From Flying Free Now
One of the great traps of the narcissistic relationship is that
the narcissistic folks actually believe they are nice people.
They really do. It's part of their system of delusional
grandiosity, self-righteousness, and moral rectitude. This
would all be much easier of they walked around and owned it.
"Hey, I am a jerk and I believe everything should be all about
me, so just deal with it." Then, when they behaved badly or in
a manipulative manner, you may be a bit perturbed, but you
wouldn't be surprised, and you'd be far less likely to blame
yourself for their bad behavior. These are deeply asymmetric
relationships and you and the narcissistic person are playing
by different rules and expectations.
~Ramani Durvasula,
It's Not You Identifiying and Healing
from Narcissistic People
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