I have gone over this divorce in a billion different ways in my head. Even though I know it's the best choice for me and the kids, I am still having a hard time reconciling it in my head. I think God used this "opposite" example to illustrate a truth for me. Beware-it's somewhat disgusting.
Dad has offered to trade "services". Technically, I could do this because we're still married and in God's eyes it's "allowed." God allows/approves sex within the boundaries of marriage. This is how He designed it. I "could" do this.
The question is though, is it good for me. He's not asking because he loves me, he's asking because he has a biological need. Making this choice would go against all that I have been doing lately with proceeding with the divorce. Sure, I have "needs" too and have been used to pretty much having access to this whenever I want. But it makes no sense. He's not even living in the house anymore. There would be many people who would be hurt, even devastated, if they found out I had done this. There's more to it than being "allowed." It's a bad decision.
To compare it to the divorce, technically I'm not "allowed" to make this choice. It's not an option in my vows. But following this rule isn't good for me or for the kids. I don't feel like God gives us His rules and laws to blindly follow them. He gives us discernment and wisdom. Sure, the rule is important. But the person is more important. And when the rule is hurting the person, when someone is using that against someone else to gain an advantage or to have control, that's not the way God intended it.
I might think more on this later, but I wanted to record this thought.
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