Emotionally

 From Women things

This one broke me.

"An emotionally unavailable dad

and an emotionally unstable mom

often create an emotionally intelligent child."

Because that child had to learn early.

How to read moods.

How to stay quiet.

How to mediate chaos they didn't create.

They became observant instead of carefree.

Empathetic instead of protected.

Mature instead of nurtured.

They learned emotional intelligence

not because they were guided,

but because they had to survive.

They became the listener.

The fixer.

The safe one.

That kind of intelligence is earned through

absence,

not teaching.

And while it looks admirable,

it often comes at the cost of their own unmet

needs.

That child didn't grow up fast by choice.

They adapted.

And adaptation is not the same as being okay.

This one broke me.

An emotionally unavailable

dad and an emotionally

unstable mom often create an

emotionally intelligent child.