Grief over time

Lydia K. sent me this little video on FB. I found this fascinating.


How Does Grief Change Over Time?
from BBC Player

So the way I try to describe grief is: Imagine this is you. (She drew a circle in the video).

And everything about your life is contained within this circle.
This is you.
And when a bereavement happens, there isn't an area of your life that isn't affected by that grief.
It touches every part of you.
And what we used to think is that over time that became smaller and disappeared.
But the thinking now is that actually this stays the same but our life grows around it.
And we have lots of other things that happen in our lives now but this stays within us.
And on certain times, anniversaries, birthdays, Christmases whatever, you dip straight back into it. And then when that anniversary or whatever passes you remember this part of your life again.
I guess what I believe now is the this doesn't stay as dark and black inside forever.
And that somehow it changes shape and becomes a bit more fuzzy although it still remains there.

Question: So you don't move on you don't get over it?
No, you just learn to have it as part of your life