Big one

 This is a big one. This is the single most

distinguishing characteristic of a pathological

person. If a person can see you breaking down,

crying and in pain, if a person can see your heart is

hurting and if that same person can easily over look

it, or does not care, then there is something missing

in that person. And the thing that is missing is they

lack empathy. No relationship can be sustained 

without empathy. The person will never see your

hurt, or acknowledge any pain you are going

through. In essence the inner most important parts

of you will be ignored. Invalidation is the worst form

of abuse. How could you possibly be with a person

who does not see or understand your pain, or any

emotions regarding your life experiences. Love

cannot live where there is no empathy or

compassion.