How he thinks

Dad has been trying to help more with chores around the house since I told Pastor one of my issues with him is that he is lazy. The chores he does though are of his own choosing-he doesn't ask what needs to be done or how. And when he does do something, he points it out several times, like taking out the trash.

Last night, I heard the door opening and rustling plastic, so I asked if he had gone shopping or something. He told me he took care of the kitchen trash as well as the bathroom trash and Carter's trash. I asked if he found a new bag for Carter's since it's a funny size. He said he just left the same bag in there and I noticed he did that in the bathroom. I told him that he should change the bags too because the bathroom trash gets nasty stuff in it and Carter's trash mostly has food wrappers in it, etc. He answered by saying what he did was fine and that he was a commercial cleaner for a while, so he knows what he is doing.

I was kind of thrown off by his answer, so I was pondering it for a while. Soon after, I realized that I have been a commercial cleaner for 13 years at my dad's office as well as the main person in our home who has taken care of the trash for many years, so I recommended that the bags should be changed for those trashes. The only time at the office that I would not worry about changing a bag is if it mostly just had dry paper in it, like opened envelopes. etc.

Anyway, when I brought that up to Dad about an hour or so later after I realized it, he was like, "Oh, you just couldn't let that go" or something like that. I told him that I had been thinking about it and realized it later because I had been surprised by his earlier response.

This kind of thinking makes no sense to me. No remorse, nothing on his part. Just a firm belief that whatever he did or does is fine and I should just be thankful for the help. If it's not going to be done right and I have to sneak around later and change the bags on my own, what is the point. I know this is petty, but I wanted to remember how twisted his thinking can be. All this after he just got back from attending Wednesday night prayer meeting, which he probably hasn't gone to in YEARS, on a regular basis anyway. I have slacked off from Wednesday nights too since last year, but I had a lot of time in before that. Anyway, I just thought he might have come home in a better mood. Good grief!