Unseen

 From Malika TV

"When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving."

They pour into everyone else, endlessly, instinctively, hoping that one day someone will finally notice the emptiness they've been carrying. They give time, energy, patience, loyalty, understanding - often at the expense of themselves. Not because they don't need it, but because they learned early that love had to be earned, not received freely.

So they became the caretaker.

The fixer.

The emotional anchor.

The one who shows up no matter how tired they are, no matter how little they're given in return.

They read the room. Anticipate needs. Carry emotional weight that was never theirs to hold. They stay longer than they should, try harder than they must, and forgive more than is healthy - because somewhere deep inside, they believe that being useful is the same thing as being loved.

And the hardest part?

They aren't trying to be strong.

They aren't trying to be selfless heroes.

They're just waiting.

Waiting for someone to finally do for them what they've spent their entire life doing for everyone else.

Waiting to be chosen without having to prove their worth.

Waiting to be poured into without first emptying themselves.

That kind of love isn't loud or demanding - it's quiet, exhausted, and hopeful. And when someone like that finally receives real, reciprocal care, it changes everything.

My therapist told me:

"When a person grows up feeling

unseen, they learn to love by

over-giving. They pour into everyone

else, hoping that, one day, someone

will finally pour back into them. So

they become the care taker. The fixer.

The one who shows up, even when no

one shows up for them." And thhe

hardest part? Deep down, they're not

trying to be strong. They're just

waiting for someone to do for them

what they've spent their whole life

doing for everyone else.