More bills

The more bills a woman pays by herself, the less attractive men become. Not because she doesn't want love. Not because she's "too independent." But because every time she covers the rent, the utilities, the car note, the groceries, and the unexpected expenses life keeps throwing her way...she's reminded that she's already carrying it all on her own. She's reminded that survival doesn't wait for help. That strength doesn't ask for permission. That she had no choice but to become self-sufficient, whether she wanted to or not. And when a man enters her life talking about love but offering no real partnership, no contribution, no

leadership, no weight-sharing...he starts to look less like a blessing and more like another bill. Another responsibility. Another drain on the energy she's already stretching thin.

Because here's the truth nobody wants to say: love without effort feels like another obligation. Affection without support feels like empty words. And a man who wants to enjoy the perks of being with her without adding value to her life? Feels like dead weight. A woman who's been holding it down by herself isn't bitter. She's tired. She's tired of doing it all and still being expected to smile, nurture, pour, cater, submit. Tired of being told to "let a man lead" when the men showing up don't even know where they're going. Tired of being made to feel like asking for stability, consistency, provision, and protection is too much. The more bills she pays by herself, the less impressed she is by the bare minimum. "I miss you" doesn't pay her light bill. "What are you doing?" doesn't help with her student loans. "Let me pull up" doesn't offer relief from the pressure she faces daily. Sweet words with no action, no investment, no intentionality...fall flat on a woman who's already learned to show up for herself. And no, she's not looking for a man to "save" her. But she's also not about to entertain a man who only takes. A man who wants access to her body, her time, her energy...but brings nothing to the table but vibes. A man who mistakes her independence for a green light to be lazy. A man who confuses her strength for a willingness to accept struggle love. The more she handles on her own, the more she realizes she's not interested in adding a man who is only going to make her life harder. She's not interested in teaching a grown man to show up. She's not interested in explaining why partnership is more than just showing up when it's convenient. She's not "too independent." She's not "too masculine." She's not "too hard to love." She's just unwilling to settle for a relationship that feels like an extra burden instead of a blessing. So if you want to be in her life? Don't just talk about being a man. Be one. Bring peace. Bring protection. Bring stability. Bring leadership. Bring something that makes her life softer, not heavier. Because if she's already paying for everything, doing everything, handling everything what exactly are you adding? And if the answer is nothing? Then don't be surprised when she stops answering your calls. Stops entertaining your presence. Stops pretending like she needs you just to say she has someone. A woman who's learned to survive without help doesn't want another dependent. She wants a partner. She wants a teammate. She wants a man whose presence makes life easier. Because the more she does for herself, the clearer she sees that love isn't enough. Words aren't enough. Intention isn't enough. If you're not coming to lighten her load...she's better off alone.