This was an article about Sheryl Sandberg who lost her billionaire husband suddenly. There were a lot of parts I liked, so here are some excerpts. It was written by Belinda Luscombe and appeared in Time magazine.
"I think when tragedy occurs, it presents a choice," she (Sheryl) wrote. "You can give in to the void, the emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even breathe. Or you can try to find meaning. These past 30 days, I have spent many of my moments lost in that void."
Ask the bereaved how they are that day: How are you today?
"I think a lot of people wanted to reach out to her, but they didn't know how," says Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg. "You know there's this whole question of, Are you reopening a wound or something? And of course, what she would say is, 'You're not reopening the wound. I mean, it's, like, open and gaping.'"
From Grant, a Wharton School professor: "Expressing emotion when you've gone through extreme pain is not weakness. It is humanity."
Keeping a journal is one of the activities she recommends to ease the grieving process.
There are three myths people cling to that make it harder to spring back from adversity. The first is that they're somehow responsible for what happened to them. The second is that sadness must carpet their lives from wall to wall. And the third is that they will never feel any better. ...the three p's: thinking about adversity as personal, pervasive and permanent.
Completely lost her self-confidence
She embraces joy in a way than she has before
Telling her kids he was gone: "nothing has come close to the pain of this moment. Even now when my mind wanders back, I shake my head and my throat constricts."
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