Adjust

From The Melting Words, Rahul Kaushik

One problem with good people is that they are always ready to adjust more to make others happy. They love being selfless. They would rather kill their expectations than to hurt someone. And they do it so many times that it becomes their second nature. And everyone starts to expect the same from them, every single time. And whenever they demand even a little adjustment from others, they are judged rude and arrogant. This is the problem of people with a pure soul in this soulless world. They treat people as if they too have a good heart. But do they? They will make you bend, and bend more, and bend even more until you break your back and spirit. The only solution is to say no, the very first time. Have some rules. Don't allow anyone to break them. Don't adjust. Don't allow them to emotionally manipulate you either by sweet talk or by tears. It's at trap. You are just too pure to notice their games.

It's not always about a lover or someone really close. You adjust too much with too many people, And then, even a random person can walk away after taking advantage of you. You realize this later. And after a brief moment of frustration, you smile it off. You think of yourself as a hero of a movie. But in reality, you are an A-grade idiot. Life has only finite moments. You have a limited emotional strength within you. For how long will you kill your own desires, your own expectations? For how long will you keep living for their smile while suffering tears? For how long will you say, "hmm it's okay?" It's not okay. Listen. You have been fooled by too many people, too often. This lollipop of "good heart" won't give you anything in life. You have to fight for your happiness. You need to be smart in your help, efforts, and adjustments. You need to say no when your soul whispers that this is not good. You need to be ready to be called arrogant, selfish, and bad for asking respect. That's how the world is. People keep pushing the good person more and more because that good person doesn't complain. But inside, the good person keeps dying. Don't die. Live. Change. Change, my friend.

~Rahul Kaushik