Other marriages/divorces

I wrote about this topic before, but I keep thinking about it. I remembered how Pastor Saxe'sson, David, divorced his wife. He might have even remarried. What of that? It's something to think about. I know some people worship that family almost. On a much different scale, there's Amy Grant.

I was also thinking about Steve and Katrina and how during the AGM, the topic was being discussed of no remarriage if there's a divorce. Steve Monty questioned that for Steve, and Pastor said that's the rule. That's doubly sad for Steve, because that would give him no chance for kids if he follows that rule.

What about people who have been hurt, abused even, in a marriage for years and years? Treated unkindly, unloved, etc. They're not allowed to leave their spouse when someone else can give them all of that? I'm thinking this might be the same idea as how we aren't supposed to get revenge on someone who has done us wrong. That is up to God. Is it up to God to make up for Steve not having kids if he chooses the Biblical direction and not remarry? I don't see a reconciliation in their future. Would he want someone back who has rejected him? She obviously doesn't want to be with him. Is she going to "wake up" one day and want to reconcile?

What about Don and Nancy? They've been divorced forever. Are they to work towards reconciliation after all this time, when he has a new life with a new partner, etc.? I suppose so. Nancy is keeping her end of the bargain by not seeking a relationship/marriage with anyone else. So the only thing to free someone from the covenant of marriage is death? That's what it says in the Bible and in wedding vows. As a Christian, you are responsible to God for obeying His commands, no matter what your spouse does. It's unfortunate when your spouse makes that so difficult, but that's the deal in a marriage.

I don't think it's healthy either to act fake like nothing's wrong. If there are issues, they need to be dealt with on both ends. Dad needs help. He is doing it wrong. He's treating us all horribly. Your death has only made him worse, but it's not an excuse. It's hard for him to change though when he doesn't even realize he has a problem. I don't know what it's going to take. That part is not up to me though. I have to do what God says. I have to choose God every time. Over and over again. No matter what I think I am "giving up" or "missing out on". I think that if I do what He says, He will take care of the rest. I need so much help with this, Lord.