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 Today's Message:

God is saying to you today,

"I'm about to answer the prayer you 

stopped praying. The one you filed

under 'impossible.' Nothing is

impossible for me. Watch."

Being unhappy

From May Ann Mateo Rigor

Being unhappy is not a free pass to betray someone.

One of the biggest lies people tell themselves is the cheating happened because something was missing in the relationship. They blame the lack of attention, affection, intimacy, or appreciation, as if those things somehow erase the responsibility of the choices they made.

The truth is, every relationship goes through difficult seasons. People feel lonely. They argue. They grow apart. But those moments don't force anyone to be unfaithful. Long before the affair happened, there were other choices available. They could have spoken honestly, asked for help, worked on the relationship, or ended it with respect. Instead, they chose deception.

The most painful part isn't that they were unhappy. It's that they expected their unhappiness to justify creating even greater pain for someone who trusted them. They wanted understanding for their actions while giving none to the person they betrayed.

Being unhappy may explain why a relationship is struggling. It will never explain away betrayal. If you no longer want the relationship, leave with honesty. Don't keep someone believing they are loved while you're secretly breaking the promises you made to them.

Because the moment you choose betrayal over honesty, your unhappiness stops being the issue. Your character becomes the story.

Red flags

 You didn't ignore the

red flags because

you were blind.

You ignored them 

because you wanted

the relationship.

Red flags do not always hide. Sometimes we

explain them away because we are emotionally

invested in the outcome. Healing begins when you

stop judging yourself and start telling yourself the

truth.

You didn't ignore the red flags because you were 

blind.

You ignored them because you wanted the

relationship.

You wanted the connection to be real.

You wanted the potential to become promise.

You wanted the good moments to outweigh the

inconsistency.

You wanted the story in your head to become the

truth in front of you.

But sometimes wanting something badly can

make you negotiate with what your spirit already

knows.

The Mirror is where you stop shaming yourself for

what you ignored and start getting honest about 

why you ignored it.

You were not blind.

You were attached.

And now that you can see it clearly, you can 

choose differently.

~Kim Love Jones

Never

 (Side note: can omit the word "never" but this was all happening before I found that out)

He never cheated.

But every concern she

raised turned into a

CONFLICT she had to survive.

He never cheated.

But he let her go to sleep hurting,

night after night, without ever

trying to reach her.

He never cheated.

But she had to practically BEG

to feel seen, to feel heard,

to feel like she mattered

enough to talk to.

He never cheated.

But she was LONELY inside the

relationship in ways that left

marks just as deep.

Cheating is not the only way

to DAMAGE someone who

loves you. Sometimes 

the slow erosion of neglect

does far more harm.

Insecurity

 Nothing satisfies an

insecure narcissistic man

more than emotionally

punishing a woman he

believes is too good

for him.

Emotional abuse rarely begins with cruelty. It often begins with admiration, attention, and the promise of love. Over time, insecurity can show itself through control, manipulation, and attempts to make another person feel smaller.

No one deserves to be punished for being kind, confident, or genuinely loving. Healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, and emotional safety - not fear, guilt, or control.

If someone repeatedly makes you question your worth instead of reminding you of it, pay attention to the pattern. Protecting your peace is never something you should feel guilty about.

Won in life

 I won in life. I fell in love with a man

who broke my heart and then rebuilt

it with his own hands.

A man who did not run from what he did.

A man who chose the hard road of repair

over the easy road of walking away.

We aren't perfect. We are just both

willing to do the work that makes a

person worth staying for.

I won in life. I fell in love with a man who broke my

heart and then rebuilt it with his own hands. A man

who didn't run from what he did. A man who

chose the hard road of repair over the easy road of

walking away. We aren't perfect. We are just both

willing to do the work that makes a person worth

staying for.

He owned it without excuses. He sat in the mess

he made and stayed long enough to clean it up. He

learned my triggers, my silences, the way I go

quiet when I'm hurt instead of loud.

We fight, we heal, we talk it out at 1 am when pride

wants us to sleep on it. We apologize first. We 

choose each other again on the ordinary days, not

just the romantic ones.

Love isn't finding someone who never hurts you.

It's finding someone who's terrified to lose you, so

they do the work to keep you. That's the win.

Tables turn

 Please let the tables turn.

I'm so tired. let me experience genuine

things in life. let me meet people who mean

what they say and stay true to their words.

let me know what it feels like to be chosem

without confusion, loved without conditions,

and appreciated without having to beg for it.

i've carried enough disappointment, enough

lessons, and enough heartbreak. for once, let

things works out in my favor. let the good

things find me too.

Unresolved insecurity

(Side note: Not sure if I totally agree with this, but interesting thought. Also could explain both of my marriages)

Nothing makes an 

insecure man happier

then emotionally

punishing a woman

who's too good for him.

Nothing exposes unresolved insecurity faster than

someone who tries to shrink another person 

instead of growing themselves.

Sometimes when a person feels deeply 

inadequate, they don't respond by becoming more

disciplined, more emotionally mature, or more

confident. Instead, they try to lower the

confidence of the person standing beside them.

It can look like constant criticism disguised as

"honesty." Dismissing achievements instead of

celebrating them. Making jokes that slowly chip

away at self-esteem. Withholding affection,

creating unnecessary conflict, or making someone

question their own worth.

Psychologically, insecurity doesn't always show up

as shyness, it can also appear as control, jealousy,

contempt, or a constant need to feel superior.

When someone believes they can't rise to meet

another person's standards, they may try to pull

that person down instead.

Of course, not every critical or insecure partner

behaves this way, and this dynamic isn't limited to

one gender. But when love repeatedly leaves

someone feeling smaller, less confident, and 

emotionally drained, it's worth asking whether the

relationship is nurturing them or diminishing them.

The healthiest partners don't compete with your

light, they protect it. They don't feel threatened by

your confidence, your success, or your happiness.

They feel proud to stand beside it.

Meant for me

 (Side note: This is a very sad thought)

I know you're the one I always believed 

was meant for me. And you cheated.

Sometimes I wish I'd never met you.

I can't wish I'd never loved you, because if we had met, I know I

would have fallen hopelessly in love with you all over again.

So instead, I wish we'd never crossed paths at all.

Because this is where loving you would have led me. I imagined a

future that existed only with you.

I can't stop loving you, even after you cheated. My heart still feels

the same.

So I wish I'd never met you.

Because I know I would have ended up exactly where I am now.

Shattered.

And still choosing to stay.

Reminding someone

You shouldn't have to keep reminding

someone to treat you with kindness.

Once or twice? Sure.

We all make mistakes.

But when someone keeps hurting you

after you've already told them how it feels,

that's no longer a mistake. It's a choice.

The people who truly care don't need

the same lesson over and over.

They listen. They remember. And they do better.

Terrified

 From Jay Tibbs

Everybody's terrified of being cheated on.

Almost nobody's worried about the thing

that quietly ends far more relationships:

emotional immaturity.

Different now

"She's different now,"he said. I was too much 

of an a..hole to see how beautiful she really

was. Her heart was beautiful, she cared so

much about me, and I never understood why.

I never treated her the way she deserves to

be treated. "Why, I asked?" Because her love

scared me. Her love was so intense. With her

I really could have been happy. I almost

forgot how beautiful  her smile was. I forgot

because she hasn't smiled lately. She just

cried. It was a shame. She wasted so many

tears for someone like me."

Nobody

 Nobody cooks for her.

Nobody cleans for her.

Nobody makes her meals.

Nobody does her laundry.

Nobody checks if she's

okay. And NOBODY takes

care of her, period.

Yet she's STILL expected to

take care of everyone else...

like she's not even HUMAN.

(Side note: a little extreme, but relatable)

Fell

Yes,

I failed.

I fell.

But that was never

the end of me.

Nebulae collapse,

and stars are born.

The Phoenix burns,

turns to ash,

and rises.

So do I.

I am not defined

by my fall,

but by my return.

Again.

Again.

I rise.

~The Phoenix Poem