I started this blog soon after the death of my beautiful 17-year-old son, Hayden, as a way to deal with my grief. I titled it "Dear Hayden" because at first I wrote as if I was writing to him. My use of the word "dear" ended up being twofold: "used as an affectionate or friendly form of address" and "regarded with deep affection; cherished by someone." Many posts are saved quotes, song lyrics, Bible verses, poems, etc. with credit given to the actual authors as much as possible. Enjoy~
Thursday, February 29, 2024
Our job
It's not our job to convert people.
It's not our job to save people.
It's not our job to convict people.
It's not our job to convince people.
It's our job to tell people.
The convincing, convicting,
converting, and saving is the work
of the Holy Spirit.
~J.C. Ryle
Abounding mercy
"Do not look to human
strength, but look to the
abounding mercy of God
in Christ Jesus."
~Charles Spurgeon
Wednesday, February 28, 2024
Destroy me
Relatable...
If he asked,
I would let
him destroy me
cell by cell
until nothing but
dust and bone remained.
~There's Only After, Julie Anne Addicott
Monday, February 26, 2024
40 years
Moses spent 40 years thinking he was somebody;
40 learning he was nobody;
and 40 discovering what God can do with a nobody.
~D.L. Moody
Destructive capacity
From Flying Free Now
Do not dismiss the power or
destructive capacity of either
verbal or emotional abuse. Do not
think you cannot kill a soul with
words alone. Do not think, "Well,
at least he didn't hit her." Yes, he
did. He just didn't use his fists."
~Diane Langberg
Above water
You call this love?
This allowing me to drown
while I struggle to keep you
above water.
~L.E. Bowman
Genuinely love
When you genuinely love someone, the idea of
cheating doesn't even cross your mind. True love
means respecting and cherishing your partner, and
not causing them intentional pain. Breaking
someone's trust is breaking their soul. If you find
yourself unhappy, it's better to walk away than to
betray their trust. Cheating is not an act of love; it's a
clear sign of a lack of it. Simple as that.
~R.M. Drake
Can't wait
From she is the poem by june bates
I can't wait to live a good life with you.
To have coffee in the morning
and love in the afternoon.
To hold your hand.
To kiss your face.
To love you loudly,
in front of everyone
and then quiet again
just between us.
~on repeat
Wednesday, February 21, 2024
Such sacrifices
Saw this verse in two different places yesterday:
"And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased." Hebrews 13:16
Tuesday, February 20, 2024
Hides
The enemy likes
to hide wolves
inside sheep's
clothing
But that's okay
God hides lions
inside of lambs.
The sweet presence
rest in the sweet
presence of God
it's a tough day
He knows.
It's been a rough season
He has seen it all.
Your hidden heartaches are known to Him.
Your tears are seen. Your prayers are heard.
God has not forgotten you.
~joenasandiego
Your job
Your job is not to judge.
Your job is not to figure
out if someone deserves something.
Your job is to lift the fallen,
to restore the broken,
and to heal the hurting.
Your job is to give away kindness.
The strength
God didn't promise a life
without pain, struggles, and
hardships. He promised
to give you the strength to
get through them.
Who you are
Do things for people
not because who they
are, or what they do in
return, but because
of who you are.
Tuesday, February 13, 2024
The One
May the One who stilled the storm,
Still the disquiet within you.
May the One who tamed the chaos,
Tame the confusion within you.
May the One who lifted up the lowly,
Lift the despair within you.
May the One who named you beloved,
Name you and claim you and carry you,
In all ways, always. Amen.
Enumerate
From A.W. Tozer, The Root of the Righteous
In trying to
count our many
blessings the
difficulty is not
to find things to
count, but to
find time to
enumerate
them all.
Unspoken belief
From Flying Free Now
How did our church leaders
ever come to the (unspoken)
belief that
marriage was the one place
where evil behavior could
abound freely without
restraint?
~Lifesavingdivorce.com
Rememberers
We are the rememberers.
the people left behind.
to keep the one
who's gone from us
alive in heart and mind.
the people left to cherish
and preserve a legacy.
Yes, we are the rememberers...
and we will always be.