

someone who's emotionally unavailable.

You show up with your whole heart, and

they show up with a wall. It's okay to

outgrow that. You deserve softness,

presence and reciprocity.

Waiting room

 The waiting room is the space between

our prayer and His promise.

Where we don't see the full picture,

but we are still called to trust.

Where our timelines are surrendered,

and our trust is tested.

~lettersofannawin

Chase

Don't ever chase after someone to try and prove

to them why they should love you. If they can't

see that already, they're not your person, and

their failure to see you is not your flaw.

~Mark Smith

Emotional inconsistency

People don't talk enough about how

emotional inconsistency can mess

with someone who's been through

trauma. It's not just overthinking or

being sensitive. It's the body reacting

to patterns it had to learn young.

When love turned cold without

warning or silence meant punishment,

the nervous system adjusted. Now

even a change in tone, a delayed

reply, or a shift in someone's vibe can

feel like danger. It's not about being

dramatic. It's about how survival once

depended on noticing every small sign

before things went bad. And that kind 

of wiring doesn't just go away.

Wellness

 Wellness Check

by Andrea Gibson

In any given moment,

on any given day,

I can measure 

my wellness

by this question:

Is my attention on loving,

or is my attention on 

who isn't loving me?

Unavailable

 She didn't block him.

Didn't curse him out.

Didn't beg for closure.

She just became unavailable.

And nothing confuses a man more than a

woman who disappears without making a

scene.

Truly love and respect

Please remember that those who truly

love and respect you will care about

how their actions impact you. They'll

ca about how you feel and will trip

over themselves to fix things if there is

an issue. Remember this when 

someone you love and respect treats

you the opposite.

~Nina Grewal

How ordinary

 When you lose an 

emotional attachment to

someone, you realize how

ordinary they are. It was

your love that made them

seem so special.

Every storm

They say every storm has two purposes:

Destroy what isn't solid...

and reveal what is.

Upset

 I got upset because of what you did.

You got upset because I reacted.

That's not the same. You did

something that hurt me, and I

responded because it mattered to me,

you mattered to me.

I wasn't trying to fight or make things

worse. I was just trying to be honest

about how I felt.

But instead of thinking about what

you did and why it might've hurt me,

you focused on how I responded.

Don't love you

Some people don't love you. They ration you.

They give just enough attention to keep you

close, just enough affection to keep you

hoping, just enough consistency to keep you

doubting your instincts. It is not neglect you can

explain. It it not cruelty you can prove. But it is

the slowest kind of harm, because you start

confusing crumbs with care, and emptiness

with love.

~Zenda Lee Williams

Watering

 You can't keep watering

a relationship that's 

already dead.

No response.

No effort.

No growth.

Yet here you are,

still trying to revive something

that gave up on itself.

Let it die,

so you can live.

~@saychology

Back

My mother told me: a person who

left in anger will always come back.

But the one who left with a

smile will never be back again.

~Idris Elba

Too much

 You cared too much.

That was your only

mistake.

You loved deeply.

You checked in constantly.

You gave endlessly.

And they...

took it for granted.

Called it "too much."

And left like it meant nothing.

~@saychology

Knows

 A man knows his woman

loves him

from the way she looks

at him

A woman knows her man

loves her

from what he does

for her

~@esthersarphatie

Deep exhaustion

 From If You Miss Me

There's a deep exhaustion that comes from

loving a man who hasn't done the work to heal

himself. You give your heart, your patience, your

gentleness...and in return, you're met with 

confusion, resistance, or emotional distance. He

doesn't know how to hold what you offer. He

fumbles with your love, not because you're hard to

love, but because he doesn't know how to receive

something he doesn't believe he deserves.

Loving an unhealed man often feels like standing

in a room full of echoes...you speak, you reach,

you pour, and nothing comes back. You find

yourself over-explaining, over-compensating,

constantly questioning if you're doing enough.

And before you know it, you start thinking you're 

the one who's broken. But the truth is...his

wounds are not your responsibility to mend. His

healing is not your mission.

You are not his savior. You are not his mother. You

are not a therapist in disguise. You are a woman

with a heart that beats with hope, love, and

loyalty...not a fixer assigned to piece together

someone else's brokenness. And when you take

on the weight of trying to heal a man who hasn't

chosen healing for himself...it's you who ends up

carrying the burden. You start shrinking to 

accommodate his pain, tiptoeing around his

triggers, and slowly forgetting your own needs.

A relationship should never feel like a rescue

mission. You're meant to be a partner, not a 

project. You're meant to build with someone who

meets you where you are...not drag someone

along hoping they'll catch up one day. Love should

feel like peace, not pressure. It should lift you, not

drain you. It should be a safe space...not a 

battlefield of emotional confusion.

So if you're loving someone who isn't ready to be

loved, it's okay to step back. Not out of bitterness,

but out of self-preservation. Because no matter

how much potential you see in him....it doesn't

outweigh the reality that you deserve a partner

who is whole, open, and ready. Someone who

doesn't need fixing...but is ready to grow, love,

and rise with you.

A chapter

 Marriage isn't always soft words and warm 

moments. Sometimes it's heavy silence. It's

sleeping back-to-back after a fight. It's showing

up when you're tired, frustrated, and hurt, and

doing it anyway.

The truth is, love isn't proven in the way

times. It's tested in the hard ones. In the 

moments you feel like walking away but

instead, you fight for what you've built. You

lean in when it would be easier to pull away.

That's love. Real, messy, stubborn love.

Marriage is not giving up just because it's 

hard. It's holding each other a little tighter

through the storms, believing that even the

roughest patch is just a chapter, not the end

of the story.

All at once

You don't lose someone all at once.

You lose them in little moments...

when they forget your favorite things,

when they stop noticing your silence,

when they no longer look at you like they used to.

And one day, you realize...you were holding on

while they had already let go.

Someday

Someday, you'll

realize it wasn't your fault.

He just didn't know what to

do with a woman like you.

The ones

It be the ones you'll

do anything for that

treat you like you 

nobody.

Put it down

It's heavy,

it's hurting,

and it's time

to put it down.

You've carried it,

overcompensated because of it

and allowed it to rob you of your peace

long enough.

The past was never meant

to occupy the space in the present

or rend you fearful of the future.

Heal the hurt you've put effort into hiding

and address the core of what is truly affecting you.

~Morgan Richard Olivier

Grace

When you finally learn that a

person's behavior has more to

do with their own internal 

struggle than it does you, you

learn grace.

~MatthewCoast.com

Cannot be

 You cannot be

who you are going to be

and who you used to be

at the same time.

Break you

 They didn't break you. You

broke trying to fix them.

You gave them love.

Support.

Patience.

Everything.

But they stayed the same.

And in the process,

you fell apart trying to

hold them together.

~@saychology

Single

 Being single and having peace of

mind is much better than being

in a relationship where you

feel single and have no peace of mind.

~Kings coach

Unhealed

An unhealed person can find offense in 

pretty much anything someone does.

A healed person understands that the

actions of others has absolutely nothing

to do with them.

Each day you get to decide which one

you will be.

Even here

 Some seasons feel like

survival, but even

here, God is faithful.

Even here, He's loving

me through the mess.

~TobyMac

Liked

 God didn't call you to be liked.

He called you to be light.

And light, by its very nature,

makes darkness uncomfortable.

Necessary

 by TobyMac

God is saying to you:

I'm preparing you for the next step.

The place I'm taking you requires

a stronger version of you,

so trust the process.

The waiting, the refining, the pruning.

It's all necessary.

Chasing love

You are chasing love,

not the person unable to love you.

Unlovable

You are not unlovable because they couldn't

love you.

Sometimes people fail to love you

not because of who you are -

but because of who they are.

They couldn't hold space for your softness.

They couldn't meet you where you loved from.

That doesn't mean your love is wrong.

It means they were not ready.

And that has nothing to do with your worth. 

With him

NEVER JEALOUS WHO'S WITH HIM BECAUSE

I KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE WITH HIM.

I know exactly what it feels like to fall for someone

who wears a mask so well - someone who knows

how to charm, how to say all the right things, how

to make you feel like you're the center of their 

world...until you're not. I've lived through the

highs that felt like magic and the lows that

shattered every piece of my self-worth.

Being with him was like holding onto a storm with

bare hands - chaotic, unpredictable, and

exhausting. I tried to love him through his damage,

through the lies, through the silence that said

more than his words ever could. I stayed when I 

should've left, believing that love could fix what

was broken in him. But you can't heal someone

who refuses to see they're hurting you.

I've cried myself to sleep more nights that I care

to count. I've questioned my value, my strength,

my sanity - not because I was weak, but because

I was too strong for too long. I confused being 

loyal with tolerating emotional neglect. I gave so

much of myself that I forgot who I was.

So, no, I'm not jealous of the one standing in the

place I once stood. I feel nothing but clarity and

peace. Because I know what comes next - the 

empty promises, the guilt-trips, the hot and cold

behavior, the way he'll make her feel like she's not

enough while blaming her for wanting too much.

Let her believe the illusion, I believed it once too.

That's not love - that's survival disguised as romance.

So again, I say it proudly:

NEVER JEALOUS OF WHO'S WITH HIM BECAUSE 

I KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE WITH HIM.

And I wouldn't wish that kind of love on anyone.

Conflict

Conflict doesn't ruin relationships, avoidance does.

Most women aren't looking for a fight. They're

looking for resolution. They want to feel heard,

understood, and reassured that their emotions

matter. But when a man shuts down, withdrawing,

stonewalling, or acting like "it's not a big deal" she

doesn't just feel ignored. She feels unsafe. True

masculine presence in conflict isn't about yelling or

proving a point. It's about staying steady when 

things get tough. It's saying, "I'm here. I'm listening.

I want to understand you, even when it's hard."

Sorry

Sorry but someone who

destroys your mental health

CANNOT be the love of

your life. 

Flung stars

 From lettersofannawin

In English we say:

God is in control.

In poetry we say:

The hands that flung stars into

space are the same hands holding

your trembling heart.

Not lost

You are not lost.

You are simply being reshaped

into a new kind of masterpiece.

One that only you can become. 

A little

 "I look at her and genuinely wonder

how every person who has ever had

the joy of meeting her hasn't fallen

at least a little in love"

Struggle love

 From Deep Minds Anonymous

Don't date broke men. And no, this 

isn't about gold-digging or expecting

a man to buy you designer bags and 

fancy dinners. This is deeper than

money. It's about emotional stability,

peace, and what it means to be in a

relationship where love can grow 

without chaos. Because when a man 

is in financial survival mode, he often

can't love you gently. If there's no

peace in his pockets, there will be no

peace with you. He's constantly

stressed, on edge, fighting invisible

battles in his head, questioning his 

worth, comparing his life to others,

and feeling like he's failing. And

unfortunately, that weight starts to

fall on the people closest to him.

You'll feel it when he becomes

emotionally unavailable, snapping

over small things, shutting down 

instead of opening up, turning cold

when you ask for affection, or even

resenting you simply for being a

witness to his struggle. It's not that

he doesn't love you. It's that he

doesn't love himself in that state. And

until he finds peace within his own

life, you'll always feel like you're

loving him through a storm that never

passes. So no, it's not about the

money. It's about what his lack of 

stability does to his spirit, and how

that slowly spills into yours. Struggle

love isn't romantic. Suffering

together isn't a badge of honor. And

being his peace while he's constantly 

in pieces will drain the life out of you.

You deserve love that feels like

security, not survival. A man who

doesn't just want to provide

financially, but emotionally too. A

man who brings calm to your world,

not chaos. So don't feel guilty for

wanting stability. That's not shallow.

That's protection. Let him heal. Let 

him build. Let him find himself. But

don't let him break you in the process.