Abuse destroys

From Esther Company

I have come to see that the true crisis with marriages

in the church is not a divorce crisis but an abuse

crisis. If we had low divorce rates but high abuse

rates, how would that be success?

Here is what I know: many godly women are 

divorcing their husbands as a last resort after years

of abuse, pornography addiction, infidelity, lying, and

other destructive behaviors. These are not women 

who simply "fell out of love," were disappointed with 

marriage, or fell for another man.

No. They have prayed for years, done everything they

know to do, followed their church's advice, and 

fought to have a good marriage. Meanwhile, their

husband has broken the marriage covenant again

and again through his destructive behavior.

When a woman makes the difficult decision to

divorce her husband after years of ongoing abuse,

she is not the one who ruined the marriage. Let's be

clear: in the case of abuse, divorce is not what

destroyed the marriage. Abuse destroyed the 

marriage - divorce is simply the declaration that the

marriage has been destroyed