Unhealthy boundaries

from Flying Free

Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries
-Telling all
-Talking at an intimate level on the first meeting
-Falling in love with a new acquaintance.

-Falling in love with anyone who reaches out.
-Being overwhelmed with a person - preoccupied.
-Acting on first sexual impulse.

-Being sexual for partner, not for self.
-Going against personal values or rights to please others.
-Not noticing when someone else displays inappropriate boundaries.

-Accepting food, gifts, touch, or sex that you don't want.
-Touching a person without asking.
-Taking as much as you can get for the sake of getting.

-Giving as much as you can give for the sake of giving.
-Allowing someone to take as much as they can from you.
-Letting others direct your life.

-Letting others describe your reality.
-Letting others define you.
-Believing others can anticipate your needs.

-Expecting others to fill your needs automatically.
-Falling apart so someone will take care of you.
-Being a "rock" in order to take care of someone else

ABUSE: Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, Social, Spiritual, Sexual, Verbal, Alcohol, Tobacco, Drugs, Food