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 From Melissa M Schlemmer

This comment often rubs people the wrong way because it's usually said to the one who is still standing after the loss of their child. I know it can be meant as a "you're so strong I don't know how you're doing it" comment but it doesn't always feel that way. For many moms it feels like a "you must not love your child as much as I do because here you are standing while I know I couldn't survive" remark. I'm not saying that's the intent...but that's often the interpretation.

With all that said.

You don't survive.

The person I was when he was alive is gone.

She took her last breath too.

She didn't walk out of there with me. I walked out as someone new.

Still unsure of who she is...but we're figuring it out.

What we give

Saw a video that said,

"What we give doesn't always

return, but what we give is

always who we are," and it

changed my whole

perspective. 

Next

 Just keep praying.

God will show you 

what to do next.

Worship

 Sometimes worship looks like

rocking your baby in the church

hallway during the sermon.

That still counts.

God honors that too -

because love offered in faith is never

overlooked.

Bigger than

 What God is preparing for you

is bigger n what you're 

praying for.

Bigger

 by Ruth Writes

You asked for enough - enough money to get

through the month, enough strength to make it to

Friday, enough peace to sleep without

overthinking.

God smiled at your careful prayers and whispered,

"Nah, bigger."

You asked for a job that pays the bills.

He planned a calling that feeds your soul.

You asked for healing from what hurt you.

He wanted freedom from what held you.

You prayed for love that wouldn't leave.

God prepared love that would grow you.

You asked for calm days.

He designed brave ones.

You wanted answers by tomorrow.

God was building something that would still make

sense years from now.

While you were asking for survival, He was writing

abundance. While you wanted safe, He wanted

full.

So don't shrink your hope.

Don't negotiate your faith.

The same God who carried you before is still

expanding you now.

You prayed for enough.

He answered with fruitfulness.

Nah...bigger.

~Ruth

No peace

 A divorce lawyer once said something 

that stays with you. There is no peace

in a home where a woman is 

emotionally, mentally, and financially

drained by the man who promised to

protect her. Men rest when there is

peace. Women create peace only when

they are met with love, respect, and

care. You cannot expect a woman to

build a safe home when her spirit is 

exhausted, her heart is hurting, and 

her soul feels invisible. A peaceful

home begins with how you treat the

woman holding it together.

Because a home is not built from walls, furniture, or money - it's built from emotional safety.

It is built from the way words are spoken, the way disagreements are handled, and the way love is shown in small, consistent actions.

When a woman feels valued, she nurtures the space around her. When she feels heard, she softens. When she feels supported, she flourishes.

But when she feels alone in a relationship, she slowly stops trying. Not because she doesn't care, but because she is tired of caring by herself.

Peace disappears not in loud arguments, but in silent disappointments that pile up over time.

In the quiet moments where she realizes she is carrying the weight of the relationship alone.

A peaceful home begins long before the decorations and the smiles - it begins in how a man treats the woman when no one is watching.

Because when she feels safe, loved, and respected, she becomes the warmth that makes a house feel like home.

~Malika TV