When we begin to set boundaries with
people we love, a really hard thing
happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole
where you used to plug up their aloneness,
their disorganization, or their financial
irresponsibilty. Whatever it is, they will
feel a loss. If you love them, this will be
difficult for you to watch. But, when you
are dealing with someone who is hurting,
remember that your boundaries are both
necessary for you and helpful for them. If
you have been enabling them to be
irresponsible, your limit setting may
nudge them toward responsibility.
by Henry Cloud
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