Stays

 The One Who Stays

you do not need a crowd.

crowds leave

when the weather turns

and the room gets quiet.

you need one person

who knows the worst of you

and still pulls up a chair.

one person

who stands behind your name

when everyone else

uses it like a weapon.

someone who says,

I know who you are,

when even you forget.

that is not friendship.

that is shelter

with a heartbeat.

~Justin Hatchett

Less effort

 Here's the truth:

His affair partner isn't your

competition.

She's not even in your league.

She's simply a symptom of what's 

broken in him, not in you.

So stop comparing yourself to her.

It's not because she's better than you.

Your husband simply had to put in 

far less effort to get her.

Care deeply

 You can care deeply for someone

AND
still decide their behavior

isn't something you can keep

allowing in your life.

~@drhenrycloudofficial

Reveals

 Getting caught up on these...(and the end of this actually happened)

Don't Cheat On

Your Wife

The more you hide something, 

the harder you try to cover it up,

the wider the door of truth will open.

The wife is endowed

with strong instincts.

There's no need to search

for lies they'll find their way.

And often,

it's not the wife who reveals it,

but God who reveals

everything in ways

you never imagined.

Insecure

 Insecure men cheat on women

who are out of their league with

someone who makes them feel

like the better half - it feeds their

damaged ego.

Easier

 The struggle continues...

Here's the point.

When a man cheats, it doesn't

prove you're not enough.

It often reflects his own

insecurity.

Because he can't control the

woman he's with, he looks for

someone with lower standards

whom he believes will be easier

to manipulate.

Once again...

Someone easier to control.

Trauma

Still struggling with this...

 Betrayed partners often search for the trauma

that made the cheater cheat.

"Maybe it was childhood trauma."

"Maybe they were abandoned."

And sometimes, those things are true.

Trauma can shape a person.

It can leave deep emotional scars that affect how

they think, trust, and cope with life.

But trauma does not make someone cheat.

Millions of people carry childhood trauma,

betrayal, abuse, neglect, rejection, or 

abandonment and still remain faithful.

They still choose honesty over deception.

They still refuse to destroy the person they love.

Trauma may explain someone's struggles.

It does not excuse their choices.

The tragedy is that many betrayed partners

become so focused on healing the cheater that

they fail to see their own trauma taking hold.

Compassion is admirable.

Understanding another person's pain is a beautiful

quality.

But never become so committed to the cheater's

trauma that you forget they gave you yours.

The cheater is not fighting trauma.

They are the trauma.