Pursuing

 From Energy Balance Harmony

Pursuing a woman just to mistreat her after she finally lets you into her life is so pathetic to me. You chased her. You said all the right things. You convinced her to let her guard down. To open up. To believe that maybe, this time, it was safe to trust. You made her feel chosen, wanted, prioritized...only to get comfortable and flip the script the moment she got close. That's not a man...that's a coward in disguise.

Because it takes nothing to pursue a woman. A few sweet words. A little effort. A little consistency. But it takes character to actually love her right once you have her. To protect her heart. To stand on your word. To show up when it's not convenient. And if your plan was to just get her, break her, and then blame her for reacting to your disrespect...please understand, that's not strength...that's weakness.

She let you in. That was her being vulnerable. That was her trusting you with parts of herself she doesn't share with everyone. That was her believing in something again...probably after being hurt before. So to turn around and mistreat her after you asked to be there? That's beyond selfish. That's emotional manipulation at its finest. 

What kind of man begs for access to a woman's heart just to misuse it? Who fights for a seat at the table only to flip it over once he's fed? A woman is not a toy. She's not something you conquer. She's a whole human being with emotions, expectations, and standards. And if you knew you weren't ready to honor her, love her right, or treat her with the care she deserves...then why show up at all?

Let me say this for the men who need to hear it: stop chasing women just to wound them. Stop fighting for love you're not emotionally prepared to maintain. Because the pain you leave behind becomes her healing journey, and one day, she'll be over it...but you'll always be the reason she had to pick up the pieces.

So no...it's not cute. It's not harmless. It's not "just how men are." It's pathetic. It's hurtful. And it's a reflection of how little you value not only her...but yourself.

~Hezekiah Janitor