Ostracized

from Flying Free

by Bob Hamp

I have said before that to outsiders abuse does not look like they expect it to. Often people are confused about which person is an abuser and which is the victim. Here's one way to identify the difference. Most victims who allege abuse in a community end up rejected by that community. This means one way to discern the abuser is to pay attention to which person remains involved in the community and which person ends up outside the community. In most cases the abuser is the one who remains supported by the community and the victim is the one who is blamed and even ostracized.