Ask yourself

 From Divorce Lawyer Denise

YOU START DETACHING FROM AN AVOIDANT

THE MOMENT YOU ASK YOURSELF THIS:

Is this how I want to be loved for the rest of my life?

Or would you rather be with someone who

chooses you every day? Someone whose

presence doesn't make you anxious about being

left.

Someone who listens to your needs instead of

running from them...Who tries to meet you

halfway instead of creating distance when things

get uncomfortable.

A partner who stays, even during conflict. Who

doesn't disappear when emotions get intense, but

remains present and engaged.

Someone who thinks about how their actions

affect you. And who is willing to take responsibility

when something hurts, instead of avoiding it.

A relationship where you can speak freely without fear.

Where you don't have to walk on eggshells or

constantly worry that saying the wrong thing will 

push them away.

A love where disagreements are moments for 

understanding and growth. Not reasons to shut

down, leave, or turn the relationship into a power

struggle.

Someone who includes you in their life and future.

Who builds with you instead of keeping you at a

distance while you wait.