Therapy

 People in therapy are often in therapy to deal with the people in their lives who won't go to therapy.

Power

There's so much power in 

believing that everything 

will work out even when you

don't know how or when.

You just believe that it will.

~The Universe

Definition

 a man's definition of peace is a woman tolerating disrespect in silence.

Stayed

She stayed because she loved

him, he changed so she

wouldn't leave, she learned to

love him again, and he

learned to improve for her.

~@manueel_carino

Not love

 Love does not leave you traumatized

and needing therapy. What happened to 

you was not love.

Search stopped

the search stopped at you.

i like myself more

when you're around.

i breathe a little deeper

i sleep soundly and love

without fear, and i think it all

comes down to one thing

you understand me like

no one else ever has.

~s. colinson

Don't belong

 Your kids don't belong around

people who disrespect you...

Separate ways

 He says: "Our relationship isn't working;

we should go our separate ways." But

my dad once said about my mom:

"We started to argue more often, and I

lost hope, thinking we might divorce.

Then I decided to act. I reminded myself

that I had the most beautiful woman on 

earth. I showered her with flowers,

kisses, and compliments. I gave her

gifts, lived for her, and spoke about her

with pride. Believe it or not, she started

to bloom in ways I'd never seen before.

That's when I realized something: a

woman is a reflection of the man who

loves her. When a man loves her deeply,

she becomes everything he ever

dreamed of." Actions speak louder than

words.

Go

When

God

says

GO.

Don't

look 

back.

~Toby Mac

Blind man

 The day the blind man sees;

the first thing he throws

away is the stick that 

helped him all his life.

Read twice.

Hate silence

 I used to hate silence. It reminded me of all the

times I was ignored, punished, frozen out. Being

alone felt like abandonment. But after

everything, I needed the quiet. I needed to hear

my own thoughts without someone twisting

them. I needed space that didn't come with

tension. And once I got it, I realized I was never

scared of being alone. I was scared of being

lonely in the wrong relationship.

Something

there was something 

about you that spoke

a language my soul

could understand.

you were going to be

you, no matter what.

it was so different

from the way of this

world,

and if i'm honest,

i fell for that.

~JmStorm

Difference

 Have probably posted before...

My life got better

when I realized I

didn't have to be nice.

Nice got me ran over, stressed out and

disrespected. I'm not nice. 

I'm a good person.

There's a difference.

Magnitude

 The worst part is he truly

believes he did nothing wrong

and he'll never understand

the magnitude of the damage

that he caused.

Flower-hearted

I will not give up

the flowers in my heart

for stones

just because the world

is a hard place.

The world is only hard

because it needs more

flower-hearted people.

~Nikita Gill

Consistent action

If their apology is real, the

behavior changes.

Remorse isn't measured in

words but in consistent

action. Empty apologies are

just tools to silence you

while they keep the comfort

of denial over the cost of 

accountability.

~Robert Wilkinson 

Too real

 Some love stays --

not because it 

should, but because

it's too real to leave.

Casualties

 Sometimes we become

casualties of a war

someone is fighting

against themselves.

~Stephanie Bennett-Henry

Blessed defeat

 Every story of 

conversion is the

story of a blessed

defeat.

~C.S. Lewis

Second chances

 The Beauty of Second

Chances

Relationships aren't always

perfect, and sometimes people

drift apart. But love has a way of

finding its way back when both

hearts are ready.

A second chance doesn't erase

the pain of the past, but it

allows new growth, deeper

understanding, and stronger

bonds.

If love finds you again, cherish it 

--because not everyone gets a 

second chance.

~@saychology

Maybe

My therapist brought up a solid point to me. She said:

If you break up and still can't leave each

other alone, maybe you should try again

and put your pride and ego to the side and

give each other the love you want and 

work on it. Because the worst thing that

could happen is watching the one you

loved, love someone else.

No other way

 A Falling Bird

They love you like rain loves,

and in return, you love like a flood loves,

and just like a flood,

you are not in control

because that is the nature of your love,

and you have never learned to love

another way.

Without

 Without communication,

there is no relationship.

Without respect,

there is no love.

Without trust,

there is no reason to continue.

~Kings coach

Worth it!

I want to see the end

of the road for us...

Whether it is a start

of a new beginning 

or a heartbreaking goodbye.

I want to witness the day

when we both look at each other

and say - It was all worth it!

Anchor

Not everything needs

to make sense right now.

God is still working 

behind the scenes.

Breathe. Pray. Rest.

You're not alone in this storm.

He's still the anchor.

~Toby Mac

Very soon

Very soon, you'll smile

again and forget the sad

 moments.

God is about to change

your story.

The storm

 And once the storm is over, you won't

remember how you made it through, how

you managed to survive. You won't even

be sure, whether the storm is really over.

But one thing is certain. When you come

out of the storm, you won't be the same 

person who walked in. That's what this 

storm is all about.

~Haruki Murakan

Never easy

Love was never meant 

to be easy, people fight,

people make mistakes, people walk

out and then decide to run back. When

it comes to real love there is no limit to

what you would do for one another. To

protect, to provide, to profess.

Nowadays, it's a lot harder to stay

together than to fall apart, but I can

promise you, love is worth every second

of it. When you love, make sure it's the

kind of love that is unconditional.

That way no matter what happens, no

matter what comes your way, the love

you have for one another will last a lifetime.

More

 Dear Lord,

whatever it is I desire,

may I desire you more.

Whatever I seek,

may I seek you more.

Whatever I love,

may I love you more.

May You be more to me,

than anything in this world.

Potential

 I know you see his potential & see that he needs to

be loved & healed but understand this:

a man like that won't have the ability to fully love you

back the way you deserve. He may really love you

but he won't know how to love you. This relationship

will DRAIN the SH.. out of you.

Forgave

I forgave him more times than I should have.

Not because he earned forgiveness, but because I 

was scared of losing him.

I thought keeping him meant keeping the love.

But it wasn't love anymore...it was just a habit.

A comfort zone that felt safe even as it was slowly

killing me.

I confused familiarity with happiness, thinking 

pain was just part of the price you pay to keep

someone.

But the truth is, love that needs constant saving is

already gone.

And when I finally let go, I realized I hadn't been 

holding on to him - I'd been holding on to the

memory of who I thought he was.

Ever decide

 If I ever decide to give up on you,

you need to understand I'm the type

who gives endless chances, always

has your back, and truly accepts you

for who you are...when the rest of

the world didn't want you, I did...so if

I decide to give up on you please

understand that it took everything

that was left inside of me to leave

you alone

Detoxing

 You're detoxing...

If your body is rejecting people, places, or

things you used to enjoy.

Honor it.

~Nature Global

So much

i loved you so much

that even when 

you hurt me

i tried to understand you

Broke

He didn't just break my heart. He broke my trust.

He broke the way I see people. He made me

question every "I love you" I'll ever hear again.

And the cruelest part? He walked away like

nothing happened. But here's the thing -- people

like that don't win. Because they lose the one

person who would've loved them right.

All I wish

All I wish

is for you

to one day

love you

the way

I do.

Full essay

 Stay single until someone

sends you a full essay of why

they want a relationship with you

Both

 From Poetic Journeys

Life isn't either/or.

It's both.

It's breathtaking joy

and the weight of heartbreak.

It's shouting with excitement

and whispering, "I can't do this."

It's laughing at 2 am

and crying in the car.

It's the good.

It's the hard.

It's the in-between.

And through it all, the ups and downs,

it's still yours.

A gift.

~Rachel Marie Martin

The moon

"You were the moon. And he was always

there for you to make you shine"

"Was he the sun?"

"No honey, he was the darkness"

~Commas & Half Strokes

Avoidant Attached

 Thoughts of the AVOIDANT ATTACHED partner

• "If I open up, they'll use it against me."
• "Needing someone means I'm not strong enough on my own."
• "It's better to act like I don't care than to risk being rejected."
• "I'll just deal with it myself."
• "If I bring this up, it'll just make things worse."
• "I can't trust anyone to meet my needs."
• "What if they see the real me and decide to leave?"
• "It's safer to keep my distance than risk being let down."
• "I don't want to lose myself in my relationship."
• "I don't know how to handle all of these emotions. What do I do?"
  

Make sense

Not everything needs

to make sense right now.

God is still working 

behind the scenes.

Breathe. Pray. Rest.

You're not alone in this storm.

He's still the anchor.

~Toby Mac

How dangerous

How dangerous it is

To love a person

Not for who they are

But for

Who they could be

~The Random Stories

Gentle reminder

Just a gentle reminder

that God is with you, even in the quiet

and lonely days. He sees your tears,

hears your prayers, and will turn your

pain into something beautiful.

Triggered

 From Malika tv

Emotional closeness, disagreements, communication, and expectations are all parts of a healthy

relationship.

But here's the hard truth - these exact things are often triggering to a dismissive avoidant. They

feel safest at a distance, not because they can't see the value in love, but because real intimacy

threatens the emotional walls they've spent years, maybe decades, building to protect themselves.

For them, closeness can feel like a loss of control, disagreements can feel like rejection, and healthy

communication can feel like pressure.

This means that the very behaviors that nurture and sustain a healthy relationship - open dialogue,

shared vulnerability, mutual accountability - can be interpreted by them as suffocating or unsafe.

So instead of leaning in, they pull away. Instead of talking things through, they shut down or 

become distant.

If you are someone who values connection, honesty, and working through challenges side by side,

you must face a difficult question: is it realistic to expect a healthy relationship with a person who is

triggered by the very behaviors that make a relationship thrive?

Because love alone isn't enough. You can pour your heart, your time, and your energy into them,

but if every attempt at closeness feels to them like a threat rather than a gift, the foundation will

always be shaky. Healthy love requires two people willing to meet in the middle, not one person

constantly shrinking themselves to avoid triggering the other's fears. And if you find yourself doing

all the emotional heavy lifting, you're not in a relationship - you're in a survival game you never signed up for.

Emotional closeness,

disagreements, communication,

and expectations are all parts of 

a healthy relationship.

These are all triggering to a 

dismissive avoidant.

If you want a healthy

relationship, ask yourself this:

is it realistic to expect a healthy

relationship with a person that

is triggered by healthy 

relationship behaviors?

Two types

I only ever thought

There were two types of loves

The kind you'd kill for

And the kind you'd die for.

But you, my darling,

You were the kind of love

I would live for.

Realize

 Self Love

When you realize you were put

in their life to teach them what

unconditional love was, and they

were put in yours to teach you

what self love is.

Forever

 From Shy Adler

I will love you forever; whatever happens. Until I die

and after I die, and when I find my way out of the

land of the dead. I'll drift about forever, all my

atoms, until I find you again.

~Phillip Pullman, The Amber Spyglass

The world

I give those 

I love

the world.

And that is why

if one chooses

not to be a part

of mine,

it's their right

but also their loss.

~Samira Vivette

Really need

Do you really need the person who hurt you to tell

you, "I hurt you and I'm sorry and I feel awful that I 

did it?" It's beautiful to get it but do you need it?

Do you not know how painful the pain was? Do

you need them to tell you how painful it was when 

you experienced it and give you permission to feel 

it? You don't need it.

The one who broke you cannot heal you. You have to heal you.

You can't neglect the person who broke you into

pieces to bring those pieces and say I'm going to put

you back together, you can't do that. But why

would you choose to do that? Someone who has the

power to destroy you and uses that power, why

would you trust them with rebuilding you?

 

Every thing

 God Says:

"Every negative thing that has made you

cry over the years will fade away and be

replaced with happiness, laughter, love 

and blessings."

Before

 Before He Arrives

I've built a life

he may never fit into - 

and that's the point.

Before he arrives,

I've grown roots.

I've found joy in quiet mornings,

strength in solitude,

wholeness in my own name.

He won't be the reason I rise -

but if he rises too,

he can walk beside me,

Not ahead.

Not behind.

Beside.

~@Silent poet

Over and over

what is stronger

than the human heart

which shatters over and over

and still lives

~rupi kaur

One misunderstanding

 One misunderstanding can make us forget

countless moments of love, but real connection

isn't fragile. It's proven when we choose patience

over pride and understanding over assumption.

Lasting love is built on trust, communication, and

the willingness to rise above doubt together.

Being alone

Trying to see it this way...

Being alone after emotional

chaos is a gift. It may feel quiet,

even empty at first but that stillness

is where you finally hear your own

voice again. Not their noise. Not

their confusion. You. 

Wanted to

"I would have pulled Joseph out. Out of that pit. Out of that prison. Out of that pain. And I would have cheated nations out of the one God would use to deliver them from famine.

I would have pulled David out. Out of Saul's spear-throwing presence. Out of the caves he hid away in. Out of the pain of rejection. And I would have cheated Israel out of a God-hearted king.

I would have pulled Esther out. Out of being snatched from her only family. Out of being placed in a position she never asked for. Out of the path of a vicious, power-hungry foe. And I would have cheated a people out of the woman God would use to save their very lives.

And I would have pulled Jesus off. Off of the cross. Off of the road that led to suffering and pain. Off of the path that would mean nakedness and beatings, nails and thorns. And I would have cheated the entire world out of a Savior. Out of salvation. Out of an eternity filled with no more suffering and no more pain.

And of friend, I want to pull you out. I want to change your path. I want to stop your pain. But right now I know I would be wrong. I would be out of line. I would be cheating you and cheating the world out of so much good. Because God knows. He knows the good this pain will produce. He knows the beauty this hard will grow. He's watching over you and keeping you even in the midst of this. And He's promising you that you can trust Him. Even when it feels like more than you can bear.

So instead of trying to pull you out, I'm lifting you up. I'm kneeling before the Father and I'm asking Him to give you strength. To give you hope. I'm asking Him to protect you and and to move you when the time is right. I'm asking Him to help you stay prayerful and discerning. I'm asking Him how I can best love and be a help to you. And I'm believing He's going to use your life in powerful and beautiful ways. Ways that will leave your heart grateful and humbly thankful for this road you've been on."

Same person

You taught me how to stay

and how to disappear.

Funny how the same person

can be both anchor and storm.

~Bill Ringer

Right now

 From Life Church

God's will isn't just about your future - it's about how

you live right now. He's called you to be set apart. If

your life looks just like the world - how you speak,

spend, entertain yourself, or handle conflict - then

something's missing. That's not what God wants for

you. His will is that you live holy. Many of us want

God's direction for the big decisions ahead, but we

often ignore the direction He's already given for

today. You can't walk in God's will while ignoring

His Word. So if you're searching for His will for your

life, start with what He's already said: Love the

difficult people. Tell the truth even when it's easier to

lie. Give, even when it goes unnoticed. Forgive those

who hurt you instead of getting even. Live fully for

Jesus, even when it costs popularity or comfort.

God's will won't always be easy - but it will always

be worth it.

Whole point

Maybe things will never be the same again, but maybe that's the whole point.

~She Freaks, She Speaks

Owe me

 "And still, after

all this time,

The sun never says

to the earth,

"You owe Me."

Look what happens with

A love like that,

It lights the Whole Sky."

~Hafez

Live for

I only ever thought

There were two types of loves

The kind you'd kill for

And the kind you'd die for.

But you, my darling,

You were the kind of love

I would live for.

Always sadness

 From Isabella G. Poetry

There will always be sadness

Woven into my voice

When I speak of you

But my heart will always smile

For having had the chance

To be loved by you

Learn to trust

 From she's flowers and fire, butterflies rising

i said,

"i want to learn to trust you,

but i don't know how."

and you said,

"then don't. learn to trust you.

then see what your heart has to say about me,

and follow that."

Much more

He shows much more of Himself

to some people, not

because He has favorites,

but because it is impossible for Him

to show Himself to a man

whose whole mind and

character are in the wrong

condition, - 

just as sunlight cannot be reflected

in a dusty mirror as clearly

as in a clean one.

~C.S. Lewis

Teach

 Self Love

When you realize you were put in their life to

teach them what unconditional love was,

and they were put in yours to teach you what self love is.

~Kings coach

The midst

 In the midst of it...

Daniel never prayed for the lions to go away.

Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego did not pray for the fire to go away.

David never prayed for the giant to go away.

God didn't save them from the lions den or from the fire.

He saved them IN the den and IN the fire.

They allowed God to teach them something in the midst of it.

It will not be too difficult for God to remove the Red Sea, but 

He prepared a way through it.

God will deliver you and give you victory,

through your problems.

God shows up in the midst of your heartbreak,

sorrow, pain, and trials bringing glory to the "situation"

God shines through your suffering.

When you lack, He is sufficient.

Experience God's goodness in the midst of it.

He will get you through them.

~@thewomanatthewell

Maybe

 He said it soft,

as if his voice

could stitch her

back into herself...

"Soon I'll map the places

they all left undone,

soon I'll trace the silence

they kept running from,

soon I'll get to all the parts

that everyone else missed,

and you'll think back to how

it all started with a simple

kiss."

...and she thought,

Maybe he will, 

maybe he'll stay,

or maybe he'll just throw the

last of me away.

~Samuel Decker Thompson

This book

 by ullie-kaye

I read this book where the Author

ends up dying instead of me.

He said it was love that motivated Him.

Pure, sacrificial love.

And here I am -

wondering if He still cares

about me because I haven't

heard from Him in awhile.

The woods

 by Kristina Mahr

Surviving

Someone asked how I survived it,

and I said,

I haven't yet.

I walked your path with you

for so long,

and I am still trying

to find my way back to mine.

This part is unpaved,

uncharted,

compasses don't work in here.

I am still in the woods,

but sunlight is leaking

through the leaves,

it's not just dark all the time anymore.

I have not survived it, 

no,

but I am every day

surviving it.

Better

 "you deserve better"

but the truth is i didn't want someone better.

i wanted you to be better. i wasn't asking for

perfection, just a little more effort, a little more

care, something to show me that i mattered to you.

i wasn't searching for someone new. i was hoping

you would grow into the person who could love me

the way i needed to be loved. i wanted you to try, to

understand me, to listen when I was hurting, to

stop doing the things that made me hurt. i didn't

want to change you. i wanted you to want to

change for us, not because i begged you to, but

because you didn't want to lose me. you let go

when all i ever wanted was for you to hold on and

fight for me. and that's the part that still hurts.

i never needed someone better. i just needed you

to be better.

Not mad

 "are you mad?"

no. actually, i'm not. but i am disappointed because

i defended your name so many times when you

weren't even around. people told me things about

you, but i chose to believe in you. i told them

you're not like that. i stood by you. i trusted you.

but in the end, you made me look like a joke. like a

fool who had no idea what was really going on.

you talked behind my back. you shared things

i only said because i thought you were someone

safe. you made others laugh at the things that hurt

me. what hurts even more is that i never did the

same to you. so no, i'm not mad. i'm just tired.

tired of being there for people who wouldn't do the

same for me.

What we know

We Always Seek What We Know

by Steve Gwisdalla

My friends, in the Tribe of Up, we seek to create, discover, and promote all things up. Sometimes we try and offer encouragement or antidotes to help in times of high stress and worry. This is one of those times.

When times are tough and when things are at their darkest, it is human nature to always seek out what we know and are most comfortable with. Its familiarity is its power. We like to wallow in our own mud. It is warm and inviting. When things are chaotic and we tend to seek chaos, guess what we will ultimately find when things are spinning out of control? Chaos. If we run the risk of a deception or lie getting away from us and that is our normal mode of operating, when we seek solace from the lie, we will turn to more deception to cover up the last. See where I am going with this?

We seek what we know best to comfort us, even if it does not really bring long-term comfort. Get me through this tribulation and I will change. We have all done it. I know I have. How do we break the cycle you may ask? For starters, I refer you back to my article last week titled, "Understanding the Game" (gives references). 

Understanding the Game talks about knowing with whom and when to choose sides and when to simply choose not to play. Acknowledging the issue is indeed the first step to overcoming it. Admitting to ourselves our past ways of dealing with things is not always the best way is the first step in finding other options. My father always told me, "When in doubt, try the truth." It is difficult to break old habits. Another popular phrase I have memorized over the years is this one: "If you want to be where few people are, you have to be willing to do what most people will not do." Looking in the mirror and saying to that person to do better is one the hardest yet most rewarding things we can do to help our current self. If we do not like who we have become, maybe we need different habits. It is this singular ideal that led me to turn off the news, stop watching political debating shows, click off polarizing and conspiracy theory web pages and start seeking other things to 'feed' my brain. I found my old Bible. I started to listen to podcasts that offered self-help and self-healing topics. Over the past several years, much effort has been given in trying to redefine what I seek when trouble forms over the horizon.

My friends, more than you know... (concludes the article)

Not loved

What happens when

You're not loved in return

You become a shell of yourself. The light inside you dims, and the pieces

of you, the goodness you once knew, start to slowly fade into the 

background. You give and give, hoping that this time around the love

you're hoping to feel will get returned, but you're left with an even

bigger emptiness than before. You start to question your worth,

wondering why you or your love wasn't enough for someone else.

When you're not loved in return, it scars you, it truly breaks you down

and makes you believe you're the blame for it all. You give more, but it's

never enough. The emptiness inside you is a reminder of the distance

between who you were and who you've become how you completely

lost yourself in the process of trying to be loved.

The thing is, you can keep giving but nothing will come from it.What's

wrong for you will never be right for you. Once you see through the

brokenness, you'll realize you weren't the problem the love you gave 

was pure, and the lack of it in return isn't a measurement of your worth.

It's not a flaw in who you are. You will see that it's not love that hurts,

it's putting your heart in the wrong hands. You'll see that your love is

meant to be cherished, reciprocated, and nurtured. You'll rebuild and

reclaim your light. And in time, you'll attract the love that matches the

depth and purity of your own heart love that sees you, appreciates you,

and gives back what you've always deserved. You'll stop giving away

pieces of yourself to someone who doesn't see your value.

Door open

 You Let Me Leave and Still

Left The Door Open

You didn't beg or block my way.

You let me choose to walk away.

But what you did, so brave and still -

Was leave the door unlocked at will.

No guilt, no war, no angry cries -

Just quiet hope behind your eyes.

And that is love in real form -

To let me go and still stay warm.

~@saychology

Pride

 He Regretted It - But

Pride Spoke Louder

Than Love

He missed her.

Thought about her.

Wanted to fix it.

But instead of reaching out,

he stayed silent.

Because some men

would rather lose a good woman

than admit they were wrong.

~@saychology

Rare

 You're rare, so people are

gonna fall in love with the idea

of having you, but most of

them aren't used to rare, they're

foreign to it, so they'll lack the

capacity to treat you as such.

And that's where they lose you.

A lot

 I'll do a lot for a man I love.

But I'll do even more for a man I know loves me.

Beginning

 Before she left she said:

"I'm in love with the man you showed me in

the beginning and I'm thankful for the

memories we made. But I was forced to learn

that in relationships,  it's not about how they

start, it's about what they continuously show.

And I refuse to let the person you ONCE WERE

be the reason I let myself keep getting hurt by 

the person you have become."

~Thoughts world

Heal

 Heal, so you can see that

attention is not love,

attachment is not

connection and bare

minimum is not effort.

Spoke up

 You Didn't Ruin 

Anything - You Just

Finally Spoke Up

They liked you silent.

They liked you agreeable.

They liked when you tolerated what hurt.

But the moment you set a boundary, you

"changed."

You didn't ruin the connection - you just

stopped abandoning yourself.

~@saychology

Anywhere

 I wasn't getting anywhere with you.

It went too far when I realized how

much  I gave to you without

reciprocation. I lost myself in loving

you while you only pretended to

give what you were really keeping

closed up. I gave too much with

little proof of your love for me.

That's what made it so

heartbreaking. Realizing the end

was inevitable, as was the crushing

pain that was sure to follow.

~Kayil York

Easy relationship

 When the avoidant says:

"I just want an easy relationship"

What they actually mean:

"I want a relationship that doesn't

trigger my attachment wounds. This

means a surface level relationship

without any vulnerability; a

relationship without any 

disagreements or conflicts; a

relationship where there are no

expectations on me whatsoever. I

need a relationship where I can come

and go as I please, get validation when

I want it without having to give 

anything of myself in return."

~Malika tv

Lose yourself

 You shouldn't have to lose yourself

just to keep someone.

~MKAdoracion

Matter more

 Protecting your peace and respecting yourself

enough to walk away has to matter more than

abandoning your own boundaries by holding

onto a relationship with someone who makes

you feel alone and leaves you feeling unseen.

~Mark Smith

Different

 I asked where it hurt and

my heart replied,

"the place where I had hoped

this time would be different."

Have to

 Sometimes you have to set boundaries and say,

"There was a time I tolerated certain things, but that time is over."

Growth means recognizing your worth and no longer accepting

what doesn't align with it. It's not confrontation, it's you protecting

your peace and honoring the person you're becoming.

Let them adjust - or let them go.

~@AdeifeAdeyeye

Ellipses

You and I live 

in the ellipses...

what could be,

what almost was.

Maybe some stories

are meant to be paused,

not ended.

~Bill Ringer

Haunted

 From Deep Minds Anonymous

Let him go. Let him be the one lying awake at night, haunted by the realization

that he let slip a woman who offered him unwavering loyalty, boundless love, and

radiant light. Let him sit in crowded rooms, feeling the hollow ache of your

absence, remembering how you showed up without hesitation, believed in him

fiercely, and poured into him freely, only to be taken for granted.

It's not your duty to plead for someone to recognize your worth or the fight for

scraps of effort. A woman like you doesn't chase love; love is meant to find you,

because you are genuine, extraordinary, and full of light. If he couldn't see the

gift you were, that's his loss, not yours. You didn't lose him he lost you.

Stay tender yet unshakable. Never dim your brightness to fit where you don't

belong. The right one will meet your energy, guard your heart, and love you as if

you're the answer to every prayer they've ever whispered. Keep loving yourself

fiercely, because what's coming is better, and it will be worth every moment of the wait.

Give up

 Sometimes you 

have to give up on people.

Not because you don't care,

but because they don't.

Crave

In the end, we all

crave one thing:

Someone who

chooses us - 

Over everyone,

through everything.

All of the time

 Interesting perspective...

behind every girl who wants to be

around their partner all of the time;

is a little girl whose dad didn't

choose her

Letting go

Sometimes, love means letting go. Not because

you stopped caring, but because holding on 

was breaking you. It's okay to choose peace

over chaos. To say, "I love you, but I love me

more." Detachment isn't cold, it's necessary

when connection becomes a source of pain.

You're allowed to walk away from what you

hoped it would be.

August

Let July be July

Let August be August

And let yourself

just be

even in 

the uncertainty.

You don't have to fix

everything.

And you can still 

find peace

and grow

in the wild

of changing things.

~MHN

Ever again

 From learning to love myself

i want you to know

that this about me

and not about you

and i want you to know

that it will never be about you

ever again

Comes back

If someone drifts away

and comes back,

and you still feel safe with them, let them. Don't ruin

the healing with pride. People leave for reasons that

have nothing to do with you. Sometimes life just

swallows them whole. Sometimes it takes a breakdown

for them to understand how much you mattered. And

no, you don't owe anyone a second chance, but 

sometimes second chances aren't about them. They're

about you showing yourself that you can forgive

without forgetting, love without losing yourself, and

open your heart without closing your eyes.

Most dangerous

The most dangerous people I've ever met

genuinely believe they're good. They rewrite

every story, dodge every consequence, and

carry zero accountability. In their minds,

they've never hurt anyone, but somehow,

everyone else is always to blame. That kind of

delusion isn't just toxic, it's terrifying. 

A hug

 It sure would...

A hug from a tall man who smells

good and has tattoos would make

me feel better right now.

Silence

 Psychologically abusive 

men will use silence. You 

send a text to address their

behavior and get no

response. They go silent.

Then when you ask why

they're ignoring you, they'll

say "I'm not going to argue

with you." This is how they 

shift blame and maintain

dominance.

Won't apologize

 Some people won't

apologize - but they'll

show up differently

They may not say "I'm sorry."

They may never admit they hurt you.

But they'll be softer next time.

They'll speak gently.

They'll be more present.

And sometimes...that is their apology.

~@saychology

Running from

Love is what they are running from.

Giving them more to push away and avoid is not the cure.

Little insane

Yeah,

maybe I loved

a little insane,

but at least I

had the courage

to lose myself in

something I 

truly wanted.

~I am proud of the way I love

Changed everything

 "How do you not let

people get to you?"

I asked my friend.

She replied:

"The only difference

between us...

When people treat 

you badly, you think

there's something

wrong with you.

When people treat 

me badly, I think

there's something

wrong with them."

And that changed everything.

Lose hope

     ISAIAH 43:19

Do not lose hope in times of

trouble, for God is working in the

unseen. His hand is steady, and

His timing is perfect in bringing

good out of difficulty.

Making efforts

My mother once said

this to me, "People start

understanding your 

value when you stop

making efforts for them"

and I think everyone

needs to hear this too.

Take her away

 She loved him through

every mood, every storm.

But when he failed to love her back,

she let the storm take her away.

Comma

 From lettersofannawin

Maybe what felt like a full stop

was simply a comma in His plan.

Emotional endurance

 From You Can

They say distance makes the heart grow fonder...

But what they don't say

Is how many nights you'll fall asleep clutching a pillow,

wishing it were them.

How some days feel like entire lifetimes

because the hours drag when you're waiting

for a message, a call, a reminder that you're still connected 

still remembered.

They never mention the ache that creeps in 

during the quiet moments.

When you see couples holding hands in public,

and you smile but only because it hurts too much to cry.

They don't tell you how your mind creates a thousand versions

of their voice just to feel close again,

or how you memorize the way they said your name

just to hold onto something real.

No one warns you

about the emotional endurance it takes

to love someone from a distance.

How it tests every part of you

your patience, your trust, your faith in what you've

built together.

How it forces you to believe in things you can't

always see

but still feel with everything inside you.

And yet, despite the distance, despite the ache,

I would choose this love again.

I would choose you again.

Because this isn't fragile love.

It's not fleeting or shallow.

It's the kind of love that doesn't give up

even when the world feels too wide and the

silence feels too loud.

It's the kind that waits without resentment,

hopes without guarantees, 

and believes that someday...

the waiting will be worth it.

This is love stretched across time zones.

held together by promises and prayers,

strengthened by the longing, not broken by it.

And even though I miss you in ways I can't put into

words,

I know in my heart

some distances don't weaken love...

they deepen it.

Hurt the most

It took me most of my life to understand

this: the people who care the most about you

are often the ones who can hurt you the 

most. Not because they mean to, but because 

they got in. They reached places no one else 

could. They gave you what you'd been

looking for. But life happens. Fear creeps in.

People mess up. They run, shut down, say

things they don't mean or stay silent when it

matters the most. And suddenly you're left

questioning if it ever meant anything at all. It

did. They cared. Maybe still do. But now you

get to find out if they belong in your life. The

ones who want to stay will show up. The ones

who don't will fade.

Long enough

 You've held long enough.

Tried harder than most would.

But love that hurts

is not love that heals.

Your peace deserves space.

Your soul needs rest.

Let go now.

Drift

 From Dr. K N Jacob

Roommates or Soulmates?

Two people under one roof, living parallel lives.

Same meals, same bed - different worlds. No

shouting, no touching - just distance growing in 

silence. You manage life - but stop talking.

Love doesn't die loudly - it fades quietly. You stop

laughing together. You stop sharing dreams.

Dialogue becomes duty. Texts replace touch. 

Work replaces warmth. It's not war - it's neglect.

Drift happens when we stop watering what we 

planted. No more compliments. No more cuddles.

No more dates. The spark isn't lost - it's just been

ignored. Love needs time, effort, and attention.

To reconnect, start small. Sit closer. Ask deeper.

Listen longer. Be kind again. Touch again. Say

thank you. Choose presence over phone. Love 

isn't gone - it's just waiting to be pursued again.

You can live together and still feel alone. But you 

can also choose to love again - right where you

are. Don't wait for magic. Create it. Don't wait for

your partner - start the love game TODAY!

Unbreakable

 Sometimes the two people

who are truly meant for each other will face

the hardest battles. Not because they are

wrong for each other. But because the world

will test everything real. Love like that

doesn't come easy. It's built through pain.

Distance. Misunderstandings. Growth.

But if they can hold on through the chaos.

If they choose each other over and over again.

They'll find something most people only dream of.

A love that didn't just survive the storm.

But became unbreakable because of it.

Too tired

 Sometimes love doesn't die.

it just gets too tired of proving itself.

~MKAdoracion

Stay

Stay,

not because it's easy,

but because love was never meant

to be built on running away.

Hold my hand when the storms come,

and I'll promise you this:

we'll find the sun together. 

Miles to go

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,

But I have promises to keep,

And miles to go before I sleep,

And miles to go before I sleep.

~Robert Frost

One day

Might have already posted this, just trying to clear out my screenshots

Maybe one day you'll understand

I never wanted to fight.

I just wanted to be chosen. To be safe. To feel like

love wasn't something I had to earn or beg for.

It was never me vs. you.

It was me, trying to protect what we had.

Trying to make it work.

Trying to show up in the way I wished someone had

shown up for me. You saw it as too much.

Too intense.

But really, it was just love - the kind that wanted to

stay, not leave. The kind that never wanted to 

question your worth, even though you constantly

made me question mine.

Maybe one day you'll realize, I wasn't trying to

control you. I was just trying to love you.

Even when all you did was push me away.

Intended

 She was beautifully

out of place.

Sometimes I believe

She intended to be.

Like the moon during the day.

~D.R.

Wrong place

 Imagine going to McDonald's 

and requesting pasta and a 

glass of wine. They wouldn't

serve you. Not because you're

asking for too much, but 

because you're asking in the

wrong place.

Questions

 If you don't want anyone to 

ask you questions - stay

single. Marriage requires 

communication - clarity, not

guesswork. Love informs.

Silence distances. Vagueness

kills trust.

Even here

 Not sure if already posted this but just in case...

Some seasons feel like

survival, but even

here, God is faithful.

Even here, He's loving 

me through the mess.

~Toby Mac

Turn the page

 It's hard to turn the 

page when you know

someone won't be in

the next chapter...

but the story must go on.

Away

Sometimes you have to be

honest with yourself and say,

I'm not loved here 

I'm not valued here

I'm not seen 

And then walk away and stay away!

Biggest enemy

 From Steven Furtick

The biggest enemy to what

God wants to do is what you

thought He was going to do.