Deadly lie

from Flying Free

by Ramone Probasco, Healing Well and Living Free

Some women falsely equate enduring abuse with developing godliness. Perhaps they have been led to think their abusive situation is a cross they must bear. They have come to believe that if they remain faithful through the abuse, they will become more like Jesus, or they will win their husbands over without a word through their quiet and gentle spirit. This is a deadly lie.

It's true that in this world we will suffer. We may be laid off from work, get diagnosed with a terminal illness, or get in a car accident. These are all examples of bad things that can happen to good people. But abuse is different. Abuse is evil and there is no good in it. No one needs to stick around to be abused. Not me and not you. Abuse is never of God. He does not want you to be anyone's whipping post. God definitely used this extremely painful time in my life for good, but He did not endorse or ignore Ben's actions. Understanding and accepting that God was never to blame for my pain kept me from going down the wrong path. Your suffering was not God's choice, and it is not His fault. It is not yours either. Understanding these foundational truths about God and yourself is paramount to healing well.