Probably harming

 From Flying Free

There is a difference between helping

someone who is disabled, incapable, or

otherwise infirm versus helping someone

who is resisting growing up and taking care 

of what every adult (or child, for that

matter) has to be responsible for: herself 

or himself. When you find yourself in any

way paying for someone else's

responsibilities, not only are you stuck with

a delayed ending, but you are probably

harming that person.

~Henry Cloud