A girl

A girl who grew up 

with an emotionally 

unavailable father

becomes a woman

who chases avoidant 

men.

the same familiar dynamic

She learned early that love is inconsistent, that connection must be worked for, and that silence means she needs to try harder.

Every time her father pulled away, she felt responsible. Every time he shut down, she thought she'd done something wrong.

That belief never left her. It just grew up with her.

When an avoidant man enters her life, something deep inside her wakes up. The inconsistency feels magnetic. His distance feels familiar. Her nervous system remembers this kind of love.

The push and the pull, the waiting, the hope, the fear...

It's the same dance she once did with her father.

She doesn't want to chase, but her body does it for her. It's trying to finish an old story that never got resolved.

So she keeps running after men who mirror the same wound. Men who withhold affection. Men who turn away just when she starts to feel safe.

And until she heals that father wound, she'll keep going for the familiar pain and believe that she's the problem.

Let me know if this sounds like your story.