Clueless

From Flying Free 
by Brenda Linn

CLUELESS?

You've had enough. He has not cared about you, your thoughts or your feelings. He has neglected you and your kids, big time. He has hurt you, belittled you and been so, so selfish. You've had enough.

You start to move toward divorce.

He is startled. Pleads with you not to ruin his life. Says that he just didn't understand! But now he is seeing the light. He had an 'Aha!' moment in the counselor's office. He wants you to give him time, a chance, some understanding.

He was clueless.

Have a heart!

Clueless people deserve our patience, sympathy and cooperation, y'know. And they just can't take responsibility for their actions, because clueless. And ya oughta feel guilty for wanting him to love you all that time, cuz it wasn't on purpose, he was just clueless! And all those times you tried to explain, or tell him how much you were hurting, he just didn't understand! Give the poor guy a break! He was clueless, that's all!

But now, now that you are ready to give up on him, teeny-tiny lights are coming on! He is slowly, gradually getting little bitty clues that maybe, just maybe, he didn't do a few things quite right.

He needs you to walk beside him. To help him while he grows. He needs you to lean on. You gotta take responsibility, cuz he's been terribly, woefully clueless for such a long, long time. He needs your looooovvvvve. He needs you to care. About him, him, HIM.

He's sad, can't you see that? Don't you care? Do you want to take responsibility for  wrecking everything, just cuz he is irresponsible, unloving and foolish? All those times he didn't care about you weren't his fault, cuz clueless. And he wants another chance. And another. And another.

In fact, if you would just turn over all your resources, maybe even your lifeblood to him, it would really help. It takes a lot to help clueless people, y'know. Lots and lots and lots. It takes everything.

And you never get anything back.