Obeying God no matter what

This topic isn't about you directly but it could apply to pretty much any situation we find ourselves in that we don't understand.

Last night at the Bible study with Nance, Mrs. Calder and Mrs. Johnson, the topic at hand took a very different turn and focused on the marriage problems that Mrs. J and I have experienced over the years with our respective Bills. It was somehow tied to the topic at hand which was writing a lament, and my lament was about my marriage and marriage in general, but Mrs. J. posed a question about divorce and the Christian and at what point are we deceiving ourselves by staying in a bad marriage. It sounds like Mr. J. is emotionally abusive like Dad and has made her life extremely unhappy as well.

We went back and forth in the conversation with Nance believing that God wants us to be happy, Mrs. Calder saying what about trying a separation, etc. I was thinking about it today and as I told them last night, I believe that if you choose to obey God that you will be rewarded. The marriage vows include, "for better or for worse." It's extremely cruel and unfair for our husbands to make it so "worse" but that was part of the deal of the commitment. Not when things start to go bad does that give us an "out" on that. You're supposed to stick it out. What these men are doing is WRONG. They are not supposed to be treating us that way. But that is their choice-a bad choice, but God gives us free will. We obviously didn't know what we were getting into at that young age when we got married, but the covenant still stands. Those words were said before God and before witnesses. What God has joined, let NO MAN put asunder. That includes the two people in the covenant.

This situation makes me think of people who are killed for their faith. Oops, there's danger, discomfort and unhappiness involved if I do what God has told me to do. Does this give us an "out" not to remain faithful? I think you need to be smart in an area where witnessing and going to church is illegal, but God needs to be obeyed first before man.

There's some measure of safety inside a marriage. Being exposed to the single world can open up a ton of problems. A persistent guy who is interested in you can't touch you when you're married. You expose your kids to whomever and whatever situation someone you're dating is involved in. Think of your young teenage daughter-how she just flops around in tiny shorts and towels, etc. That's fine around her own dad, but what about a strange man? All kinds of things can happen in that situation that your daughter should be protected from. Same with your son for that matter and any kids that a man could have.

I will probably write more about this at a later date. God's way is ALWAYS the best way. We have to trust in that. He knows what is best for us. Things could change in our situation down the line, but that is up to Him, not to us.