Helping people

 From Flying Free

I believe God want us to help people and share

our time, talents, and money. But I also believe He

wants us to give from a position of high self-

esteem. I believe acts of kindness are not kind

unless we feel good about ourselves, what we are

doing, and the person we are doing it for. I think

God is in each of us and speaks to each of us. If we

absolutely can't feel good about something we're 

doing, then we shouldn't do it -- no matter how 

charitable it seems. We also shouldn't do things

for others that they ought to and are capable of

doing for themselves. Other people aren't helpless.

Neither are we.

~Melody Beattie

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