Deep exhaustion

 From If You Miss Me

There's a deep exhaustion that comes from

loving a man who hasn't done the work to heal

himself. You give your heart, your patience, your

gentleness...and in return, you're met with 

confusion, resistance, or emotional distance. He

doesn't know how to hold what you offer. He

fumbles with your love, not because you're hard to

love, but because he doesn't know how to receive

something he doesn't believe he deserves.

Loving an unhealed man often feels like standing

in a room full of echoes...you speak, you reach,

you pour, and nothing comes back. You find

yourself over-explaining, over-compensating,

constantly questioning if you're doing enough.

And before you know it, you start thinking you're 

the one who's broken. But the truth is...his

wounds are not your responsibility to mend. His

healing is not your mission.

You are not his savior. You are not his mother. You

are not a therapist in disguise. You are a woman

with a heart that beats with hope, love, and

loyalty...not a fixer assigned to piece together

someone else's brokenness. And when you take

on the weight of trying to heal a man who hasn't

chosen healing for himself...it's you who ends up

carrying the burden. You start shrinking to 

accommodate his pain, tiptoeing around his

triggers, and slowly forgetting your own needs.

A relationship should never feel like a rescue

mission. You're meant to be a partner, not a 

project. You're meant to build with someone who

meets you where you are...not drag someone

along hoping they'll catch up one day. Love should

feel like peace, not pressure. It should lift you, not

drain you. It should be a safe space...not a 

battlefield of emotional confusion.

So if you're loving someone who isn't ready to be

loved, it's okay to step back. Not out of bitterness,

but out of self-preservation. Because no matter

how much potential you see in him....it doesn't

outweigh the reality that you deserve a partner

who is whole, open, and ready. Someone who

doesn't need fixing...but is ready to grow, love,

and rise with you.