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 From Flying Free

So the church leaders will look with suspicion on 

the victim, seeing her as hysterical or maybe even

lying. They will listen to the abuser's story and 

believe and validate his defense. After all, he seems

so calm and logical and wounded by her

accusations. They'll feel bad for him, pray for him,

offer him free counseling to help with some of his

"minor issues that really aren't that big of a deal

and are only exacerbated by his unsubmissive,

angry, bitter wife." They will praise his efforts to

apologize and change.