Obsession

 From Sabrina Alexis

Obsession isn't always about them. Sometimes it's about the void they're filling.

When your life feels flat, fixating on someone gives you a storyline - something to decode, something to hope for, something to feel. The anxiety starts to look like passion. The uncertainty starts to look like chemistry.

But you're not in love with a person. You're in love with having someone to think about.

The work isn't forcing yourself to stop thinking about them. It's asking what you were avoiding before they showed up.

Why do we obsess over certain people?

Sometimes, obsession gives your life a

sense of purpose, especially if you're

feeling disconnected, uninspired, or

directionless.

Fantasizing about someone gives your 

day a plotline; something to hope for,

something to analyze, something 

to feel. If you life feels boring, flat,

or uncertain, that emotional high of

"maybe this is something" can

become intoxicating.

It gives you dopamine. It gives you

something to do with all your anxious

energy.

~Detached