Counseling

I just had this thought about counseling that I wanted to record. People often ask if I would consider counseling for my marriage problems, personal problems, etc.

I have tried marriage counseling, but I don't think counseling helps when the counselor puts the guilt trip on you or gets on your case for your problems. I know the consequences of not getting along with my husband. I live them every day. I know that it's not a good environment for the kids. I know it's sinful and God isn't happy with it. I just don't know how to stop. I don't know how to not have a reaction or opinion to unreasonable demands and ideas. I don't think being told to "stop fighting" helps. If this is counseling, then I don't want it.

I don't think marriage counseling helps when your husband lies and pretends like he doesn't do anything wrong, when he denies or portrays situations differently than they really are, and/or when he promises to do something differently and then gets home and doesn't do what he says. I don't think it helps when he turns everything around on me and asks me to come up with specific examples on the spot only to give an excuse for what happened or argue that I misunderstood the situation.

Counseling can't cure stubbornness or stupidity.

Afterthought: I was trying to think of a word to describe how I felt in previous counseling sessions and the word is chastised. I feel like I was being chastised in counseling for something I knew was wrong but needed help fixing.