See herself once

 From Steven Curtis Chapman

"She's beautiful even though she'll never know it. 

If she could just once see herself through my eyes..."

If they

If they know how to hide it, they know it's wrong;

If they don't do it in front of others,

they know how to control it...

~The Super Powered Mind

Prove

 From lettersofannawin

In English, we say:

"I do not need to prove my worth."

In poetry, we say:

"Gold does not beg to be treasured -

it is valuable simply because it is."

Perhaps

and perhaps

what made her beautiful

was not her appearance

or what she achieved,

but in her love

and in her courage,

and her audacity

to believe:

no matter

the darkness

around her.

Light ran wild

within her,

and that was the way

she came alive,

and it showed up

in everything.

Underrated

 

Underrated green flag:

Someone who is honest

with themselves when

heavy emotions are

moving through them

because they don't want

to project them onto you.

Hated

 You'll be hated if you can't be manipulated.

The opportunity

 From Recession

BOUNDARIES!!

If I don't like the way you speak to me, I won't give you the opportunity to speak to me anymore.

If I don't like the way you deal with me, I won't give you the opportunity to deal with me anymore.

If I don't like the way I feel around you, I won't allow myself to be in that position anymore.

If I can't change these things, I will remind myself that your behavior is a reflection of you, not me.

Detachment

 From The Soul Journey

Detachment isn't about being coldhearted or unkind. It's about honoring who you are, respecting yourself, and protecting your peace.

It's loving people for who they are instead of who you want them to be. It's moving with certainty and trusting your path without needing to control the outcomes.

It's living without fighting and giving without demanding because your intentions are pure and your expectations are placed on yourself, not on others.

It's walking away gracefully from people, places, and experiences that don't align with how you want your life to feel.

It's accepting that you are the only person responsible for how you feel, behave, and live your life.

Detachment is self love and protection. It's a daily commitment to love without need and give without expectation.

It's freedom from chaining your happiness to someone else's actions.

Awards

 Awards that do not exist

(and you're trying to win anyways)

Most perfect.

Never said no.

Rested the least.

Didn't need help.

Worked the longest.

Didn't make any mistakes.

Lived up to everyone's expectations.

Don't care

 They don't care abut you 

if they don't care about

how they make you feel.

Someone who cares would

try to understand how

their actions impact you.

They would make sure

you're supported and your

feelings are taken into

consideration. Because

your well-being is 

important to them.

Accept

 Accept rejection. Don't beg. Never

chase. Know your worth. Choose

yourself.

Unhappy

by Jamir Hezekiah

When a man is unhappy with himself, he will project that unhappiness onto any woman who tries to love him. He will ruin her happiness because he cannot find his own.

So, dear man, work on yourself because a woman's love is not a remedy for your pain. It is not her job to heal the wounds you refuse to face. If you carry unresolved anger, insecurity, or self-doubt, you will inevitably turn her tenderness into a battleground where she constantly fights for a love you have not yet learned to give.

She will try to hold you, to remind you of your worth, but if you do not believe in it yourself, her words will feel like lies. You will push her away, not because she is unworthy, but because deep down, you believe you are. And when a man believes he is unworthy of love, he will unconsciously destroy any love that comes his way. 

You might criticize her, belittle her, or make her feel like she is never enough. Not because she isn't, but because you feel like you aren't. A woman in love will do everything to bring light into your darkness, but if you refuse to let go of the shadows, you will dim her light too.

This is why healing is essential. You cannot pour from an empty cup, nor can you build a loving relationship on a foundation of self-hatred. Work on yourself so that when love comes, you can receive it with open arms instead of rejecting it out of fear.

Heal your past, so you don't bleed onto a woman who had nothing to do with your wounds. Take responsibility for your happiness, so she doesn't have to carry the weight of both her heart and yours. Learn to love yourself, so when she loves you, you believe her.

A good woman will love you deeply, but even the strongest woman cannot save a man who refuses to save himself. If you are broken, acknowledge it. If you are lost, find your way. If you are hurt, seek healing.

Your pain is not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility. No woman deserves to suffer because you refuse to do the work. Love is meant to be a sanctuary, not a place of destruction. So, dear man, work on yourself - not just for her, but for you. Love yourself enough to become the man who can love her the way she deserves.

God knows

In English, we say,

"God knows when I'm ready."

In poetry, we say,
"The potter does not rush the clay - 

He shapes it until it is strong enough to 

hold its purpose."

~lettersofannawin

Consideration

 From Grow Up

Love, in its purest form, is consideration It is not just in words or grand gestures, but in the quiet moments of thoughtfulness. It is when someone remembers the little things that matter to you, when they pause before making a decision because they know it could affect you, when they choose their words with care because your feelings matter to them.

Real love is not just about presence, but about awareness. It is found in the details - the way someone listens, the way they make space for you, the way they hold you in their thoughts even when you are not around. In any bond, the depth of care is measured by the depth of consideration.

Easy to love

From Wilted Flowers

Wait till you have kids

that behave just like you

But I did.

I did have kids that are just like me.

And I realized

how easy it was to love me.

How easy it was to be kind,

to not belittle and humiliate.

I have kids that are just like me,

but they will never feel my heartbreak. 

So enough

from rupi kaur

when you are broken

and he has left you

do not question

whether you were

enough

the problem was

you were so enough

he was not able to carry it

Unknowingly

The problem isn't you.

The problem is the power you

unknowingly give to other people.

~Mel Ribbons

Trained to tolerate

 YOU DON'T ATTRACT ABUSERS.

YOU WERE TRAINED TO TOLERATE THEM.

If your childhood taught you that your needs

don't matter, that love must be earned, that

silence keeps you safe - you weren't set up for love.

You were set up for abuse.

~@rosebrikpoet

How to love

 Love didn't hurt you.

Someone who doesn't know

how to love hurt you. Don't

confuse the two.

Rewriting

 I like how these are taking a "Christian" turn...

In English, we say,

"God is rewriting my story."

In poetry, we say,

"What was once a broken sentence

is now a testimony in the hands of the Author."

~lettersofannawin

Space

 A lot of people benefited from you

playing small most your life. That

chapter is DONE. Step into who you 

are. Take. Up. Space.

Someday

Maybe,

we just found forever

at the wrong time,

and someday, time

will pull us back

together again.

~autumn

Chased God

 In English, we say,

"I don't need to chase love."

In poetry, we say,

"Ruth didn't chase Boaz.
She chased God, and

love found her along the way."

~lettersofannawin

Go silent

Emotional abuse works like this:

You are screamed at, and then, not knowing any better,

you stand up for yourself.

You think this is a way of being strong. You think this is a defense tactic.

But this only provokes more screaming.

Going silent provokes  more screaming too,

but usually it keeps the threats to the minimum.

It keeps it just at screaming and not: a shove down the stairs,

or order to pack your stuff and get out.

So you learn how to go silent.

How to play dead. How to cry without making a noise. How to swallow noise.

How to wipe your cheeks, get out of the car, and go about your day.

You learn.

And when the screaming has stopped, when the two of you are in the car

or out to dinner and they're all smiles, all asking for favors, all questions,

you are still hurt and annoyed and want to ask them, how?

How can you speak to me like this?

How can you pretend you did not say those things?

How can you have forgotten?

But you've learned.

So you listen to,

"Can I borrow your key"s and "how was your day"s

and you play dead. You swallow the noise.

And sometimes it doesn't matter who is speaking to you,

it doesn't matter if they're a friend,

it doesn't matter if their criticism is constructive,

it doesn't matter.

You've learned.

Any sort of speaking, any raising of the voice,

any insult and you play dead.

~Good Girl, Lora Mathis

Fake and real

 THEIR LOVE IS 

FAKE

BUT THEIR HATE IS

REAL

~Narcissist Memes

If ever you are torn

between the two; whether

they are an abuser or the

loving persona they give off,

always remember,

nobody fake abuses you.

~to Educate and Empath

Accountable

 YOU CANNOT BE MARRIED AND YET REFUSE TO BE ACCOUNTABLE.

Marriage isn't just a romantic commitment; it's a covenant of accountability. If you choose to marry, you're choosing to be accountable, completely accountable. You cannot claim to love and respect your spouse while refusing to be transparent in your actions, decisions, and whereabouts. Love demands accountability. Respect requires it.

1. Be accountable with your finances. Every dollar spent affects your household. Discuss, plan, and be transparent about your spending and saving. Financial secrecy breeds mistrust, and mistrust erodes the foundation of marriage.
2. Be accountable in your actions. Your choices impact your spouse and children. Are you acting in their best interest? Are you considering the long-term effects of your actions on your family?
3. Be accountable with your decisions. Major decisions should never be made unilaterally. Marriage is a partnership, and every decision should reflect mutual respect and consideration.
4. Be accountable about where you are. Your spouse deserves to know where you are, not because of control, but because of care and connection.

If you can't commit to being fully accountable, then perhaps marriage isn't the right path for you. Accountability is the backbone of a healthy thriving marriage. It's the ultimate expression of love and respect for your partner and the life you build together.

Continue

 My wish for you is that you continue.

Continue to be who and how you are, to

astonish a mean world with your acts of

kindness.

~Maya Angelou

Notice

 She's pretty, but did you notice 

how she doesn't like to make eye

contact? Or that she struggles to

take a compliment? Did you

notice she's one of those people

who enjoys the little things? Or

that she talks a lot when she's 

happy? Did you notice how hard

she is on herself and how she

thinks she's always failing? Or

how she puts everyone else's

needs above her own? Yeah,

she's pretty, but did you notice?

~Robert Wilkinson, Bobby_Love

Wait for you

 A quote said,

If someone stays and waits for you to change, that's even greater than love.

"A love that waits for you to grow is a love (that)believes in who you (can) become."

~Denotation

(Parentheses added)

Fear love

They fear love because it creates

a world they can't control.

~George Orwell

Maybe

 From dyingful

you were my yes,

but i was only your maybe.

Burning

 I was burning while you came

blaming me for the smell of

ashes.

~Fyodor Dostoevsky

Snatch up

A man who wants you will snatch you the fxxx up. Elusiveness is intentional and indecision is a decision. Accept it for what it is and leave.

Problem-solving

 The things about a narcissist is that problem-solving is off the table.

You're not dealing with someone who wants to resolve anything.

Instead, you're facing an unreasonable person who deflects,

blames, attacks, plays the victim, and resorts to the silent

treatment - all to avoid accountability and keep control.

~Jimmy On Relationships Fan Page

Adults

 Just because I address

something doesn't mean

I'm trying to argue.

I like to talk things out

and I love clarity. We're 

adults, so communicate.

Something wrong

Maybe your biggest

problem is holding on to

the belief that there's

something wrong with you.

Have you considered that that was just a message given

to you at a young age by people who didn't know how to

meet your needs?

It runs deep. And it's time to rewrite that story.

~@theeqschool

Some other life

In some other life,

We are standing

Side by side and

Laughing that,

In some other life

We are apart.

Being quiet

 One of the risks of being quiet is that the

other people can fill your silence with their

own interpretation: You're bored. You're 

depressed. You're shy. You're stuck up.

You're judgmental. When others can't

read us, they write their own story - not

always one we choose or that's true to

who we are.

~Sophia Dembling

Conscience -ly

 A person who can consciously

hurt you, lie about you, try to destroy

your credibility knowing very well

that you are trustworthy, is a person

with no conscience. And a person

with no conscience is a very

dangerous person.

~The Bat Wolf

5%

 On the days

you gave 5%, but

you only had 5% 

to give, you

actually gave

100%.

The way

 You didn't love me, you

just loved the way I loved you.

Which was only ever the way

I hoped you'd love me, too.

~Kristina Mahr

Sometime

& sometime we have to

remind ourselves:

that we are not responsible for other people's poor

behaviour towards us, or their gaslighting, or their

manipulation, or their unkindness. That's on them.

What's on you is how you choose to respond, set

boundaries, know your worth, and not let their actions

impact the beautiful soul that you are.

~h.e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e.

Never let

Never let a man,

convince you that holding him

accountable for his actions

means you're creating negativity,

stress, or drama.

If he didn't want the responsibility

of loving you properly, he 

shouldn't have signed up for it.

A threat

The moment anyone tries to demean or degrade you in any way, you have to know how great you are.

Nobody would bother to beat you down if you were not a threat.

~Cicely Tyson

Empty cup

 I often hear that you can't pour

from an empty cup. But as a 

mother, you can. And you do.

Because even if you have

nothing left to pour from, you

find a way. You will pour from

whatever cup you have.

Anything. Everything. For them.

~Emily Del Degan

More

From getting over you

does it say more

about me or you

if i told you

that i am still her

waiting

to do all the things

we said we would do

Can't choose you

They may love you. But if they

can't choose you, you must

walk away. You are way too

valuable to linger and to wait.

And you deserve to be chosen

unconditionally.

Differently

 Your nervous system

will always choose a

familiar hell over

unfamiliar heaven

Heal, so you can

choose differently

Still

Over time, you may find people begin

to question why you are "still" grieving.

The simplest and truest answer:

I still love them.

And they are still gone.

~@girl_meets_grief

Home life

 A 'Boring' Home Life

We often complain about the repetitiveness of our days.

Day in, day out, the same.

Morning alarm, breakfast, housework, work, looking after everyone

else, dinner, baths, bed, wake up, repeat.

But do we ever stop to think how much peace is in consistency?

How lucky we are if everyday is the same? No big disasters or nasty

surprises? How there is so much value in enjoying home life? to

get up and do the same tasks day and night is actually a blessing.

Laying your head on a pillow at night and thinking of what to cook

for dinner the next day is a level of restfulness some people will

never experience in their whole lifetime. This world can be cruel

and unnecessary, so if you have the peace of a 'boring' home life,

you really have won the lottery of life.

~@deepbreathssmallsteps

Holding back

 My therapist explained it 

like this:

"Most of your intense emotional 

reactions aren't just about what's 

happening now. They're the result

of holding back -- those moments in

the past when you stayed silent,

ignored your feelings, or didn't 

stand up for yourself finally spilling

over."

Now read that again.

Not a burden

 YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN

for needing help

for having feelings

for wanting understanding

for struggling

for showing weakness

for being in a healing and

learning process.

~Jerico Silvers

Price I paid

from stars at last

the price I paid to exist

was a mother who couldn't love me.

my karma was a daughter

made from stars.

Fear

 "To reject love for fear of

suffering is like rejecting life

for fear of dying."

~Jim Morrison

Shade

Shade coming from a tree

bearing no fruit should

never phase you.

Read that again.

Then one day

And then one day, it just happens.

You look at him, and you think to yourself,

I'm done here. Because finally, it dawns on

you, he's draining all the happiness and joy

from your life, while you patiently wait

for him to change, to choose you, for you

to be what he wants. But here's the secret 

you've learned: You have always been 

enough; he's just not man enough to

deserve you.

My soul

If my eyes could show my soul,

everyone would cry when they 

saw me smile.

~Kurt Cobain

Shrinking

 Stop shrinking

yourself to fit in

all the places you've

already outgrown.

Know your own

worth.

~emynames_ellen

Quiet time

Winter reminds us that

everyone and everything

needs some quiet time.

~Katrina Mayer, The Simplicity Habit 

Capture joy

 To capture

Joy,

we must cast

a net 

of Gratitude

In advance

 

No human being is strong

enough to withstand

seeing too much of God's 

plan in advance.

It must be revealed daily.

We must be led to 

it and through it slowly.

~Lysa TerKeurst