Dear Hayden

I started this blog soon after the death of my beautiful 17-year-old son, Hayden, as a way to deal with my grief. I titled it "Dear Hayden" because at first I wrote as if I was writing to him. My use of the word "dear" ended up being twofold: "used as an affectionate or friendly form of address" and "regarded with deep affection; cherished by someone." Many posts are saved quotes, song lyrics, Bible verses, poems, etc. with credit given to the actual authors as much as possible. Enjoy~

Wednesday, May 31, 2023

Works of art

Beautiful young people are accidents

of nature, but beautiful old people

are works of art.

~Eleanor Roosevelt

Spectacular

From RAWR Women

No one tells the oceans

or the trees

or the mountains that they're too old.

They talk of how powerful,

how grounded,

how awesome they are.

Imagine if we thought the same way about ourselves as we

got older.

Maybe we'd realize how spectacular we are.

~Becky Hemsley

Picky

Introverts are not shy, they're picky.

Yes, they talk. And they talk a lotttt. But

not with colleagues, neighbours, and

cashiers at Walmart. Small talk ewwws

them. Drains them. Empties their soul.

They pick 2 people to share their life

with. That's it. They're done.

~from @master_nobody

Through her heart

And while she never felt

quite normal, she was no where

near crazy. She just loved too

much. Choosing to see the world

through her heart, instead

of her eyes.

~Jessica Michelle

The wild ones

Some of us are raising the wild ones,

the room-wreckers and reality checkers,

the fire-tongued and fierce leaders,

the wild-hearted and world changers.

These kids can argue like a prosecutor

when you just wish they'd say,

"yes, mama" and move on.

But, one day, they will use those skills,

to stand up for themselves, for the people

they love, and for perfect strangers

because injustice doesn't live in their world.

Holding on

and in the end i wasn't really sure

what i was holding on to.

you never really gave me anything

to go on, i don't really know why I couldn't

let you go.

~o.l

Tuesday, May 30, 2023

How beautiful

he is

so beautiful,

but i love in energy,

so let me tell you of

just how

beautiful he feels.

~butterflies rising

Saturdays

you are a friday night and

i am a sunday morning,

and no matter how badly

we want to fall asleep and

wake up beside each other,

there will eternally be

saturdays to keep us apart.

~jessica katoff

For once

You've done enough watering. It's time to be the garden for once.

Cannot win

The Kind I Cannot Win

I stay up late sometimes

and play a game,

the kind I should not play.

I think of things you said

and try to decipher

truths from lies.

Some nights I make them all lies

and fall asleep hating you.

Other times I make them all truths

and fall asleep missing you.

It's the kind of game

I should not play

because it's the kind I cannot win.

Silence for weakness

Don't mistake silence for weakness.

Smart people don't plan big moves out loud.

~Kevin David

Sad for them

If someone is trying to make you feel bad,

it's because there's something going on in

their life that they need to seek validation

through that bullying to compensate for.

And that's a really sad thing...for them.

Say no

Nice Ways To Say No

Sounds nice, but I am not available.
I am honored that you asked me, but I can't do it.
I'm sorry, but I can't help you at this time.
Unfortunately, it's not a good time.
I am not available, at the moment, but maybe next time.
Unfortunately, this is not something I can do right now.
I really appreciate you asking me, but I can't commit to that right now.
Sorry, but I can't make it, maybe another time.
Thanks for thinking of me, but I can't.
No, thanks.

My problem

My problem is,

I hear what you're saying,

but I SEE how you're ACTING.

Living without you

Posted by The Ugly Shoes Club

How do I live without you?

Oh my love I do not.

You are with me from the moment I open my eyes until they

close.

And even after that, on the plane of dreams where mortals

and souls meet, you are with me still.

I have not yet learned to live without you, and perhaps I

never will, the truth of the matter is, you are always with me

still.

You walked such a blazing pathway, when your feet were

on this earth, that your imprint lingers on and I place my

own feet in your steps, one by one.

How do I live without you?

It's really very simple.

I do not.

I have yet to live without you

perhaps I never will,

perhaps the key to grief is,

you are always with me still.

~Donna Ashworth

Stuck between

From healing my heart

and all of a sudden

i was stuck between

wanting to wait for you

and wanting to forget you

i didn't know which one was better

so somehow

i was doing both

at the same time

To be a woman

TO BE A WOMAN

"What's it like to be a woman?"

a little bird whispered in my ear.

"Is it just like being human?"

oh it is so much more, my dear.

We are the holders, we are the keepers.

of the secrets and the truth.

We are the safe place in a storm,

the creator of all youth.

We are the place where life is softest,

we are the colour in the story.

We are the wisdom and the instinct,

Mother Nature in all her glory.

We are the taker of all worry,

we keep it deep within our hearts

So that others may unburden,

so that great new lives may start.

We are the makers of the home,

not just the walls but of the spirit.

Bringing everyone together,

letting love and laughter fill it.

We are sisters, mothers, wives,

so many things in every day.

We are the start of every life,

we are the reason, we are the way.

We are fuelled by intuition,

call it magic, if you like

We are women, so much more,

than any words that I could write.

~Donna Ashworth

Made her

In order to learn

what it means

to be a woman,

we must start

with the One

who made her.

~Elisabeth Elliot

Night

By Charles Spurgeon

Hope itself is like a

star not to be seen in the

sunshine of prosperity,

and only to be discovered

in the night of adversity.

Necessary magic

is a necessary magic

draws a circle around you

with chalk

and says

I have given enough

~boundaries

Little promises

If they break the

little promises,

they'll break

big ones.

~Cormac McCarthy

Friday, May 26, 2023

Little James

This is one of my favorite scenes so far from The Chosen:

LJ: "Master?"

Jesus: "Little James:

LJ: "May I have a moment?"

Jesus: "Of course"

LJ: "I, uh...Forgive me, I'm uh not always confident to speak"

Jesus: "Slow to speak; that's a very good quality"

LJ: "I wanted to ask you a question"

Jesus: "Please"

LJ: "You are sending us out with the ability to heal the sick and lame...yes, that is what You said?"

Jesus: "Yes"

LJ: "So, you're telling me that I have the ability to heal? Forgive me, I just...find that difficult to imagine with my condition...which You haven't healed"

Jesus: "Do you want to be healed?"

LJ: "Yes, of course, if that's possible..."

Jesus: "I think you've seen enough to know it's possible"

LJ: "Then why haven't You?"

Jesus: "Because I trust you"

LJ: "What?"

Jesus: "Little James...precious Little James. I need you to listen to me very carefully. Because what I'm going to say defines your whole life to the point and will define the rest of your life. Do you understand? In the Father's will, I could heal you...right now. And you'd have a good story to tell, yes?"

LJ: "Yes, that You do miracles"

Jesus: "And that's a good story. But there are already dozens who can tell that story, and there will be hundreds more, even thousands. But think of the story you have, especially in this journey to come, if I don't heal you. To know how to proclaim that you still praise God in spite of this; to know how to focus on all that matters so much more than the body; to show people that you can be patient with your suffering here on earth, because you know you'll spend eternity with no suffering. Not everyone can understand that. How many people do you think the Father and I trust this with, hmmm? Not many."

LJ: "But the others, they're so much more..."

Jesus: "So much more what?"

LJ: "I don't know, stronger? Better at this?"

Jesus: "James, I love you, but I don't want to hear that ever again"

LJ: "I know how easy it is to say the song of David, that 'I'm fearfully and wonderfully made', but it doesn't make this any easier. And in this group...it doesn't make me feel like any less of a burden"

Jesus: "A burden? First of all, it is far easier to deal with your slow walking than it is to deal with Simon's temper, trust Me. Are you fast? Do you look impressive when you walk? Maybe not. But these are things the Father doesn't care about. You are going to do more for Me than most people ever dream. So many people need healing in order to believe in Me, or they need healing because their hearts are so sick. That doesn't apply to you. And many are healed, or not healed, because the Father in heaven has a plan for them which may be a mystery. And we remember what Job said, 'The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away--'

Together: "'blessed be the name of the Lord'"

Jesus: "When you pass from this earth and you meet your Father in heaven, where Isaiah promises you will leap like a deer, your reward in heaven will be great. So, hold on a little longer, and when you discover yourself, finding true strength because of your weakness, and when you do great things in My name in spite of this...the impact will last for generations. Do you understand?"

LJ: "Yes. Thank You, Master"

Jesus: "A man like you, healing others...Oh, what a sight! I can't wait to hear your stories when you return. Shalom, my son."

LJ: "Shalom"

Jesus: "And James, remember...you will be healed. It's only a matter of time. Hmm?"

LJ: "Yeah"

Jesus: "Shalom, my son"

Too much

in the end

i would rather

be able to say

i loved too much

than not enough

~Christopher Poindexter

Your soul

SHOW ME YOUR SOUL

Show me

the most damaged

parts of your soul,

and I will show you

how it still shines like gold.

~Nikita Gill

They will

one day...maybe a few years down the road...they will wake up and regret losing you, they will regret not choosing you, not choosing your relationship, they will regret not prioritizing it. regret all those times they were careless with you, all those times they put you last. all those times they made you feel even more alone. one day...they will realize this, and maybe they will even thank you for making them realize this very important lesson...how you should never take the people who love you for granted, and how you should never ignore the ones who are real with you. losing you will be the change they needed...to finally appreciate the importance of love.

~r.m. drake

Rose

If Jesus rose from the

dead, then you have to

accept all that he said;

if he didn't rise from

the dead, then why worry

about any of what he

said? The issue on which

everything hangs is not

whether or not you like

his teaching but whether

or not he rose from the

dead.

~Tim Keller

Double whammy

From Flying Free

Physical abuse is more easily understood because the damage is done to the skin tissue found on the outside of the body. Bruises, broken bones, black eyes - these are all things others can see and acknowledge. But emotional abuse is damage done to the brain and spirit of a person. If you could peel back the layers and see inside, you'd see a shredded, bleeding human being who is unable to truly live a fulfilling life due to the fact that all her energy is put into surviving emotionally, spiritually, and yes, even physically as she deals with the breakdown of her entire body system. It's a hidden double whammy.

Thursday, May 25, 2023

Saying nothing

Saying nothing, sometimes

says the most.

~Emily Dickinson

Breathe deeper

I don't want to give you a love

that takes your breath away.

I want to give you a love

that allows you to breathe deeper

than you ever have before.

~TTibbar

What you do

I can't believe what you say, because

I see what you do.

~James Baldwin

Correct a fool

Do not correct a fool, or

he will hate you;

correct a wise man, and he

will appreciate you.

A second of your life

Strange isn't it? You know yourself better than anyone else yet you crumble at the words of someone else who hasn't lived a second of your life. The world is filled with people who think they know you. Listen to no one else's voice but yours.

Wednesday, May 24, 2023

25 things

25 Things About Life I Wish I Had Known 10 Years Ago

1. Struggle Is Good

Never say "I can't take it anymore." Say "Bring it on!"

2. Don't Complain

Complaining is the biggest waste of time there is. Either do something about it, and if you can't, shut

up about it.

3. Spend Time With People You Love

That's your family and best friends. If you don't have a family, create one.

Most people in life are only visitors. Family is for life.

4. Don't Start A Relationship If You're Not In Love

I've done that more than once. You kind of like someone and think, "We might as well give it a shot."

Not a good idea. You're either in love, or you are not. Don't fool yourself. It's not fair to you and the

other person.

5. Exercise Daily

I didn't get this until recently. A healthy body is where you have to start everything in life. If you can't

build a healthy and strong body, what CAN you build in life?

6. Keep A Journal

No, keeping a journal isn't for children. It helps you to become a better thinker and writer. "I don't

want to be a writer" you might think. Well, how many emails and texts do you send a day? Everybody

is a writer.

7. Be Grateful

Say "thank you" to everyone and everything. "Thank you for this beautiful day." "Thank you for your

email." "Thank you for being there for me."

8. Don't Care About What People Think

We all die in the end, do you really think it matters what people think of you?

9. Take More Risks

Don't be such a wimp.

10. Pick An Industry, Not A Job

If you want to become good at something, you need to spend yours and years doing that. You can't do

that if you hop from industry to industry. Pick an industry you love and start at the bottom. You will

find the perfect role for you eventually.

11. Lead The Way

When you find yourself in a situation where everyone looks at each other, it's time for you to lead.

You're a leader when you decide to become one. There's no initiation or title. Just a decision.

12. Money Is Not The Most Important Thing

You have to train yourself not to care about money and focus on providing value instead. Also,

don't become too dependent on the stuff you own - otherwise, the stuff will own you.

13. Be Nice

I don't mean you should be a pushover. You can be someone that doesn't take shit and be nice

about it. Just don't insult people, think you're better than them, or act like an idiot.

14. Learn Every Day

You've got to train your brain to stay alert. You don't have tot read a book a day to learn every day.

Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the people around you - be open to what they can teach

you.

15. Rest Before You Are Tired

Even if you love your job, and every day seems like a holiday, you need take time to rest. You're

a human and not an android, never forget that.

16. Don't Judge

Just because people make different choices than you, they are not stupid. Also, you don't know

everything about people, so don't judge them - help them.

17. Think About Others

Just be mindful, that's all. We all have families, bills to pay, and our own issues. Don't always make

everything about yourself.

18. Give Without Expecting Something In Return

Don't keep score. You will become a bitter person if you do that. Give solely for the joy of giving.

If you get something in return, great, if you don't, great.

19. There's No End Game

We, as species, just are. Don't try to figure it out. Enjoy your journey.

20. Enjoy Small Things

I like details because they are true. Especially this one. You know why? Everyone says they know

it, but no one lives up to it. They just chase big things.

21. Don't Take Yourself So Seriously

Yeah, yeah, you're an individual, and people have to take you seriously, I get it. But at the end of

the day, we're all a bunch of ants trying to chase the same things. Lighten up.

22. Don't Blame People

What's the point? Do you want to punish them? You don't do that to people. Also, don't blame

yourself - you're only human.

23. Create Something

Not to leave a legacy, you won't be here to see it anyway, but to be of use. Make music, write a

book, build a table, anything. You'll feel good about yourself, plus you give something back to

people to use or enjoy.

24. Never Look Back Too Long

Reflecting on the past is only good for one thing: Learning

25. Take Action

Don't just sit there, do something. Without action, there is no outcome.

You might know a lot about life. But like Socrates, you and I know nothing at all. So we have to keep

learning.

Become yours

"I was made

and meant to

look for you and

wait for you and

become yours

forever."

~Robert Browning

No response

No response is a response.

And it's a powerful one.

Remember that.

Real love

Real love will shift,

and it will shake;

it will bruise and

it will break;

it will heal,

and it may take,

everything

that we

have.

But it is worth it.

~Jake Atsby

Infinity

As much as I

have tried

to deny it,

I think

if I were to

fold together

all the things

I have ever wanted

the infinity

of it all

would still look

an awful lot

like you.

~Chloe Frayne

Face

To love

is to stand

in the biggest crowd

imaginable, and still

beyond all reason,

look for the face

of a person

you know

isn't there.

~Chloe Frayne

Test

This

isn't a test

of who loves whom

more.

For as long

as you care for me,

and want me in your life,

I will love you.

I will give myself to you,

everyday, in every moment,

endlessly.

~William C. Hannan

Today

today

i will love you life

there is no tomorrow.

and tomorrow, i will

do it all over again.

~JmStorm

Helping everyone

Stop allowing yourself to be

drained, broke, stressed, and

frustrated because you're

taking on the responsibility

of helping EVERYONE around

you. You have to take

care of yourself first.

~Lewis Huckstep

Great expectations

GREAT EXPECTATIONS

Charles Dickens

"I loved her against reason,

against promise, against peace,

against hope, against happiness,

against all discouragement

that could be."

Intimately tied

I don't know how

to tell you

that you are

so intimately tied

to every idea

I've ever had

of love.

~Chloe Frayne

Star-crossed

How sad it is

When two people love each other

But they cannot be together

Not for lack of love

But because of timing

Why does Fate do that?

Bring together soulmates

Only to tear them apart.

We are star-crossed in the worst way

Even Shakespeare would weep

~M.K. Lopez

Mute for people

You can

mute people

in real life

too

It's called

boundaries

In love with me

i can't help

but hope

someday i will get

to know

what you

look like when

you are in

love

with me.

~From Her Wild Heart

Madly

I cannot love You gently,

it's not in me

to love in part,

so I will love You completely,

and a little madly...

~Matthew Spenser

(I just noticed that the "Y"'s were capitalized 💗)

Tuesday, May 23, 2023

Good heart

When you have a good heart:

You help too much.

You trust too much.

You give too much.

You love too much.

And it always seems to hurt you the most.

Drains

If it drains you, it's not for you. Always remember that.

Little more

Nothing succeeds like

success. Get a little

success, and then just

get a little more.

~Maya Angelou

Storm

She was a storm. Not the

kind you run from. The

kind you chase.

~r.h. sin

Sadness visits

I have learned that when sadness

comes to visit me, all I can do is say

"I see you." I spend some time with

it, get up, and say goodbye. I don't

push it away. I own it. And because

I own it, I let it go.

~Carolina Zacaria

Only one

A thousand people in the

room, and the only one

she is looking for is you.

~The Heart Speaks

Kiss her

Kiss her.

Often and abundantly.

Kiss her lips to show you love her.

Kiss her forehead to let her know she is safe

and kiss her everywhere else to let her

know she is desired.

~Jenna Lynn

Show you

Sometimes you need to

stop seeing the good in

people and start seeing

what they show you.

~Word Porn

Monday, May 22, 2023

Be filled

You deserve to be filled the same way you pour.

Your way

Don't be surprised when things go your way.

You deserve it.

Closure

The disrespect is all the closure you need.

~Word Porn

Gift to everyone else

The work we do on

ourselves becomes our

gift to everyone else.

Unapologetic

From Soul Vibes

Master the art of the unapologetic "NO".

Love fiercely

Posted by Nona

You come from a long line of people who love the world fiercely,

in case you forget on days when it is hard.

Gain even more

Those who give freely gain even more;

others hold back what they owe, becoming even poorer.

~Proverbs 11:24

Drowning

From momsbehavingbadly

There is an entire generation of women who are drowning because they were raised with traditional gender roles while being empowered to be independent. These women still take on the majority of house duties while simultaneously killing it in the workplace. They're tired.

Fairy tale

you are the fairy tale

they weren't allowed to write

stay wild brave child

and shine your bright light

~erin matlock, worth it

Losing yourself

Don't be afraid of losing

people. Be afraid of losing

yourself by trying to please

everyone around you.

Daily dependence

By Rich Villodas

Jesus tells us to pray for daily bread, but we'd rather have a Costco relationship with God.

We'd rather have stuff in bulk so as not to come back to God so often.

But we can't live without daily dependence.

Behaved better

You own everything that happened to you.

Tell your stories.

If people wanted you to write warmly

about them, they should have behaved better.

~Anne Lamott

(posted by Nona)

Set up

Some of us have been

through so much that

even something good

feels like a set up.

~Word Porn

Wrong direction

No matter how long you have traveled in the wrong direction, you always have the choice to turn around. So be where you are - that's where your power is. Accept it, learn from it, and grow from it. What you've done doesn't matter nearly as much as what you do and where you go from here.

~marcandangel

Friday, May 19, 2023

To be you

I wanted it to be

you.

I wanted your eyes

to be locked with

mine during every

fear and tear

experienced

throughout

my lifetime.

~Alfa

Other people's pain

If you feel pain, you're alive.

If you feel other people's pain,

you're a human being.

~Leo Tolstoy

Thursday, May 18, 2023

Go

Don't stay where you

are needed. Go where

you are loved.

~Lang Leav

Lazy thing

to hate

is an easy lazy thing

but to love

takes strength

everyone has

but not all are

willing to practice.

~rupi kaur

Gift of absence

Give the gift of your

absence to those who do

not appreciate your

presence.

~Unknown

Happy

Whatever you decide

to do, make sure it

makes you happy.

~Paulo Coelho

Treat

How others treat

me is their path.

How I react is mine.

~Wayne Dyer

Left

I stayed,

to love you.

I left,

to love myself.

~Scott Stabile

Difficult

The funny thing is,

when you don't let people

disrespect you, they start

calling you difficult.

~Tom Hardy

Stolen nothing

Reminded me of "situation"...

Psalm 69:4b

Though I have stolen nothing,

I still must restore it.

Deplete

From WellBeing Etcetera

HABITS THAT DEPLETE YOUR ENERGY

Poor sleep habits.

Skipping meals

Excessive caffeine consumption.

Lack of exercise.

Neglecting self-care.

Overthinking.

Negative self-talk.

Holding grudges.

Excessive multitasking.

Poor time management.

Excessive screen time.

Lack of boundaries.

Lack of social support.

Constantly comparing yourself to others.

Clutter and disorganization.

Procrastination.

Skipping breaks.

Excessive perfectionism.

Lack of limits with technology.

Overcommiting.

Lack of sunlight.

Holding onto clutter.

Skipping relaxation and leisure activities.

Neglecting personal development.

Negative news consumption.

Lack of gratitude.

Alcohol and smoking deplete energy levels, disrupt sleep, cause fatigue, and pose long-term health risks, including cardiovascular diseases, respiratory issues, and cancer.

TIPS TO BOOST ENERGY

Get enough sleep.

Stay hydrated.

Eat a balanced diet.

Avoid sugary snacks.

Limit caffeine intake.

Exercise regularly.

Manage stress.

Take regular breaks.

Practice deep breathing.

Prioritize tasks.

Avoid multitasking.

Get some sunlight.

Stay social.

Listen to energizing music.

Stay positive.

Practice good posture.

Take power naps.

Reduce screen time.

Quit smoking.

Limit alcohol intake.

Everyone's energy levels and needs are unique, so experiment with these tips to find the ones that work best for you. Consulting with a healthcare professional is always a good idea if you have persistent fatigue or concerns about your energy levels.

One lovely person

Sometimes, the reason

everything feels

too much

is because it is.

You're one person.

One lovely person

who can only do

and give so much.

Be kind to yourself.

~@StacieSwift

Scissors

If I cut you off,

chances are, you

handed me the

scissors.

Own home

From Your Morning Basket with Pam Barnhill

The most important work

you will ever do will be

within the walls of

your own home.

Hand of foreigners

This was stated TWICE in my Bible reading last night:

Psalm 144:7b-8, 11

Rescue me and deliver me out of great waters,

From the hand of foreigners,

Whose mouth speaks lying words,

And whose right hand is a right hand of falsehood.

Rescue me and deliver me from the hand of foreigners,

Whose mouth speaks lying words,

And whose right hand is a right hand of falsehood --

Tuesday, May 16, 2023

Not weak

You're not weak because you chose to love anyway.

It makes you brave, because there was a chance

that it could have been more than what it turned

out to be.

It's better to give it a chance than living with the knowing

that you gave up before you started.

Ran out

It was patience she ran out of

not love.

~angel lindberg vazquez

Cool

The point is not to become a

"dangerous cold person" it's more about

becoming an unbothered, accepting,

content, and focused person.

Cool, not cold.

~Anonymous

Reveals

The way

someone treats you

reveals their heart;

the way you respond

reveals yours.

~Stacy L. Sanchez

Less access

People who consistently

and consciously hurt you

do not deserve more chances.

They deserve less access.

~Morgan Richard Olivier

Fearful

No matter how much I pray for people

or how badly I want to pull them in to my peace,

I find myself fearful.

I'm fearful that if I open my life, love, and loyalty

to them again, they will unknowingly

drag me into their drama

and bring a level of distraction

that I am no longer willing to entertain.

~Morgan Richard Olivier

Beauty

From A.W. Tozer - A Man of God

DO YOU LOVE BEAUTY?

A.W. Tozer

When we look closely at this world system and society, we see the terrible and ugly scars of sin. Sin has obscenely scarred and defaced this world, taking away its harmony and symmetry and beauty. That is the negative picture. Thank God for the positive promise and prospect that heaven is the place of all loveliness, all harmony and beauty. These are not idle words. If you love beautiful things, you had better stay out of hell, for hell will be the quintessence of all that is morally ugly and obscene. Hell will be the ugliest place in all of creation! It is a fact that earth lies between all that is ugly in hell and all that is beautiful in heaven. As long as we are living here, we will have to consider the extreme - much that is good and much that is bad! As believers, we are held firm in the knowledge that the eternal Son came to save us and deliver us to a beautiful heaven and everlasting fellowship with God!

Angry people

Angry people want you to see

how powerful they are. Loving

people want you to see how

powerful you are.

Chief Red Eagle

Not a loss

It's not a loss anymore,

to me,

when someone decides

to walk out of my life.

It's a loss to them,

having to remember me

for everything I am,

knowing they chose to let me go.

Fruit

Not seeing results?

Feel like giving up?

Consider this: the LAST thing to grow on a fruit tree...is the fruit.

Virtuous wife

Proverbs 31:10, 27-28

Who can find a virtuous wife?

For her worth is far above rubies.

Monday, May 15, 2023

Important

A man does not protect

his woman because

she is weak.

He protects her because

she is important.

~3 am thoughts

Fires

fires.

and if you have ever been abandoned.

be a constant. if you have ever been

wrapped you in nights so dark, you

could not find your way back home.

be light. if you have ever fallen

apart into a thousand, fractured

pieces and wondered where on earth

everyone has gone. be present. if you

have ever felt unworthy. unbeautiful.

unseen. unknown. unheard. be love.

i tell you the truth. some of the most

precious things we learn, are from

the fires that we've endured.

~ullie-kaye

Carry the bricks

You can't build with

someone who isn't

trying to help you

carry the bricks.

~Word Porn

Bare minimum

You will never get

the best of me while

giving me the bare

minimum.

~Word Porn

Show you

Sometimes you need to

stop seeing the good in

people and start seeing

what they show you.

~Word Porn

Live for itself

Nothing in nature lives for itself.

Rivers don't drink their own water.

Trees don't eat their own fruit.

The sun doesn't shine for itself.

Flowers don't spread fragrance for themselves.

Living for others is the rule of nature.

Be unhappy

How to Be Unhappy:

stay inside all day

move as little as possible

spend more than you earn

take yourself (and life) too seriously

look for reasons why things won't work

always consume, never contribute

resent the lucky and successful

never say hello first

be unreliable.

~James Clear

Patient with you

Nothing is more

attractive than

someone who is

patient with you.

~case.kenny

What he had

He will never know

what he lost

because he never knew

what he had.

~Alfa

Choosing you

You're better off

choosing yourself

than trying to

convince someone

to choose you.

~case.kenny

Cold hearted

I'm not cold hearted.

I'm just tired of

being screwed over.

Without asking

That's when you know for

sure somebody loves you.

They figure out what you

need and they give it to you

- without you asking.

~Adriana Trigiani

Kissed

Sometimes you just need to

be kissed...To be kissed

with such passion and

vigor that for just a

moment, the world simply

stops turning.

~LaFunk

Truly loved

A woman that is

truly loved will

give back more

than was ever

poured into her

soul.

~Matthew Jacobsen

For later

Don't let anyone

save you for later.

~Word Porn

Could've become

You deserve to celebrate not only who

you've become, but who you could've

become and fought not to be.

Treated right

Don't ever think you did

something wrong by asking

to be treated right.

~Mark Anthony

No message

Getting no message

is also a message.

~@PeacefulMindPeacefulLife

Won't run

Stop chasing the wrong one.

The right one won't run.

~Alfa

Thursday, May 11, 2023

Frustrated angel

From Heather Lea Poetry

FRUSTRATED ANGEL

She's tutting up in heaven as you choose to stay again,

She's cussing as you're rushing, wishing you would stop and sway.

She's patient but you're vacant, you're lost within a need

So she's hanging, but she's banging on the clouds to make you see.

She's fiery when she wants to be, so watch out for the heat;

She's gentle, but will burn your butt to get you off your seat!

Don't think that you are all alone when towers fall to the ground

For she's the one that kicks the walls to make them tumble down.

Just learn to live life with her, start listening to her call,

For every time you block her sound you know the tower falls.

Start to look up to the clouds and call her with your mind,

You've never been alone, she was always there to find.

She's not the perfect angel, this task frustrates her so,

And sometimes she can also make mistakes, this truth she knows,

So she's watching you be human, and though she sees your wings,

She's learning as she's waiting, for she too is practicing.

So show her how we humans are born to make mistakes,

Show her how we find our strength from every heart that breaks.

Show her how we give our love to every imperfection,

And let the angel see that was always the intention,

For angels have such high regard for humans, but to be

We have to face this life, this now; our reality.

Nothing happens quickly, this life's about the path,

We must be strong to look to skies with no weight on our back.

Don't fall because you failed, fail because you chose

To give with all your heart, accept a human flaw,

Sure we can be angels, feel wings so true and free

But maybe we are here to teach the angels how to be.

A fool

A fool contributes nothing worth hearing and takes offense at everything. ~Aristotle

5 Simple Rules

From Flying Free

If we're going to be in a relationship, you've got to agree to 5 simple rules:

I'm under no obligation to accept, tolerate, or go along with any behavior that abuses or destroys me, or undermines God's will and plan for my life.
Honoring, respecting and reciprocating my love is a rule not an exception, or an option.
I will not beg, plead or pray for you to love me right.
Neither toxic religion or twisted Bible quotes will guilt me into riding or dying with you in hell that you create for my destruction.
If you don't respect and appreciate my presence, you will respect and appreciate my absence.

~Patrick Weaver Ministries

Let it starve

From Spiritual Empath

I've learned the best way to kill something is

to let it starve. No response, no action, no

altercations, just don't feed it. That's where

the true power lies.

Don't hate

You don't hate people.

That's your pain talking.

You love people.

You hate the fact that the genuine strength of your love has been manipulated, mishandled, or misunderstood in the past which makes you fearful to leave and trust to that extent now.

~Morgan Richard Olivier

Eggshells

I have learned that being around someone

you have to walk on eggshells for isn't worth

the lack of peace.

All that does is steal your authenticity;

never cover yourself up in order to make

anyone comfortable being around you.

~Kayil York

Almost

Tiny Stories

The saddest word

in the whole wide world

is the word almost.

He was almost in love.

She was almost good for him.

He almost stopped her.

She almost waited.

He almost lived.

They almost made it.

~Nikita Gill

A weakness

From Soul Sister's Memorial Foundation

I hope you never assume it's weakness to give love as freely as you do. People may take it for granted or take advantage of it, but promise me you'll never change because of it. Some of the most amazing individuals you'll come across in this life are the kind who never let the bad change the good in them. So keep seeing the good in everyone and keep spreading your love without fear.

~The world needs more people like you

~Charlotte Freeman

Wednesday, May 10, 2023

Reciprocity

Love is never wasted,

for its value does not rest

on reciprocity.

~C.S. Lewis

Tuesday, May 9, 2023

You haven't done

by Kayil York

Remember that some people will accuse you of things that you haven't done.

When that happens, it's usually because they are projecting their own insecurities and problems on you.

Want her

by Mark Anthony

If you want her in your life, act like it.

Setting yourself on fire

you must

cease setting

fire to yourself

to keep love

warm

there are

those that

will steal

your very

last ember

and be mad

you have

no more

~don't burn yourself out because someone is cold

Stand your ground

You can stand your ground without feeling guilty. You have the right to establish boundaries. Your kindness does not diminish when you rightfully put your foot down. You are nobody's doormat. You deserve to be treated correctly. Being a good person does not mean you should accept being treaded on.

~Samira Vivette

Every version

You've always been beautiful. Every version. I hope you really know that.

If they want you

I hope you understand. That is they want you. Then they will show it. No one is going to want something

and let it slip away. That is not how the human heart works.

~R.M. Drake

True self

Do Not Be Fooled

A person's most consistent behavior is their true self. Period.