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 Today's Message:

God is saying to you today,

"I'm about to answer the prayer you 

stopped praying. The one you filed

under 'impossible.' Nothing is

impossible for me. Watch."

Being unhappy

From May Ann Mateo Rigor

Being unhappy is not a free pass to betray someone.

One of the biggest lies people tell themselves is the cheating happened because something was missing in the relationship. They blame the lack of attention, affection, intimacy, or appreciation, as if those things somehow erase the responsibility of the choices they made.

The truth is, every relationship goes through difficult seasons. People feel lonely. They argue. They grow apart. But those moments don't force anyone to be unfaithful. Long before the affair happened, there were other choices available. They could have spoken honestly, asked for help, worked on the relationship, or ended it with respect. Instead, they chose deception.

The most painful part isn't that they were unhappy. It's that they expected their unhappiness to justify creating even greater pain for someone who trusted them. They wanted understanding for their actions while giving none to the person they betrayed.

Being unhappy may explain why a relationship is struggling. It will never explain away betrayal. If you no longer want the relationship, leave with honesty. Don't keep someone believing they are loved while you're secretly breaking the promises you made to them.

Because the moment you choose betrayal over honesty, your unhappiness stops being the issue. Your character becomes the story.

Red flags

 You didn't ignore the

red flags because

you were blind.

You ignored them 

because you wanted

the relationship.

Red flags do not always hide. Sometimes we

explain them away because we are emotionally

invested in the outcome. Healing begins when you

stop judging yourself and start telling yourself the

truth.

You didn't ignore the red flags because you were 

blind.

You ignored them because you wanted the

relationship.

You wanted the connection to be real.

You wanted the potential to become promise.

You wanted the good moments to outweigh the

inconsistency.

You wanted the story in your head to become the

truth in front of you.

But sometimes wanting something badly can

make you negotiate with what your spirit already

knows.

The Mirror is where you stop shaming yourself for

what you ignored and start getting honest about 

why you ignored it.

You were not blind.

You were attached.

And now that you can see it clearly, you can 

choose differently.

~Kim Love Jones

Never

 (Side note: can omit the word "never" but this was all happening before I found that out)

He never cheated.

But every concern she

raised turned into a

CONFLICT she had to survive.

He never cheated.

But he let her go to sleep hurting,

night after night, without ever

trying to reach her.

He never cheated.

But she had to practically BEG

to feel seen, to feel heard,

to feel like she mattered

enough to talk to.

He never cheated.

But she was LONELY inside the

relationship in ways that left

marks just as deep.

Cheating is not the only way

to DAMAGE someone who

loves you. Sometimes 

the slow erosion of neglect

does far more harm.

Insecurity

 Nothing satisfies an

insecure narcissistic man

more than emotionally

punishing a woman he

believes is too good

for him.

Emotional abuse rarely begins with cruelty. It often begins with admiration, attention, and the promise of love. Over time, insecurity can show itself through control, manipulation, and attempts to make another person feel smaller.

No one deserves to be punished for being kind, confident, or genuinely loving. Healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, and emotional safety - not fear, guilt, or control.

If someone repeatedly makes you question your worth instead of reminding you of it, pay attention to the pattern. Protecting your peace is never something you should feel guilty about.

Won in life

 I won in life. I fell in love with a man

who broke my heart and then rebuilt

it with his own hands.

A man who did not run from what he did.

A man who chose the hard road of repair

over the easy road of walking away.

We aren't perfect. We are just both

willing to do the work that makes a

person worth staying for.

I won in life. I fell in love with a man who broke my

heart and then rebuilt it with his own hands. A man

who didn't run from what he did. A man who

chose the hard road of repair over the easy road of

walking away. We aren't perfect. We are just both

willing to do the work that makes a person worth

staying for.

He owned it without excuses. He sat in the mess

he made and stayed long enough to clean it up. He

learned my triggers, my silences, the way I go

quiet when I'm hurt instead of loud.

We fight, we heal, we talk it out at 1 am when pride

wants us to sleep on it. We apologize first. We 

choose each other again on the ordinary days, not

just the romantic ones.

Love isn't finding someone who never hurts you.

It's finding someone who's terrified to lose you, so

they do the work to keep you. That's the win.

Tables turn

 Please let the tables turn.

I'm so tired. let me experience genuine

things in life. let me meet people who mean

what they say and stay true to their words.

let me know what it feels like to be chosem

without confusion, loved without conditions,

and appreciated without having to beg for it.

i've carried enough disappointment, enough

lessons, and enough heartbreak. for once, let

things works out in my favor. let the good

things find me too.