Restoration is precious because it costs someone something.
Dear Hayden
I started this blog soon after the death of my beautiful 17-year-old son, Hayden, as a way to deal with my grief. I titled it "Dear Hayden" because at first I wrote as if I was writing to him. My use of the word "dear" ended up being twofold: "used as an affectionate or friendly form of address" and "regarded with deep affection; cherished by someone." Many posts are saved quotes, song lyrics, Bible verses, poems, etc. with credit given to the actual authors as much as possible. Enjoy~
Monday, July 13, 2026
Beautiful
One thing that became
clearer as I got older:
people are not beautiful for
how they look or speak.
They're beautiful for how they
love, care, and treat others.
Sold as
Porn = loneliness sold as intimacy.
Alcohol= poison sold as escape.
Drugs = numbness sold as peace.
Scrolling = distraction sold as rest.
Fast food = harm sold as pleasure.
Notifications = control sold as urgency.
Social media = validation sold as connection.
The best parts of being human
deserve more than artificial fuel.
Nowhere by accident
Jen Young shared this on our ladies' group text...
Blessing: Nowhere By Accident by Richard Halverson
You go nowhere by accident.
Wherever you go, God is sending you.
Wherever you are, God has put you there.
God has a purpose in your being there.
Christ lives in you and has something He wants to do through you where you are.
Believe this and go in the grace and love and power of Jesus Christ.
(Richard Halverson was the former chaplain of the U.S. Senate)
His notebook
WHAT GOD WRITES IN
HIS NOTEBOOK ABOUT YOU
~She kept going today, even though nobody would have known if she didn't.
~She almost sent that text. She didn't. I'm proud of her.
~She's softer than she was six months ago. She hasn't noticed yet.
~She's carrying more than she's told anyone. I see it.
~She's stopped seeking approval from people who never really saw her.
~She's about to surprise herself. She has no idea.
~She's mine. She always has been.
~jacqueline whitney
Friday, July 10, 2026
Staying
By Mary Ann Mateo Rigor
Staying after betrayal is its own kind of heartbreak.
People often think that walking away is the hardest
decision. But sometimes, choosing to stay
requires even more strength. Every day becomes a
quiet battle between wanting to believe again and
remembering everything that happened. You want
to move forward, but the pain doesn't disappear
just because the affair is over.
When someone stays, it doesn't mean they've
forgotten or that everything is suddenly okay. It
means they're waking up each day and choosing
to try, even while carrying questions, fears, and
memories they never asked for. Rebuilding trust
isn't something that happens with one apology. It
happens through time, consistency, and a
willingness to repair what was broken.
Some betrayals leave wounds that can't be seen.
The affair may end, but healing is a much longer
journey. For the person who stays, every step
forward is an act of courage, because loving again
after being deeply hurt is never as simple as
deciding to stay.
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