Triggered

 From Malika tv

Emotional closeness, disagreements, communication, and expectations are all parts of a healthy

relationship.

But here's the hard truth - these exact things are often triggering to a dismissive avoidant. They

feel safest at a distance, not because they can't see the value in love, but because real intimacy

threatens the emotional walls they've spent years, maybe decades, building to protect themselves.

For them, closeness can feel like a loss of control, disagreements can feel like rejection, and healthy

communication can feel like pressure.

This means that the very behaviors that nurture and sustain a healthy relationship - open dialogue,

shared vulnerability, mutual accountability - can be interpreted by them as suffocating or unsafe.

So instead of leaning in, they pull away. Instead of talking things through, they shut down or 

become distant.

If you are someone who values connection, honesty, and working through challenges side by side,

you must face a difficult question: is it realistic to expect a healthy relationship with a person who is

triggered by the very behaviors that make a relationship thrive?

Because love alone isn't enough. You can pour your heart, your time, and your energy into them,

but if every attempt at closeness feels to them like a threat rather than a gift, the foundation will

always be shaky. Healthy love requires two people willing to meet in the middle, not one person

constantly shrinking themselves to avoid triggering the other's fears. And if you find yourself doing

all the emotional heavy lifting, you're not in a relationship - you're in a survival game you never signed up for.

Emotional closeness,

disagreements, communication,

and expectations are all parts of 

a healthy relationship.

These are all triggering to a 

dismissive avoidant.

If you want a healthy

relationship, ask yourself this:

is it realistic to expect a healthy

relationship with a person that

is triggered by healthy 

relationship behaviors?