Victim's strengths

 From Flying Free

Abusers target victims for their strengths. Here they are:

1. She has the kind of character that puts the needs of others before her own.
2. When she makes a commitment, she sticks to it. She is faithful and trustworthy.
3. She takes responsibility for herself and those around her. She's a woman of integrity.
4. She is generous to a fault - giving more than she takes and doing it with pleasure.
5. She is kind and compassionate. Empathy oozes from her pores.
6. She is intuitive and sensitive to the emotional environment around her. She picks up on tone and body language, and she adjusts her approach accordingly.
7. She is forgiving. She will forgive and forgive and forgive - without being asked. Her love is deep and wide.
8. She is patient and long-suffering. She will endure the attacks of her abusive partner, believing in his potential as a human being.
9. She is courageous. She survives the rejection of her love and the dehumanization of her spirit, and still, she goes into each day with hope.
10. She is resourceful. She takes what she is given and multiplies it even though she is offered only criticism and rejection in return.
11. She doesn't want to betray her abuser. She is loyal and doesn't desire revenge. All she wants is to be treated with honor, as a human being.